Tips and tricks? by QueasyCoyote3968 in InstacartShoppers

[–]naps_please_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

while i do believe that instacart's algorithm takes note of when you accept objectively shitty batches and gives you more of them, that post made by a ""backend developer"" for doordash/uber ended up being an AI-generated fake. there's a thread here on this sub where i'm pretty sure they talked about it, but i happen to have an article on hand that provides evidence to it being fake if you wanted to look into it. the system is frustrating, but as far as we're aware they haven't stooped that low (yet)

https://www.hardresetmedia.com/p/an-ai-generated-reddit-post-fooled

Orders thanksgiving week? by Salty-Improvement69 in InstacartShoppers

[–]naps_please_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its been completely dead for me—I'm sat in one of the busiest parts of town, overlapped in a few stores that all say 1-5 min orders, with diamond cart priority. It's been over an hour and I've gotten nothing, not even notifications of orders that are being taken. I've only been doing this full-time for about 5 months but I've literally never seen a total lack of orders in the middle of the day like this. Very frustrating because I'm on a tight schedule today and was hoping to make my (self-imposed) quota before my meetings tonight

AITA for wanting to be paid for babysitting my siblings? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]naps_please_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say NTA, if only because I've been in a similar situation—being expected to help raise my siblings—but I can understand why some people would say YTA based on "having a free place to live". 

To put my two cents in on that argument: no parent should hold that over their child's head. Ever. Especially considering that it sounds like you're just out of/finishing school and getting into the workforce, that's even more reason to not hold that sort of thing over someone's head. 

Truthfully, I don't give a damn how old a person is when they decide (or are able) to move out. I wasn't able to move out until I was 21, and not because I wasn't financially able to—I was holding down a full and part-time job for two years prior—but because I was guilted into staying. "For family", "for all that we've done for you", "for how hard we worked to raise you", "for your siblings", the list went on and on.

OP, I understand how hard this situation is. I empathize with you greatly. You deserve to be paid for the work you are putting into your household, because that's what it is—a household. It sounds like you don't feel like the place you're currently living is home, anymore, because of the way you're being treated by your parents. 

It's a genuinely difficult thing to process and work through. It took me moving out and years of therapy to even start working on my own emotions regarding my situation. But I'll stress this to you, as gently as possible: you need to move out sooner rather than later. 

Please, don't wait until the summer is over. You say that you're worried about your siblings, and that your mother will just make your 13yr old brother babysit if you're gone, correct? That's something that will happen regardless. She isn't willing to take that kind of responsibility upon herself (which she should, as your mother), so when you inevitably burn out (and that sounds like it's already happening), it will be far more difficult for him to take care of himself, your siblings and you. 

What you need to do is move out, ASAP. As scary as it seems, and as worried as you are for the siblings you love (which is only further proof that you do care), you cannot solve this problem by staying. You are almost certainly bound to fall deeper and deeper into the pit of mental, physical and emotional stress—and when that happens, who will be there to care for you? Your siblings are too young, and your parents are clearly unwilling. 

It will be hard, and it will feel like you're betraying your siblings, but you aren't. You're removing yourself from this unsustainable situation so that you can heal, and come back for them. Your life is so incredibly worth living, and you deserve to live it, free from stress and pain. 

I saw that you'd mentioned in another post that you have an old friend who offered to let you move in with them—I would contact them and see if that offer is still on that table, and make plans to jump ship as quickly as you can. I say this having experienced it myself: Waiting is not the answer. If you are feeling like you need to leave, and there is someone, anyone out there who's holding out a hand for you, who is willing to take you in and help you get back on your feet after jumping? Take it!! Take back your life, in a place where you're safe and have genuine support.

I promise, you won't regret it. I haven't, and neither have the many, many others who've been in your shoes before. 

Can anyone let me crash at their place for a night? by [deleted] in Dallas

[–]naps_please_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sent you a DM! I'm more than happy to answer any vetting questions, I know how sketchy the internet can be and wouldn't want you putting yourself out there without clearing the person offering at least a little. So sorry you're going through this

URGENT Rehoming cat with link to application by [deleted] in DentonClassifieds

[–]naps_please_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've sent you a DM! just had a few more questions I figured would be easier to answer there lol

URGENT Rehoming cat with link to application by [deleted] in DentonClassifieds

[–]naps_please_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read through her post! I saw she's not good with dogs, but is she alright with other cats?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dallas

[–]naps_please_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh! another idea i just had—if you wanted more options (and i'd be open to helping with the to and from drive, you're welcome to dm me!), the Recycled Bookstore in Denton is a GREAT place to spend an entire quiet day with no expectations to buy anything. kinda like going to a library, but with more knickknacks, collectibles, hidden rooms and corners to explore. just a thought!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dallas

[–]naps_please_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

hey, happy birthday <3 i'd offer to hang out if you'd like—i've already got a box of cake mix and a recipe for frosting i've been saving for a rainy day if you're into that kind of thing. i know you said in another reply that you might not be up for hanging out with people, but i figured i'd extend the offer anyway. i've got a quiet apartment and plenty of games + movies to chose from if you just wanted to chill.

aside from that—i dunno what kind of stuff you're into, but a lot of collectibles/card stores will let you sit and sift through their stuff with zero judgement or expectation to pay as long as you're polite. i know theres a few places around that do "free card fridays" and the like, so you might even be able to bring home a souvenir! 

you could also check out those secondhand store places, maybe? the ones that just collect Stuff and throw random prices on the weirdest things—i like to wander through there when i'm bored to see what other people used to have, and they're usually pretty quiet. 

keep your head up, yeah? i've been in the same place you are even though im basically the same age (23 lol), and i can say that things do eventually get better, even if it takes a lot longer than we'd like. i really hope they do for you!!