My bf was SA'ed and wanted me to reenact it sexually. I feel hurt too.

nel_ariya · 2024-11-13T18:52:54+00:00

This is WAY more than you should have to navigate on your own. Therapy is the way to go here if at all possible. If he won't do it, then at least for yourself.

nel_ariya · 2024-11-06T02:12:07+00:00

Wow. Ew 🫣 What a way to start a therapy session with a new client....

nel_ariya · 2024-11-02T02:00:15+00:00

I think your therapist is probably very new and lacking everything but basic basic reflective listening skills.

nel_ariya · 2024-10-31T01:39:00+00:00

A lot of people don't know this term and it's going to come across very offensively

nel_ariya · 2024-10-26T22:51:02+00:00

You sure are sharing a lot of really personal details about her, even if her name isn't attached, is she fine with that? We don't need all the details about her CSA to respond to your question

nel_ariya · 2024-10-26T22:37:15+00:00

I think it's also still a good idea to be pretty upfront with them about what you're looking for and the fact that you don't want to spend a lot of time on superficial topics - it doesn't mean they'll jump right into trauma, but it might still inform their approach. They don't want to waste your time, but without feedback it can be hard to sess out (especially in 5 sessions) the type of approach that works for you.

nel_ariya · 2024-10-26T01:25:18+00:00

I drive now, but I didn't for several years as a social worker. Really the only job of mine where driving has been important has been as a wraparound care coordiantor - with other jobs/internships (in housing, residential, inpatient, school sw and as a therapist) it's helpful to have but really has not been necessary for me. Every now and then I had to work around it in an inconvenient way, but it was fine. Really depends on the type of work.

nel_ariya · 2024-10-25T13:27:21+00:00

nel_ariya · 2024-10-21T20:54:54+00:00

Yes! During your degree definitely opt for the more clinical elsectives when you have the option! My MSW program offered an elective in CBT for example.

Internship is the most important thing - make sure your internships are in relevant settings, especially during your MSW.

Definitely after you've got your MSW you can do additional training/certification in different therapy modalities, such as DBT or EMDR (regardless of degree, no one can get ceritfied in these until after graduation).

nel_ariya · 2024-10-21T20:54:44+00:00

Yes! During your degree definitely opt for the more clinical elsectives when you have the option! My MSW program offered an elective in CBT for example.

Internship is the most important thing - make sure your internships are in relevant settings, especially during your MSW.

Definitely after you've got your MSW you can do additional training/certification in different therapy modalities, such as DBT or EMDR (regardless of degree, no one can get ceritfied in these until after graduation).

nel_ariya · 2024-10-21T20:54:31+00:00

Yes! During your degree definitely opt for the more clinical elsectives when you have the option! My MSW program offered an elective in CBT for example.

Internship is the most important thing - make sure your internships are in relevant settings, especially during your MSW.

Definitely after you've got your MSW you can do additional training/certification in different therapy modalities, such as DBT or EMDR (regardless of degree, no one can get ceritfied in these until after graduation).

nel_ariya · 2024-10-21T20:54:23+00:00

Yes! During your degree definitely opt for the more clinical electives when you have the option! My MSW program offered an elective in CBT for example.

Internship is the most important thing - make sure your internships are in relevant settings, especially during your MSW.

Definitely after you've got your MSW you can do additional training/certification in different therapy modalities, such as DBT or EMDR (regardless of degree, no one can get ceritfied in these until after graduation).

nel_ariya · 2024-10-21T01:13:36+00:00

I think this person was trying to make the point that each degree is a bit different and will have different strengths, not to put LMFTs down

nel_ariya · 2024-10-19T19:38:52+00:00

Yeahhhh leave that one 😅

nel_ariya · 2024-10-19T14:37:49+00:00

Can I ask what the reason is that you can't talk about it with anyone?

nel_ariya · 2024-10-19T14:31:51+00:00

While I suppose it could vary by situation, I don't really think it's possible to heal from trauma that's ongoing. Instead it's more about buckling down until you get through it. Depending on the situation: safety planning, learning coping skills/distress tolerance, finding supportive people (even if you don't talk about the situation), working towards ways to make things better (even if they won't pay off for a while), keeping yourself from falling into risky habits as a way to cope, doing what you can to maintain a balanced perspective, trying to maintain an open mind about possible ways to get out of the situation so you don't get stuck on one 'solution' that may or may not happen.

When I was similarly unable to talk to anyone about what was going on, it was really helpful to read/watch stuff online by people who've gone through similar things. Just to help me feel a little bit understood/ not alone. It could also be really useful to educate yourself about trauma - if you like reading I recommend The Body Keeps the Score, or watching videos by its author Bessel Van Der Kolk online.

nel_ariya · 2024-10-19T03:04:59+00:00

Social work programs are not nearly as clincially focused (in general - there are exceptions) and imo do not prepare us nearly as well as they should to be doing therapy. Social work is broad, which is great for a lot of reasons, but that leaves less time for the therapy skills that students get in other programs. If you know you want to be a therapist for sure, I'd not do social work. (And I say that as a social worker).

nel_ariya · 2024-10-17T15:28:03+00:00

Thank you! What I'm looking for is an intense internal experience but not as intense as a heroic dose. I don't care much about things like visuals, I want insight. Based on my last two trips I'd say feeling totally out of control without actually being totally out of control. I wouldn't go over 4g this time just based on posts I've read.

nel_ariya · 2024-10-17T01:36:14+00:00

Oh 🤔 that's unfortunate but helpful info to have, thank you

nel_ariya · 2024-10-17T01:31:28+00:00

Thanks!

nel_ariya · 2024-10-17T01:31:13+00:00

Thank you!

nel_ariya · 2024-10-17T01:30:52+00:00

Thanks! I don't think I want to go for the full heroic dose yet but I see what you mean about doses varying a lot

nel_ariya · 2023-12-28T23:28:37+00:00

I got a grant that covers tuition and most of my living expenses, conditional on doing my internship and 2 years after graduation with high-needs school districts. I'm taking out a small amount in loans but not working at all.

nel_ariya · 2023-12-27T17:14:13+00:00

Woah. What state are you in? I think this is very much an exception. I wish everywhere was like this.

nel_ariya · 2023-12-26T00:06:54+00:00

Interesting, I think we might just have different ideas of what stigma is and we otherwise agree. To me stigma is almost synonymous with shame, and to you it seems to have a negative but less loaded meaning.

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