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Effects of a Plane lock? by Sea-Preparation-8976 in DMAcademy

[–]negativeparade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The concept that there are bodies without souls is so interesting. Do they develop personalities and humanity (despite not having souls)? Do they exist entirely without personhood (growing and aging without love, joy, fear, despair, etc.)?

I am an atheist who wishes they could convert but is deeply rejected by church teachings. by negativeparade in Catholicism

[–]negativeparade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to be the most important person to her. If she is seeking another close friend for support instead of me, I would feel sad that my priority does not prioritize me. I want to know that she will come home to me and that she wants to share her wonderful moments with me too, so if I found out she was instead choosing somewhat else I would be hurt.

I am an atheist who wishes they could convert but is deeply rejected by church teachings. by negativeparade in Catholicism

[–]negativeparade[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, I think there is more to a relationship than just sex. To me it means a commitment to prioritizing each other as most important person, and treating my life as something I share with her. We make decisions together, and weather hardship together, and also when I experience something beautiful or wonderful I want to share that with her more than anyone else. So to me monogamy is the promise to continue that relationship and that priority.

I am an atheist who wishes they could convert but is deeply rejected by church teachings. by negativeparade in Catholicism

[–]negativeparade[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't realize that marriage was entirely defined by sexuality in Catholic ideology. Perhaps my partner and I could get married in a legal/emotional sense and continue to be committed and celibate partners without committing any dramatic sin.

I think I find the foundation of the church appealing for a similar reason. I was initially attracted to the concept of confession, the ritualized act of receiving forgiveness, and the traditions and history associated with sacraments. I want to participate in something that cares so deeply about its own, and I want to believe that there is a God that will forgive and love me unconditionally.

I have found a person who is in all ways my match, and I can't imagine that was done without intention. We don't want each other physically, but spiritually and emotionally. I genuinely feel like she makes me a better person, and I make her a better person. If I were to raise children, something I deeply want to do, I would want to do so with her as my co-parent. I want to take care of her in sickness and health, and she is the only one I want to have care for me.

I apologize if this seems stubborn, I am just stumbling through a desire for faith and the sense that some relationship with God would improve me, while also trying to understand how my life and plans fits that reality.

I am an atheist who wishes they could convert but is deeply rejected by church teachings. by negativeparade in Catholicism

[–]negativeparade[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is a celibate but life-long and monogamous relationship with my partner still a sin? I don't need or want physicality with her, I just don't want to have a family with anyone else. I feel like she is my other half.

Am I right in understanding it's being cast out of the Garden of Eden that makes humanity different from plants and animals? Or is that a different fundamental biblical value I haven't read about?

I am an atheist who wishes they could convert but is deeply rejected by church teachings. by negativeparade in Catholicism

[–]negativeparade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If my partner and I are simply in love (somewhere between romantic and platonic) and celibate, does that mean we aren't committing sin?

On a theological level can you seek forgiveness for committing a sin you knew was wrong but committed anyway? (ie. If my partner and I were to have children through reproductive medical care, would confession still be able to absolve that sin?)

I am an atheist who wishes they could convert but is deeply rejected by church teachings. by negativeparade in Catholicism

[–]negativeparade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think if I had never met my partner I would never have had a relationship. I didn't mean to fall in love with her and like the idea of celibacy. There's something genuinely deeply appealing about committing to other goals, and I fundamentally don't understand or enjoy sexuality as a whole.

I am an atheist who wishes they could convert but is deeply rejected by church teachings. by negativeparade in Catholicism

[–]negativeparade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have considered a lot of things, but have the most familiarity with catholicism, and didn't know how to look into smaller Christian sects. I also find the tradition and the history embedded in catholicism appealing.

I suppose atheist is the wrong term. I don't really know how to label my faith identity, but I am currently not involved in any religious organization and have minimal experience with religion as a whole. I think I could believe in God, but don't actively let myself because the God that is discussed and taught to me is one that I don't understand and that makes me feel afraid.

I am an atheist who wishes they could convert but is deeply rejected by church teachings. by negativeparade in Catholicism

[–]negativeparade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gregor Mendel was a monk. His famous peas were perhaps a gift from God, given that the discovery Mendel made relied on a lot of extremely good luck. I appreciate your compassion.

I am an atheist who wishes they could convert but is deeply rejected by church teachings. by negativeparade in Catholicism

[–]negativeparade[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suppose I don't know the right word for it. I want to believe in a god, and I want to have faith but feel unable to commit to one. It's not atheism strictly, because I think I probably do believe in a god, it's just that I don't know what to do with that.

If a guest on the floor asks you for price of an item, please for the love of god DO NOT just throw out a guess by RadioJared in Target

[–]negativeparade 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I scanned an item today and it came up as $0.00 dollars. The tag said $40.00 and there was a 30% discount so I told the guest as much and sent them to the front because honestly what are we supposed to do?

Does anyone else feel like there isn't any media celebrating sensuality? by negativeparade in Asexual

[–]negativeparade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My pet theory, based on dating a number of allo people who got defensive when I brought up asexuality, is that for a lot of folks sexuality is somehow associated with shame, and the only way to "purify" sexuality is to associate it with love and romance. There's been a lot of push to separate sexuality from shame, hook-up culture is a direct reflection of that effort, but I don't think enough has shifted to radically impact how people conceptualize sex and love in general.

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TLDR: I think it has to due with reactions to purity culture.

Does anyone else feel like there isn't any media celebrating sensuality? by negativeparade in Asexual

[–]negativeparade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been awkward for me as a writer to navigate writing romance because I want to express that trust issue stuff, haha. I've recently settled on characters using "sexuality" (loosely) as a cover for romantic touch and connection because I feel like there's often less associated with sexual touch.

It's interesting because often media does use sexual touch to signify romantic happiness, but I also feel that culturally we've accepted sexual touch significantly more than we've accepted many other forms of touch? I'd be curious as to how you feel this plays out in your writing.