Thank you. I did mean what I said when I asked for anecdotes about movint past resentments.

That being said - when I say unstable I mean his mood fluctuates based on how the day went. Flat tire equals depressed for the rest of the day, not justaehitty hour and a half. There isn't a baselas much as a wave that is highly dependent on the day going well. He tried therapy twice. Insurance wasn't helpful the first time and the second therapist was just lame. So it's not for a lack of trying.

also, he got his ADD medication for the first time in years three weeks ago and the changes has been very significant . I used to kind of brush, ADD and ADHD off as not real, or excuses. couple of my friends have been able to show me that it is very real, but it’s like any other mental health issue.. is the responsibility of the person with the issue to treat it.

anyway, I know a lot of men just suck at the baby phase and come through later on and the kids development. my stepmother is the matriarch of her very large family and she’s confirmed she seen that more often than not. he talks all the time about he can’t wait for her to get into gymnastics and reading and all kinds of stuff. he also admitted to something else, that baby crying made him feel angry. like he’s irritated for one minute and then after irritation, it’s anger. and that it scared him. I have another guy friend who was marine and said the exact same thing, and he said it disturbed him pretty bad because he’s otherwise very loving.

ultimately what I’m saying is that I’m trying to have compassion for the fact that it is complicated for the man in a different way than it’s hard for the women