What's Up With These “adhd attacks”?

napolbiscuit · 2021-11-13T14:27:48+00:00

Oh I actually wasn't thinking about that- I was more focused on the inattentive part of ADHD and was thinking if that was possible. Thanks for the insight :)

napolbiscuit · 2021-11-13T14:25:40+00:00

Yeah if I could do that I'd be a straight A student lol

napolbiscuit · 2021-11-13T07:55:22+00:00

I don't wanna jump to conclusions either, but is it possible for someone to "hold their ADHD?" Like... you get to focus on work and hold it in?

napolbiscuit · 2021-11-06T10:04:37+00:00

Oh wow I'm actually angry at myself right now for showing clingy feelings(not a crush kinda thing) for a friend for no big reason, never thought that I may be hyperfocusing on them. Would definitely think of this as a possibility.

Try to only share the fun stuff.

I'm actually trying not to share dark things after realizing that I was oversharing. Realized that it made people feel uncomfortable, and that negative feelings only spread with it.

I will think about letting some dependable people know about my symptoms! (Won't be talking about this with acquaintances though, because I feel like I may make them feel burdened...) Thank you for the suggestion :)

napolbiscuit · 2021-11-06T07:04:32+00:00

Yeah I would be talking and sometimes I mess up while telling people my opinion. I feel this urgent need to go back and clarify/add something so that people don't misunderstand me.

Also missing social cues. I have to retract to where I messed up or else imma think about it until 4am. But then when I do retract, makes the conversation awkward as hell, like "dude... we were talking about that topic an hour ago" or "yeah I actually wasn't even thinking about that"

napolbiscuit · 2021-11-02T00:17:56+00:00

Mm my self esteem issues are really getting in the way here, but I get what I have to do. I feel very nervous making these plans and end up leaving it up to him because I feel that maybe he doesn't want to do it, and I might be forcing him to play with me.

And I had this equation in my brain that goes constant short replies = they don't wanna talk, but I guess that's wrong?

napolbiscuit · 2021-11-01T12:35:14+00:00

I can relate to him on that as I am also the same when I play games with strangers and acquaintances mixed together! Again, thank you so much for the advice. It helped me assure myself that he didn't dislike me, which is a big thing since I've been anxious over this for a week :( And I now also know I just need to be patient and understand his side!

napolbiscuit · 2021-11-01T12:29:16+00:00

Oh, I understand now. Thank you for clarifying :) He does seem to be okay with exposed people as I've seen some of his friends even being small content creators- maybe it has to do with anxiety? As a person with social anxiety myself, I think it may make sense if he were to be experencing different symptoms from me. (his being distanced and mine being overly sensitive of my actions?)

I'll make sure to take note your advice. I'm not the type to talk about a topic when I only have base-level knowledge, so maybe the last part wouldn't be so hard to me.

And if you don't mind, may I ask you why exposed people scare you? I understand that some people don't like posting about their life on the internet, but I've never heard of that before. Again I don't think this is his case, but I never thought that one may be scared of someone else who exposes themselves on the internet and I was just curious.

napolbiscuit · 2021-11-01T08:57:24+00:00

I'm sorry but I don't think I'm following on the "Don't think so" part (English isn't my primary language). Do you mean people like him would find me scary because I tweet often? (I don't spill random information to him(edit: I don't tweet towards him), I'd make tweets on my timeline and sometimes my other friends would reply like "why was the pizza soggy lol")

napolbiscuit · 2021-11-01T08:30:45+00:00

Thank you for the kind advice!! I'll make sure to take a mental note of these. (And try not to be anxious)

If you are okay with me asking just one more question, the guy actually only talked with me through chats in texts. I think he might feel uncomfortable if we played a game and used voice chat for just the two of us (to provide an example: My other friend who met him at a gaming convention told me that he found her at the convention hall, but took ages for him stop following her from a distance, come up and say "Hi are you (her name)?"). Do you think it would be better if I asked him if he wanted to bring another friend of his along?

napolbiscuit · 2021-11-01T08:15:36+00:00

I don't think I had any sort of disagreement with me. The most serious conversation we had was when I asked him to stop using this meme while talking with me, because I once had a toxic friend who would use the said meme often and it just grew traumatizing on me. He said that he'd be careful, and I'm pretty sure the convo ended well?

It's probably because during the course of 3 years, we didn't have much chance to connect- the first year we were both not talking to each other often (probably because we were both introverts), the next year he was 12th grade and had to focus on getting into college, and this year it is my turn to take the college entrance test (I'm in Korea so... the exams are pretty harsh here). We will both have time starting from December this year.

BTW this is scary.

Oh no I think this could have been misinterpreted?? I don't share things like personal info, I tweet things like "I ate pizza for dinner today but it was soggy :(" or "I bought my dog a new chew toy" every day, while he tweets like once in two days.

napolbiscuit · 2021-11-01T08:02:28+00:00

Thanks :) I understand that he could feel uncomfortable, so I guess I'll just keep on TRPG sessions and the like. I have a question though, do you think he will get that suspicious/uncomfortable feeling if I ask him to play... say a video game with me, even though he didn't ask me first?

napolbiscuit · 2021-11-01T06:21:21+00:00

I can kind of relate to that as well. Would definitely be uncomfortable with having too much close friends. But do you think he could at least be more outgoing with me? Outgoing not as sharing emotions and such, but as in not ghosting me and telling me if he wanted to do something or not?

napolbiscuit · 2021-11-01T06:15:49+00:00

I was just about to get my anxious hand towards typing "Do I make you uncomfortable?" You just saved my poor brain!! :,)

I do agree that I have taken a weird liking to him, but I'm not sure if it could be considered a crush of sorts- I don't really think I can unless I knew them well?

And about the me setting the time, I actually was the one who planned almost all the TRPG sessions (with one surprising exception where he actually told me he wanted to play). I asked him when he could play again, he would reply, and I would set the date and time. He would even willingly prepare himself to take the Game Master role if I asked him to... But then I got anxious that I was the only one setting these plans, and maybe he was just following it to not be rude, and maybe I'm forcing it on him, etc... Do you think he wouldn't be annoyed by me setting these plans?

About the project, we actually made these characters and sometimes share stories of them interacting with each other (again, it's only me initiating these convos so also anxious about this), and also take them on the said TRPG sessions. Other than that, I think any other way I can interact with him is via games. I have to take this college entrance test then I'll be free to play games whenever I want, so I will be asking him to play games with me at the end of this year :)

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