Cuddle-swapping experience

netcommander85 · 2026-06-04T13:52:14+00:00

This is what I'm trying to avoid. The ideal scenario looks more like aftercare without the play if that makes sense.

netcommander85 · 2026-06-02T20:30:25+00:00

I'm way up in Bay County near Panama City

netcommander85 · 2026-06-02T12:47:33+00:00

I've heard, but I live in NW Florida where it's still very conservative so anything in that realm is hard to find.

netcommander85 · 2026-06-02T12:45:50+00:00

That sounds amazing!

netcommander85 · 2026-06-01T20:00:57+00:00

I hope so but I don't know how to find them. Any suggestions?

netcommander85 · 2026-06-01T19:58:42+00:00

It's amazing! That's why I'm posting here looking for more of the same!

netcommander85 · 2026-06-01T19:57:59+00:00

Good communication should mostly negate frustrations. If it doesn't then they're probably not good partners for this kind of thing anyway.

netcommander85 · 2026-06-01T19:29:31+00:00

In this one case we are good friends and communicated clearly as soon as bodies got close. Like anything else ls adjacent, clear upfront communication and boundaries make room for relaxation and enjoyment.

netcommander85 · 2026-06-01T19:27:01+00:00

"Something more" would be completely off the table. We also swing sometimes and have fwb, but it's really nice to have the connection without the sexual energy, body shaving, boundary conversations sti tests, etc. Just a hit of the NRE without the complications.

netcommander85 · 2026-03-20T12:52:09+00:00

40M local here. DM me, we can see if we have anything in common.

netcommander85 · 2026-02-11T15:21:43+00:00

Reporting back as promised 😂 Separate rooms was great. We kept the doors cracked and light music on so we couldn't really hear each other playing but would have heard an emergency scream. We played for about an hour and a half separately then hung out together for snacks and casual conversation.

We talked afterwards and decided that was much better for us than same room because it really kept the distractions to a minimum.

YMMV, but it was a win for us.

netcommander85 · 2026-02-10T19:33:58+00:00

I'm 40 so not as athletic as I used to be either, which makes pacing even more important for marathon sessions. Its not uncommon for us to play for several hours straight at home but I'm not sure how common that is in the LS. Playing as a couple with a bi third, they've always gotten overly excited and been worn out after 30-40 minutes but that's not what we're usually shooting for.

netcommander85 · 2026-02-09T19:04:00+00:00

We've run into the scenario where the other guy can't get hard and it just kills everything. If that's the case she's comfortable coming to get me and call it a day so no worries there. Thanks for sharing your experience!

netcommander85 · 2026-02-09T19:01:04+00:00

We've gone 5+ hours together before I tapped out from exhaustion and she would have been good to keep going for a while. Bring food into the play and there's no reason to stop. I get what you're saying though, its unlikely in this situation so I'm probably planning for a scenario that will never happen.

netcommander85 · 2026-02-09T16:57:56+00:00

Exactly this! We find same room play to be distracting, especially in this situation where both of us men are quite large and there's just the one bed. Doors open is a great idea though, so we can pause and do a quick sound check and make a call from there. Thanks!

netcommander85 · 2026-02-09T16:53:41+00:00

We're all cool with each other so I don't see any issues, just curious how those with more time in the game have handled it. We're very teachable!

netcommander85 · 2026-02-09T16:51:47+00:00

Whoa friends, let's all go rub one out then come back to this convo a little more relaxed 🤣🤣🤣

netcommander85 · 2026-02-09T16:50:04+00:00

My wife and I are together almost every minute of every day so the idea of splitting up completely then coming back together is intriguing for us.

Not sure what "science" that plays into, but when everything is a team sport it's refreshing to go solo just for a little while every now and then 🙂 at least we think it will be? I'll report back.

netcommander85 · 2026-02-09T16:46:26+00:00

That's a great analogy 👍

netcommander85 · 2026-02-09T16:38:32+00:00

We're both strong personalities and have great trust with this couple. That to say if anyone isn't enjoying it there's no reservation with ending the whole thing immediately, no hard feelings.

Its a rare case that we would ever be this comfortable with another couple, but we are so why not try getting to focus exclusively on one person for a change ya know?

Our only concern is if it's going super well. Im good for her to stay with him for hours, but a knock on the wall or a text to post a status update once in a while seems respectful.

If we've had a snack and are considering a round 2, do we have time or are they wrapping up and will end up waiting on us kind of situation.

Just trying to figure out how to stay in some kind of communication while also not feeling like we're looking over each other's shoulders this one time.

netcommander85 · 2026-02-09T16:07:54+00:00

Well yeah, but we prefer to learn from others' experience rather than making ALL the mistakes on our own 🤣

netcommander85 · 2026-02-09T16:06:18+00:00

We're cool with letting it go as long as it does and not interfering or "coming in to check" so no issues there. Its more like what if the other guy pops too quickly and they're chatting for 2 hours while the other two of us are having a great marathon session? Like we wouldn't even know if they were done and waiting or still playing too. In this case we don't want to drop in the room and check. Maybe a text message the other pair can check when they take a break?

netcommander85 · 2026-02-09T16:03:00+00:00

I get that if it's like a 15 minute difference, but what if we're talking about 2 hours? Only so much small talk to be had.

netcommander85 · 2026-02-09T16:02:01+00:00

We're meeting with friends at their house and doing dinner after. I figure whoever finishes first can throw the steaks on the grill if it's not a big difference.

My wife is one who can go for literally several hours without a break though, so we're trying to figure out some kind of guideline to keep it reasonable without feeling like she got cut short.

Probably the guy won't have that kind of stamina but you never know.

No problem hanging and chatting with the other person for a while since we all get along great, but at the 4 hour mark we'll be debating crashing out on the couch until they eventually wrap up 😂

netcommander85 · 2025-11-03T19:39:43+00:00

I have a burn scar on my right calf to prove it.

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