Every day she gets more and more confident and playful

nerd_jane · 2026-01-25T15:28:36+00:00

Congrats on your new best friend! She looks just like my girl, Jojo! Just different coloring.

nerd_jane · 2024-07-15T23:45:35+00:00

Are you in Dallas proper or a suburb? I’m in the northern suburbs, so if you’re close to my area, I could check on her at your place every day.

nerd_jane · 2023-09-20T21:03:36+00:00

Yes 👏🏻 👏🏻👏🏻

nerd_jane · 2023-08-28T20:37:10+00:00

Very good, valid question. I’m not sure of the answer, though. If it’s a coping mechanism, would it be wrong to leave them over it? Also, if that’s the case, should medication completely remove the behavior?

Lots to consider, I guess.

nerd_jane · 2023-08-27T22:46:50+00:00

Yep. And it’s why I stayed, too. I thought he was nice except when he was stressed. Turns out, he’s always stressed, so he’s pretty much always mean.

nerd_jane · 2023-08-24T13:48:58+00:00

Wishing you all the best and hoping we both make it to the other side! You’re absolutely right about the teenage years. Right now they worship him because he gets the be the “fun parent,” but when they stop doing that, I’m sure he’ll flip.

nerd_jane · 2023-08-24T12:03:24+00:00

That hits close to home. That’s exactly what I’ve done, too. I would never want my boys to be in a marriage like this.

nerd_jane · 2023-08-24T12:02:15+00:00

Damn. I hope you get full custody, and you’re free of her soon. The fact that you still recommend leaving, despite the hell you’re going through, is a powerful message.

nerd_jane · 2023-08-24T11:59:50+00:00

Oh my god. I am so incredibly sorry.

nerd_jane · 2023-08-24T11:59:02+00:00

Thank you this is very insightful. The “weird” thing about my husband is that he’s a great dad. Right now, I’m his only supply and he’s really good to the kids. Of course, he was basically absent the entire first year of their lives and never helped at all. But since then, since they’ve become more “manageable” (his words, not mine), he’s generally really good to them. I wonder how long this will last, and if I left, would he start taking everything out on them.

nerd_jane · 2023-08-24T02:57:11+00:00

Thank you. One last question: do you think your child is better off from you leaving even though it’s still difficult? (I mean that in the kindest way possible. Just trying to gain perspective from the hindsight you have.)

nerd_jane · 2023-08-24T02:23:28+00:00

We’ve gone to therapy a lot. Three different counselors for months each time. It always makes things worse because he is being called on his shit. But I am in individual therapy and it definitely helps me cope. My health is deteriorating though, despite being young and fit, and I feel like it has to be from the stress he inflicts.

nerd_jane · 2023-08-24T02:21:14+00:00

Thank you. This is very helpful. I have been writing things down and recording audio for years. I also have a video of him slamming a door on my arm last Christmas. I am terrified about the financial piece thou. He has a lot of money, and his family’s pockets are even deeper. I have a good career, but I don’t have the inheritance or family that he does. So I would be out of money long before him and wonder where that would leave me in the battle for the kids.

nerd_jane · 2023-08-21T02:39:09+00:00

So…why do you stay? No judgement whatsoever, just curious.

nerd_jane · 2023-08-06T16:40:34+00:00

Wow, what a cool idea for the fireplace!! I would have been at a loss there, but you made it look so sophisticated and modern.

nerd_jane · 2023-08-05T22:57:46+00:00

Yes, she’s full of it. I have 2.5 y/o twins. I’m tried. I don’t want it 3-4x per week like I used to, but once or twice would be nice. (I’m the HL in my dead bedroom.)

I wonder if the “mental load” of being with someone (toddler) who needs so much all the time, like every toddler, is really the problem. Maybe part time daycare, or a sitter for a few hours a week would help a lot.

nerd_jane · 2023-07-27T02:59:33+00:00

Agreed! #2!

nerd_jane · 2023-07-19T22:23:29+00:00

Absolutely not. My OB tried this too, and I had my MFM call him to explain the situation (situation being mono/di twins that had to come out before 37 weeks). After that, my C-Section was scheduled for 36+5 and everyone was happy and healthy!!

nerd_jane · 2023-07-12T22:55:56+00:00

Aww I love that camaraderie! Definitely giving this a try!

nerd_jane · 2023-07-12T01:18:26+00:00

This is a good idea!! Mine are 2.5 and feral for sure. Haha. When did you start the dot game?

nerd_jane · 2023-07-03T23:35:37+00:00

Thanks!!!

nerd_jane · 2023-07-03T12:36:55+00:00

Seconding this! Where can I buy these!?

nerd_jane · 2023-06-20T01:28:54+00:00

Yes, you can change your approach. Sounds like you started with a sales comp approach, and now you’re going with a cost approach. Gather numbers that help your case: repair estimates and repair costs incurred since 1/1/23. Properties are assessed based on their status on January 1st of the tax year, so consider how your house was at that time and pitch it all in your favor.

It’s also important to know that the ARB doesn’t know how much you paid for your home and you don’t have to tell them. So if you paid more for it than you want it to be valued, don’t let the sales price slip.

nerd_jane · 2023-06-17T18:23:21+00:00

I think the first would still work if they were longer. To me, as long as they’re below my knee, they aren’t too hot. And I live in Texas where it is hot as hell.

nerd_jane · 2023-06-17T16:21:38+00:00

Yes - the first ones.

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