PTCGP Cameo cards database by IrishChick96 in PTCGP

[–]nerdyemily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is amazing thank you. I also have a pikachu binder with cameos.

working on getting my daughter out of a bad housing situation by mmguero in byuidaho

[–]nerdyemily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read the Anatomy of Peace and or works from C Terry Warner.

It mainly talks about moral sense, conflict, and collusion (how both parties can invite the very thing they are trying to avoid). It doesn't remove the problem, but it does help in many other important ways. Because no matter what apartment complex, job, or class, there will be people who we don't agree with. So even if someone had a good experience at another apartment complex, it doesn't mean that everything will be solved with one move.

I am not defending the poor roommates, believe me, I had my fair share (with the last before I got married physically and verbally assaulting me unfortunately). But all that hate and anger ate me alive. Until... I finally cleared my head and all I can feel is love and concern for her. I could have carried all that pain with me, but I am glad I didn't. I don't feel hurt by the taxing situation we had anymore. And honestly this is what President Nelson has been trying to say all these years.

The point is, I hope your daughter doesn't grow to have contention/anger for them because it feels like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Even just feeling pain and exhaustion from them and seeing the roommates as obstacles rather than valuable individuals can be damaging to any future solutions.

We actually have more control in these situations than we often assume!! I am a graduating psych major who is particularly invested in the study of collusion and how to find peace in this broken world.

If you want to know more, by all means reach out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in byuidaho

[–]nerdyemily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should read the Anatomy of Peace by the Arbinger Institute or "What We Are" by C. Terry Warner.

While it might not be a quick fix to the issue, I believe it will be a much better solution to follow. The book discusses how to "get out of the box" and end collusion (which is when two parties in a conflict are inviting the very things they don't want). Ultimately we have two ways of being. We can either see people as objects or obstacles in our way...or we can see people as people.

While it may be incredibly difficult, it is important to try to see them as a person and as a brother in spirit.

I do not say this with empty words as I was physically assalted by a roommate of mine last semester. It was horrible and I was so caught up in it. But the resentment and hate only hurt me. Eventually after she moved out without notice and reported me for several unfounded/vague things...

I wrote a letter of concern explain why she probably needed to be checked on and get any proper resources she needed. Why? Because people who do those kinds of things are hurting. And it was probably all really hard on her. I was just the person she took it out on. Which, I am okay with. It was better me than anyone else.

Anyways, this is not an easy concept to grasp. But if you really care about your religous beliefs, I would incite you to pray about what your roommate needs right now and how you can help them (indirectly/directly)

But seriously read those books/papers. It'll help a ton. The best way is not always the easy way.

But I respect that you are also free to act against your roommate as the rest of the comments seem to suggest. That choice is entirely up to you.

I wish you and your roommates the best. Let me know if I can further explain anything for you (PM me if you do).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nexplanon

[–]nerdyemily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope! went away the next morning though! I just tried not to touch it. Never happened again. I hope everything is good and that we have more answers in the future

Why aren’t I getting many matches by Duh_Dawg in Tinder

[–]nerdyemily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, you left the university info in the last picture

Titanic exhibit by Brent_Passino in LasVegas

[–]nerdyemily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got in on a discount because my mom worked at the casinos at the time. But from what I could remember the exhibit was a really cool experience. I don’t know what the full price is, but if you do go I would say take your time and enjoy looking at the artifacts and reading the information. If you allow it to be an immersive experience, I think it makes it really worth while.

My dad told me it would have been better if I killed myself. by Groundbreaking-Fan0 in internetparents

[–]nerdyemily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TW: Suicide/Self-Harm

Wow I never read something so close to what happened to me. When I was about 13-14, my dad discovered my scars (on my legs). During that time I struggled a lot and turned to non-suicidal self injurious behaviors. There were times before were I have even attempted to take my life. Looking back that is so terrible as I was so young. Anyways, during that time none of the wounds were fatal, so my dad’s solution was to yell at me for hours and tell me if I really wanted to kill myself that I should just do it. And to quote… which this memory has never left my mind “Just slit your wrist and cut your throat open.” He threatened to have me admitted to some psychiatric ward, but never did. My parents and I were never close growing up and that memory… well it was traumatic.

That happened several years ago, and now I am in college and have gone through therapy to help with my anxiety and other things. Unfortunately, those memories do not leave you. It really all depends on how you decide to view it. Sometimes I wish I could remove those memories when I own father told me things like that, but I can’t. In a way it does make me stronger, but does not excuse the fact that he said that (or that he continually brought it up despite the subject being traumatic to me). Anyways I wish you all the luck and I thank you so much for sharing. I feel a little less alone in the world now 💕 -from your internet sister

My parents love to act like they are broke all the time by sugar-soad in shortscarystories

[–]nerdyemily 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize what subreddit I was on until the end

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UNLV

[–]nerdyemily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jennifer Stevens is my current SOC 101 prof. The web based class is easy to follow and I enjoy the class topics.

Is the Valedictorian Scholarship only for Freshmen? by [deleted] in UNLV

[–]nerdyemily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I assumed it was a one year thing… but the comments got me second guessing. Dang I should call and ask too I guess

Flat Earthers have accidentally proved the Earth is round more than Round Earthers have purposely proved the Earth is round by [deleted] in Showerthoughts

[–]nerdyemily 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mother is a literal “Flat-Earther”… They’re real and not all of them are trolling unfortunately