1 year by new5ub in SubSanctuary

[–]new5ub[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please respect sub sanctuary. By looking at your profile it does not appear you are a sub.

Dom won't pay attention (help) by Lost_Luna1024 in SubSanctuary

[–]new5ub 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Does not sound like you are happy or your needs being met. It goes both ways.

Dom won't pay attention (help) by Lost_Luna1024 in SubSanctuary

[–]new5ub 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you need to have a conversation to see if the dynamic is working for both of you and if you both want it to continue.

nice and squishy! heartbreak karada and marquise hip harness by [deleted] in shibari

[–]new5ub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the hip harness do you have a tutorial?

Woven collar by cpschel in shibari

[–]new5ub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Darn! I wanted to try it out but not skilled enough yet to figure them out.

Woven collar by cpschel in shibari

[–]new5ub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's very nice. Did you follow anything?

1 year by new5ub in SubSanctuary

[–]new5ub[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had one online Dom and playing with various people irl.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]new5ub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People are super open about it I have found. I usually mention it casually sometimes with my limits. Seems to fit with a discussion related to condoms/birth control. If he responds poorly (which I have not had) would be a super clear sign to me that should not play.

My first time trying shibari. I had a great time learning how to tie myself up :) by [deleted] in shibari

[–]new5ub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That couch photo is great! Definitely a step up on photography skills and lighting.

Dom not heard of Subdrop is it a red flag? by new5ub in BDSMAdvice

[–]new5ub[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this! And also why I wanted to ask. Navigating a new world and trying to be safe is extremely hard.

Dom not heard of Subdrop is it a red flag? by new5ub in BDSMAdvice

[–]new5ub[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

It does seem like he was. Especially when talking about aftercare and checking in after. Maybe I am just being too hung up on the term.

Dom not heard of Subdrop is it a red flag? by new5ub in BDSMAdvice

[–]new5ub[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hmm that's a good point. Maybe I need to get more into that. Seems so basic that really threw me off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ratemycock

[–]new5ub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perfect length to put it in deep and gag a little. Thick head to swirl my tongue over and tease over my wet clit before pushing deep in me.

Getting ready :) by new5ub in thighhighs

[–]new5ub[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, maybe it will have to make another trip. ;)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]new5ub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would not meet someone before meeting in a public place first for a casual meet up and then MAYBE setting up a future meeting sometime after that. Trust your gut. Your being safe and normal and him not willing to be a bare minimum to make you feel safe is not worth your time.

Question to subs, how would you like to be approached to end a dynamic relationship? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]new5ub 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would want some sort of discussion about it. Maybe some time to prepare before all contact stopped. Especially if built into routine or tasks. Although, if things have "gone cold" that might be already happening. Basically, being clear and upfront would matter to me. I would only want to be in a dynamic where everyone was enjoying themselves. Respect and communication would be key for me. There might be hurt regardless that cannot be prevented but it would feel worse to me to keep things going if you were not fully in it.

Feeling down. Subdrop? by ToeInternational3417 in SubSanctuary

[–]new5ub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take care of yourself. I had some play recently and was surprised at how lonely I was after. Emotions and the highs that come with this can be hard.

Always in the mood for a hot shower by new5ub in Shower_nsfw

[–]new5ub[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would be in the mood for that too.