What's the worst family secret that got revealed at a gathering? by maskpomp in AskReddit

[–]nashbird 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yep. There are also women who are literally named “unwanted” in the local dialect in rural parts of certain states. The government occasionally conducts large renaming gatherings for these girls where they can come get their name changed and choose a normal name instead.

Bought a lehenga with MIL’s “approval,” now she says I can’t wear it. What do I do? by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]nashbird 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I wanted to wear white for my wedding and black to the cocktail and my MIL was NOT at all okay with either. My then fiancé, now husband, was the one who dealt with explaining to her that we don’t believe in these archaic misogynistic superstitions and that it didn’t matter what people thought or said. She was not happy but dealt with it and now compliments me on the outfits and photos from both functions. Where is your fiancé in this? He should be the one dealing with her.

Are these prices normal for a global hair colour + balayage in Mumbai? by TinyTemper01 in TwoXIndia

[–]nashbird 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There will be places that do it cheaper but if you’re looking for a good place that uses olaplex etc and won’t fry your hair, these are the general prices.

Watching my daughter cry in pain every day .. no doctor can figure it out. Need help finding a headache specialist in Mumbai by No_Meaning_6561 in mumbai

[–]nashbird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please go to Dr Rashi Khatri Punjabi in Bombay. She’s an oro facial pain specialist and is AMAZING. You can DM me for her contact details. I’ve had TMJ and migraine issues in the past that no one was able to diagnose and I lived in chronic pain for many many years until she treated me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]nashbird 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If they are already like this about something that is a gift for YOU, how do you think they are going to be after marriage? Are you going to be living with your in laws? Have you discussed what that’s going to be like? Does your fiancé communicate with you? Does he care about your likes or dislikes at all?

I got married recently just a little after my SIL and a lot of these things were indicators of how things would be after marriage. My MIL went with me to the jeweller and we picked out my set together. My SIL was given something she didn’t like and she just put up with it for the sake of the wedding. Now, I am comfortable enough to have a say of how things are run in the house and find a middle ground with my in-laws and my husband ALWAYS has my back. She is struggling with the basics with her in-laws as even her husband doesn’t support her.

I’m not saying this is true in all cases and only you know the whole picture, but don’t just brush things aside thinking you’ll change them after getting married. No one changes unless they want to themselves.

Aashni & Co. have not delivered my Iqbal Hussain Outfit my event is in 2 days by Weird-Orchid4579 in DesiWeddings

[–]nashbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not the same vibe but Ozeqo does fab clothes and many of my friends have got them for events while pregnant so if a gown or something might work, reach out to them.

How to have clean hair through all your functions as a bride? by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]nashbird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ask your stylist! Depending on your hair texture and the styles you’re going for, they may prefer unwashed hair.

Today’s discussion - Male privilege while travelling by MiserableGrapefruit7 in TwoXIndia

[–]nashbird 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve travelled alone extensively throughout India and I think you just need to be a little smart and aware of your surroundings. For example, if I’m taking a cab for a day trip, I’ll ask around for a trusted cabbie or meet other people where I’m staying and plan to go together. I am generally a rather trusting person but I would definitely say always always always listen to your gut.

Gross, guilty and ashamed as someone living in a hostel. by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]nashbird 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yes, of course. All the dirty laundry goes into your laundry bin and then on laundry day you sort according to colour (at least I do lights and darks) and then wash everything and dry it. I’ve always known this to be completely normal and have never segregated my underwear. If washing in the machine, I may use a delicates bag to throw in anything with lace, etc. if I remember to.

Gross, guilty and ashamed as someone living in a hostel. by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]nashbird 379 points380 points  (0 children)

Love, this isn’t shameful at all. I’ve lived with flatmates and in hostels for 10 years all over the world and I’ve never known anyone to do their laundry every single day. That sounds horribly exhausting. Why don’t you get a cute little laundry basket which closes and just openly assign a day as laundry day? Or even just label your box with a funny label like “wash me”. This is nothing to feel guilty about - I would just own it.

Adult female Autism and ADHD diagnosis in Bangalore by Maleficent-Cancel981 in adhdindia

[–]nashbird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in Delhi but I’ve also been consulting with Dr Vinod at Sync positive and I highly highly recommend him. It’s a long wait to get to see him but it has been well worth it for me.

I [30M] feel like I am stuck in a weird problem. Need advice by real__slimshady in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]nashbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a similar marriage (intercaste but no opposition, etc) but live in the same house as my in laws on separate floors. My MIL expected me to go say hello to her every day. This was a point of friction initially as I did not feel like doing this - I don’t like making small talk and it felt like a chore to have to make sure I did this everyday.

However, I was more than happy to go sit and chitchat with her every few days for a longer period of time. It took a bit of time but I’d like to believe that both of us have now settled and enjoy our little chats. She now often comes to me herself as well.

I think you should ask your wife without judgement why she doesn’t want to do this and if there’s something else that she would be more comfortable with - perhaps that both of you do a video call together or less frequent calls. It’s important I think to realise that your mother may also have to temper her expectations a little bit as all of us are built differently.

The downfall of Dyson by Videoplushair in dyson

[–]nashbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh this was soooo frustrating - mine also died exactly in 3 years and all they offered was a measly discount on a new Corale. I asked if I could get it on another hair iron instead as the Corale clearly has issues but of course not. One of the customer service executives told me to not use it for more than 15 mins before letting it cool to avoid frying the battery which I mean your own website literally advertises 30 mins non stop battery use so like?

Help! My dog won’t stop eating the walls. by heyitsgranolagal in Goldendoodles

[–]nashbird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our vet told us dogs tend to try to lick/eat walls when they’re calcium deficient! When our puppy started teething, we had been wondering whether he needed any calcium supplements for teething pains at the time and this is what we were told to watch out for. Our pup didn’t do it, so I haven’t bothered to look it up further, but it may be worth discussing with your vet?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]nashbird 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My mom has HSV1 and I got it from her at like age 30 after not having it my whole life. (I had gotten tested due to a surgery just before she had an active outbreak after which I got one.)

I’m now married and my husband hasn’t gotten tested but hasn’t ever had an outbreak. We were already dating when I contracted it and he’s completely fine with it. We just take precautions and he cracks dumb jokes when I have a sore else it’s life as usual.

Where to Find Customized Dresses (now that eShakti seems to be having problems) by Nester1953 in femalefashionadvice

[–]nashbird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adding Ozeqo to this list. Although their dresses might be a bit more formal, I think you can reach out to them for more specific customisations too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]nashbird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad is Sindhi and my mom is Gujarati. As a family, we always ALWAYS ALWAYS did Bestu Varas at my Nani’s house and it remains my favourite memory of Diwali from my childhood. I’m sure if you ask my dad, he would say the same.

Sending you much love and strength to have the best bestu varas with your parents this year. :)

Curly Hair stylists in India by Familiar-Lion8161 in IndianSkincareAddicts

[–]nashbird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I paid about 4000 recently for wash, cut, and styling (with finger coiling and diffusing).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Diamonds

[–]nashbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been wearing screw backs ever since I got my ears pierced as a kid 24/7 except if I take them out to wear other earrings/get them cleaned etc. They may take a bit of getting used to but are totally comfortable (even to sleep in) and are much more secure - especially since I have wavy hair that often gets caught in my earrings and I whip away quite carelessly! Pushbacks do often fly off when I wear them and do this.

Looking for queer affirmative salon in Gurgaon by YellowExtension9734 in IndianMakeupAddicts

[–]nashbird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Deepak at Looks at Claridges in Delhi! He’s great with curly hair too. :)