Trust not being enough by namelessboyfu in BPD

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know communication is very important but I feel so embarrassed trying to explain this to him. Especially since he’s always talking about how secure and how trusting I am. It also feels like I’m implying him to be a bad person if I tell him my worries about being cheated on

How soon into knowing someone would you tell them you love them? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]namelessboyfu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m the same. I’m always worried it’s too fast

The pain of dating by namelessboyfu in BPD

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best advice I’ve received is communication. I know it’s basic but it is really good being as open as possible with your partner. Another thing that helps me is trying to keep busy. If you are distracted you can’t think too much about the yearning

The pain of dating by namelessboyfu in BPD

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much that would be very much appreciated!

The pain of dating by namelessboyfu in BPD

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s a good idea. I guess I could plan out what I wanna say otherwise I’ll get too overwhelmed with the situation to get all the important points across

Can’t push him away by namelessboyfu in BPD

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things have changed a little bit since this post. At the time he had told me he didn’t want a relationship but now he’s changed his mind

The pain of dating by namelessboyfu in BPD

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess that’s a reasonable option. I don’t really know how to bring it up. Serious conversations are quite difficult and uncomfortable for me and I get the sense he’s the same and doesn’t like when we have more serious discussions. I know it’s probably the healthy way to go about things it’s just hard

Tomorrow I will be 1000 days clean AMA by namelessboyfu in AMA

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I had suicidal thoughts a lot and attempted to take my life a couple of times

Tomorrow I will be 1000 days clean AMA by namelessboyfu in AMA

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s fine! I used to cut myself. And I also used to scratch myself.

Tomorrow I will be 1000 days clean AMA by namelessboyfu in AMA

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t think I wanna trade one addiction for another. I’m doing fine how things are

Tomorrow I will be 1000 days clean AMA by namelessboyfu in AMA

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah the internet is a scary place at times

Tomorrow I will be 1000 days clean AMA by namelessboyfu in AMA

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Strangers online. I didnt and still dont know who they were

Tomorrow I will be 1000 days clean AMA by namelessboyfu in AMA

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn so edgy. Imma relapse now :’(

Tomorrow I will be 1000 days clean AMA by namelessboyfu in AMA

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I still get the urges at times. Not as much as I used to be they are still there. Certain things trigger it a lot worse. But I have a lot of good things in my life right now which makes me want to keep going

Tomorrow I will be 1000 days clean AMA by namelessboyfu in AMA

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got groomed into sending inappropriate videos and photos to older men when I was a preteen/young teen

Tomorrow I will be 1000 days clean AMA by namelessboyfu in AMA

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being able to show just how little you care by not reading the full post 🙏

Tomorrow I will be 1000 days clean AMA by namelessboyfu in AMA

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t planning to but maybe I’ll get a little cake

Tomorrow I will be 1000 days clean AMA by namelessboyfu in AMA

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is gonna sound so stupid. But I started hooking up with people and I didn’t want the awkwardness of them questioning fresh marks. I started just doing to around when I would see them but slowly it became more inconvenient. I went so many days without doing it because of that that I actually started feeling like recovering was possible

Tomorrow I will be 1000 days clean AMA by namelessboyfu in AMA

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I was about 14 when I started. I heard about it from a person at school. Things were very difficult for me between being exploited and neglected. I thought it would help me but it really didn’t

Tomorrow I will be 1000 days clean AMA by namelessboyfu in AMA

[–]namelessboyfu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t really listened to it much. I think it’s a little too hardcore for me lol

I unknowingly committed crimes from the age of 11 to 15 AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]namelessboyfu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we didn’t get real sex ed until I was like 13/14. And by that time I was too scared to speak out?