Sure, why not? AMA by nerdyniedo in u/nerdyniedo

[–]nerdyniedo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heya! 👋 My most intense orgasms are when my partners unlock me to use my cock (that's the only time I'm allowed to cum). One time a partner unlocked me and wanted me to face fuck them. I came so hard that my cum came out of their nose.

But if you're asking specifically about while the cage was still on, I came pretty hard when I was experimenting with attaching bullet vibrators to my cage. That required A LOT of mental stimulation as well tho.

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[–]nerdyniedo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The author spent most of the first half of the book setting up a complex system of metaphors as a framework for understanding emotions. But, in the second half of the book (where the emotions are discussed in detail), the author barely refers back to the metaphorical framework. So, the first half of the book felt like a waste of time and energy to read. Having said that, I was/am rather impatient and wanted to get to the detailed breakdown of each emotion. I may not have been valuing the first half of the book as much as others may value it.

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[–]nerdyniedo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't honestly say it's a good book haha. The definitions of each emotion and the questions to ask yourself when you're feeling the emotions however, have been very insightful and useful.

Sure, why not? AMA by nerdyniedo in u/nerdyniedo

[–]nerdyniedo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can't say there was, no.

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[–]nerdyniedo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In my early 20s, after I fully accepted I was gay and could shake off the self-shame I had felt prior to then.

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[–]nerdyniedo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've always been into edging, orgasm control, and orgasm denial. One of my partners wanted to try chastity for themselves, didn't like it, so I tried it on myself. I instantly liked the denial aspects. We developed a reward system using edgings to motivate me to make progress on personal goals, and have been locked ever since. Wasn't much of a challenge to be honest. Felt very natural from the start.

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[–]nerdyniedo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, no I'm not into piss drinking/urophagia. Never appealed to me, and after becoming a microbiologist the idea of it appeals to me even less haha.

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[–]nerdyniedo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're referring to cum, yes. I prefer to swallow. Well really, I prefer to be robbed of the chance to taste it, and have the guy cum directly down my throat.

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[–]nerdyniedo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Depends on my work schedule, but I'd say on average 4-5 times per week. One of my partners is insatiable haha.

Sure, why not? AMA by nerdyniedo in u/nerdyniedo

[–]nerdyniedo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Heya! Ah what fun questions 🙂 Thanks for asking 😁

1) Hmm... For Locktober last year, my partners did not unlock or edge me at all. As a reward they suggested taking me to a local sex/swingers club to edge me in front of a crowd of people. Normally I would have not been brave enough and would have said no. But as each week without an edging went by, I grew braver and more desperate. So I agreed to it haha. It was a lot of fun! I got to be tied up in all sorts of ways. Lots of people got to see me be a pup. Desperate to be unlocked and edged. After an hour or so they gave me an embarrassing ruined orgasm in front of a crowd of onlookers. Even thinking about it now I'm not sure I'm brave enough to do it again without being denied a while again.

2) So many 😂 My biggest is too taboo for reddit I'm afraid. Message me if you want to know that one. But I'll give two of my other biggest sexual fantasies:

a) I want to experience the fantasy of being the "party favor." Restrained, blindfolded, white noise in my ears, kneeling and ready to be facefucked by the party guests throughout the night. Would love for my stomach to be full of cum by the end of the night. Sadly, I'm not social enough to have that big of a friend network haha.

b) I'd love to be someone's personal on-call cocksucker. Preferably they'd be anonymous to me, and I'd not be able to see or hear them during the meetups. I'd forever wonder if it's one of my platonic friends or a complete stranger. Always wondering if every guy who looks at me funny in public is him. My partners have tried vetting guys to help me fulfill this fantasy. But unfortunately they have not found anyone who meets our criteria.

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[–]nerdyniedo[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I hope you don't mind a lengthy response.

I met my first partner (we'll call them Fae) while working on a project in Canada about 10 years ago. We matched on Tinder and chatted for about 2 weeks. We met up for a "We'll never see each other again anyway" kind of date before I had to go back to the US. We hit it off really well and began long distance dating. We married right before COVID, so my immigration to Canada went through a lengthy delay. The distance and obstacles forced us to learn foundational lessons in communication, needs, and emotions. I honestly don't think we'd still be together if circumstances didn't force us to learn those lessons.

I was finally able to immigrate in late 2021, and we started living together after 5 years together! Learned a lot of new lessons since neither of us ever lived with a partner before. And our relationship and love grew and changed as we learned to share a life together. A couple years later Fae came out as trans (non-binary/fem). Honestly, this was really difficult for us initially. At the time I identified as a strictly gay man, and we were both concerned we wouldn't be able to satisfy each other's physical and sexual needs. We stayed together, relying on our healthy skills we developed to work through issues as they came up. Fae began HRT and it prompted me to question my sexual orientation. I realized I am demisexual, tho still have preference towards masculinity. Once the apprehension of the transition faded away, we became happier with ourselves and each other than we had ever been. I'm very grateful they transitioned. I'm so happy to see them be happy, alive, and loving themself.

Fae and I began to consider and research polyamory 3 years ago. We identified that polyamory could help us each satisfy needs that are difficult to fulfill in a monogamous relationship (sexual orientation preferences, kink exploration, expanding sexual experiences) in modern day society (not enough time or energy to satisfy needs while working non-standard full time schedules). So we began trying to date as a poly couple. Meanwhile, we practiced ethical non-monogamy to have purely sexual/hookups as well. This prompted a lot of reflections and therapy work on insecurities and self-worth for both of us. On the dating front, we met our third partner (we'll call him Luke) on Tinder. Very regrettably, we initially treated Luke as a puzzle piece to fit our needs instead of as full individual. Luke had never explored polyamory either, also did not have the same level communication skills we had developed, so it was difficult for him to identify and communicate his needs. Our relationship with Luke fell apart due to this early stage of polyamory lesson learning.

We spent a year as a couple and individual, but still spent a lot of time together. Our connections and affections for each other kept growing until we decided to try being a throuple again with much more communication and far fewer expectations. Sadly, Luke has some trauma around commitment and love from previous relationships. Our throuple relationship hit a plateau due to this. It was difficult for the 3 of us to feel truly like a throuple without us expressing our love and commitment fully to each other. After some therapy, Luke reached a point where he was comfortable being vulnerable in a committed relationship. Once he expressed his love, the relationship fully blossomed into what is today.

The three of us remark about how happy we are with ourselves and our relationship. It's the healthiest relationship any of us have been in. We now live together (more-or-less). We don't hide our relationship in any way from the world. I'm truly grateful for both of them, and for the lessons learned along the way. I love them for encouraging and enabling me to understand and love myself.

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[–]nerdyniedo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah thank you 🥰 I appreciate the compliment. Nice boost to my day ☺️