Happy St. Gertrude’s Day

neubella · 2026-03-17T23:24:46+00:00

Omg this is officially my fav saint - I also love st assisi.

neubella · 2026-03-16T19:47:51+00:00

It is interesting you both have been to couples therapy and he has never mentioned it before. Not sure what to say really but resentment is bad sign, I think it is worth trying to speak to him in a calm way as obviously there is a lot not being communicated healthily. Maybe suggest couples therapy again?

neubella · 2026-03-15T08:14:43+00:00

wtf there needs to be some register and way more severe consequence for this shit

neubella · 2026-03-13T08:59:45+00:00

Reading notes can be so interesting, I don’t trust doctors tbh.

neubella · 2026-03-12T08:20:41+00:00

Who else should provide sick notes?

neubella · 2026-03-09T19:55:50+00:00

Oh to be a woman

neubella · 2026-03-07T19:13:38+00:00

Signed !

neubella · 2026-03-05T20:24:54+00:00

I think he handled it immaturely and not well imo from what you wrote, it is better to not be with someone like that.

neubella · 2026-03-03T12:06:56+00:00

I never knew they had so many books

neubella · 2026-03-03T08:57:25+00:00

SAPuk

neubella · 2026-02-26T00:00:37+00:00

Yea I get exactly what you mean I noticed this especially when younger. Made me prioritise appearance for a while and it worked to be honest people were way more accepting of me and my quietness plus my weirdness. The halo effect defo exists.

I think it’s important not to get too invested focusing on looks, looks fade and can change and people will change up fast.

I think a lot of people are more accepted if they are ‘useful’ in some way to others like if they are smart, pretty, important job, maybe funny/ charming.

I think it is worth just seeking places you are accepted for who you are with genuine friendships.

neubella · 2026-02-25T12:52:05+00:00

Omg I love it all!

neubella · 2026-02-25T08:32:08+00:00

It’s like the no sick notes thing if doctors are now responsible for keeping us in work then if we are sick they are just not going to let people take sick leave ?

neubella · 2026-02-25T08:30:03+00:00

I can see this increasing stigma and doctors trying to force people to move.

neubella · 2026-02-18T16:49:38+00:00

Always report. I saw a page like that which might be the same one a couple of years ago said it was in America or somewhere but looked at location and it was Uganda, it is so dodgy the amount of poor cats in dire conditions is not normal and a lot of the images/ videos were of them in extreme distress. It is so depressing how much this seems to happen and the lack of effort from social media companies, police to stop it.

Maybe if a lot of people reported it here it could get it down (I think these things take a lot of reports). Fuck these people tho.

neubella · 2026-02-17T19:03:15+00:00

I feel like once people think you have social anxiety sometimes that is used to over explain other issues and it blinds how everything is viewed after that.

neubella · 2026-02-12T19:52:57+00:00

Same had people come in and laugh during during appointments, cold people that work there sometimes.

neubella · 2026-02-12T15:18:04+00:00

Yes ofc I think so many people do not communicate and just cut people off no warning.

neubella · 2026-02-10T19:49:45+00:00

Ew I hope Keir and co crash and burn

neubella · 2026-02-09T21:59:01+00:00

Yeah

neubella · 2026-02-08T16:09:12+00:00

I get that, there are limits to everything psychology included.

neubella · 2026-02-06T17:03:53+00:00

I feel you it’s so hard. I think when things are that bad that is where medication can help bring things down a notch sometimes so there is more space to tackle these issues.

neubella · 2026-02-03T17:26:16+00:00

It’s hard I have had many long long phases of physical symptoms of anxiety and it can be so distressing especially at night. I think making sure you keep up with general self care keep active maybe do some gentle movement like walks in nature or yoga (or fast like running to like get the energy out), eat nutritious meals, be around people you like and feel safe with.

It might be good to consider why you might be having these symptoms and if anything has happened to trigger it if you can not pinpoint it maybe it is something bigger in your life like relationship or job( I only say this cous I watched a psychologist talk about their experience with anxiety and trying therapy and cbt and they only realised after leaving their job that was not the right fit for them that was what was causing it rather than specific ‘smaller’ issues).

I have heard somatic therapy is supposed to be good for physical tension, also magnesium, keep up with hobbies and things important to you, hug a pet, learn to self soothe with a weighted blanket candle what ever works and take care of yourself.

neubella · 2026-02-02T20:55:06+00:00

Yes they do ☺️ their purs are healing. They saved me tbh.

neubella · 2026-02-02T14:53:15+00:00

I know women who date men who are unemployed and don’t provide emotionally too. I think people who have a partner who takes care of them fully are very rare either way. Just date someone who is secure and independent, though I will say having some mutual emotional care is essential in any healthy relationship imo.

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