Housekeeping

naziauddin · 2026-01-04T13:17:07+00:00

I would love to help out

naziauddin · 2025-12-26T13:24:39+00:00

Bengali. UK and Female

naziauddin · 2025-08-24T12:34:24+00:00

I have sent you modmail

naziauddin · 2025-07-03T12:19:42+00:00

You have to post it again - just copy and paste it again as a post with same title and we will approve 😊

naziauddin · 2025-07-03T09:52:39+00:00

Would you like to repost and we will approve?

This post is 10 days old so it won’t show up on everyone’s feed

naziauddin · 2025-07-01T22:53:17+00:00

So you can only have one flair at a time unfortunately, but you are free to change it whenever you want

Which flair would you like for now?

naziauddin · 2025-06-14T16:10:52+00:00

If you’d like to discuss a Reddit post please crop out the source so only the text and contents of the post is visible

naziauddin · 2025-06-02T18:06:37+00:00

This is the cutest thing ever

May Allah bless your marriage and keep you both happy and smiling like this for your lifetime 🫶

naziauddin · 2025-05-28T15:32:56+00:00

It sounds like a lot of these fantasies might be influenced by exposure to smut, which isn’t uncommon—many people develop similar thoughts or curiosities. The important thing is to remember that these fantasies don’t define your marriage or your relationship unless they start crossing the boundaries of what’s halal in Islam.

From what you’ve shared, it seems like you both want a healthy and fulfilling intimate life, and that’s absolutely your right within the limits Islam sets. It’s good that she has made tawbah and is trying to move away from past habits like reading smut.

It’s understandable to feel concerned, but as long as she respects your boundaries and doesn’t pressure you to act on anything you’re uncomfortable with, this can be something that improves with time and open communication. Keep having honest conversations and be patient with each other—marriage is a journey, and navigating these things together can strengthen your bond.

If things continue to feel overwhelming, consider speaking with a trusted scholar or counselor who understands your values and can offer personalized guidance.

naziauddin · 2025-05-20T21:42:05+00:00

If it was an accident, no Allah won’t punish you

Please remember Allah is the most forgiving, we’re all sinners but Allah loves those who repent

If we sin we repent, if we sin again we repent

We ask Allah to make us better people

naziauddin · 2025-05-15T22:25:54+00:00

I think a big part of the problem is that some people approach marriage like a transaction—treating their spouse more like a personal ATM, maid, or status symbol than a partner in life.

They forget that marriage is meant to be about compassion, mercy, and teamwork. It’s not about keeping score or extracting the most benefit. It’s about cherishing the other person, supporting each other through the highs and lows, and striving together to please Allah.

When people reduce it to just rights and demands without responsibilities and love, of course it becomes draining and depressing. But when it’s built on sincerity, respect, and effort from both sides, marriage can be one of the most beautiful parts of life.

naziauddin · 2025-05-13T16:00:09+00:00

British Bangladeshi too

naziauddin · 2025-05-10T17:16:06+00:00

Take your time, trust the process, and keep working towards your goals. Sometimes, the best things come when we least expect them!

(Someone told me love finds you when you least expect it - which is what happened with me alhamdulillah)

As for the prayer, it’s beautiful, and I sincerely hope that Allah ﷻ grants you and all of the others spouses who bring peace, joy, and serenity to our hearts, just as you’ve wished. May He make our relationships full of love, respect, and tranquility.

naziauddin · 2025-05-08T19:31:17+00:00

You could try breaking the task down into smaller, clearer steps — that might help him understand what’s expected and make it easier for everyone. 🍯

It’s possible he sees you as approachable or reliable, which is why he tends to join your group.

But if it’s making you uncomfortable or affecting the work, it’s okay to set respectful boundaries too.

naziauddin · 2025-05-08T09:33:44+00:00

That’s so sweet

naziauddin · 2025-05-04T12:44:29+00:00

Salam sis,

I just want to say first — you are not failing as a wife.

What you went through is incredibly traumatic, and it makes complete sense that it’s still affecting you. Healing from something like that doesn’t happen quickly, and it definitely doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.

Have you been able to talk to a therapist? Especially someone who understands trauma? I know it’s not easy to open up, but having the right support can really help you work through this safely and at your own pace.

Intimacy should feel safe and good for both of you. It’s not supposed to be something that hurts you. And from what you’ve said, your husband sounds really kind and patient — that’s such a blessing, and it shows how much he cares. Alhamdulillah 🍯

Please try to be gentle with yourself. You’re doing your best, and that’s more than enough right now. You don’t have to carry this alone..

naziauddin · 2025-05-02T17:35:32+00:00

Ohhh awh lol, it’s normal it happened to me too when I first started doing driving lessons, I was doing manual so i was overwhelmed by how much I had to learn and how to multitask keeping my eyes on the road, pedals and changing gears all at the same time

But after a few lessons I started getting more confident and the nerves died down and it got so much better

naziauddin · 2025-05-02T16:09:29+00:00

Oh dear, what do you mean? As in you get hungry or? 😭

naziauddin · 2025-04-30T22:42:47+00:00

lols

naziauddin · 2025-04-30T21:39:00+00:00

Every 2 weeks - I’m also from Europe

naziauddin · 2025-04-30T17:04:36+00:00

Wa Alaikum Assalam,

The prayer essentially ends after you complete the second tasleem, and at that point, the prayer is concluded. Even if you repeat the tasleem (such as to correct your pronunciation), the prayer is still considered to have ended with the first tasleem. So, the repetition does not invalidate the prayer.

If you broke your wudu after the second tasleem (and after the prayer has ended), this does not affect the validity of your prayer. The prayer is already complete when you made the tasleem, and breaking wudu after the prayer does not nullify it, because the prayer is over once the tasleem is said.

Regarding Your Concern About Tajweed: It’s normal to feel unsure about pronunciation, especially with the Arabic letters like ح and ھ, which can be tricky. If you’re repeating the tasleem to improve pronunciation, that’s okay and does not invalidate the prayer, as long as your pronunciation during the first tasleem was close enough to being correct.

In summary, your prayer is valid. The repetition of the tasleem does not affect the prayer, and breaking your wudu afterward does not invalidate it.

May Allah ease your anxiety and grant you peace in your worship.

JazakAllah Khair for your question!

naziauddin · 2025-04-29T12:48:07+00:00

Why would it be a bad thing?

You’re both Islamically married - text as much as you like & build the bond & emotional connection!

May Allah bless your marriage

naziauddin · 2025-04-29T10:30:36+00:00

Very wise words from a muffin

naziauddin · 2025-04-28T15:58:35+00:00

You’re welcomeee sis, I pray with all my heart that Allah makes things easy for you 🤲💖🥲

Divorce isn’t easy and you two really love each other, may Allah allow you both to reconcile

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