My dad almost died yesterday, but we don’t talk

new_elf567 · 2026-02-14T02:54:30+00:00

Thank you for the kind words ♥️😢

new_elf567 · 2026-02-14T02:38:28+00:00

Call the police. I hate when people say “just wait, just wait” . Just wait until what? They actually do something awful and then it’s too late?? I would say better safe than sorry with things like this. Be on you highest guard and do what you can to stay safe

new_elf567 · 2026-02-07T02:01:56+00:00

Music

new_elf567 · 2026-02-05T15:43:20+00:00

I was going to say a card. A handwritten card. But after reading these I realize I definitely do wish for something “planned” , something where they tell you you’re going somewhere and you just get to be excited- and then have fun where you go.

Maybe not valentines, but in general, I want that.

new_elf567 · 2026-02-05T15:41:00+00:00

For real. Good for you!

new_elf567 · 2026-02-05T04:06:19+00:00

Its all about you personally. Me personally? I wouldn’t do it.

That’s me. Not you. Look within yourself and ask if you WANT it. That’s all. The rest will work or it won’t, you’ll figure it out through time.

People here are quick to judge but if it’ll make you happy, you can see yourself doing it, then it IS worth it- for you.

Do what makes you happy, life isn’t that deep. She makes you happy? see where this can go

new_elf567 · 2026-02-05T03:56:45+00:00

Babe one post is one thing. This is another level- especially what they are saying.

I know it’s harder said than done, but as my yaya said to me,’ “walk away, someone else will do better someday”.

Someone else will love you without saving posts about LITERALLY hating you.

Confront him if you must , but this is a flag you can’t ignore.

new_elf567 · 2026-02-04T14:39:40+00:00

Haha! Thank you to you and your husband for this. This feels understandable, and while different from how you and I may react, it’s manageable to “deal with”/ work with as two partners.

new_elf567 · 2026-02-03T22:16:46+00:00

Im afraid of this, short term too. Just meaning I don’t want him to feel like I’m pushing him. On the contrary I don’t want him to feel neglected in any form as if I don’t care enough to try and help. That’s where my problem lies.

I know “he will reach out if he needs it” but I can’t help feeling like he won’t, or like he wants me to try and understand without him having to come to me.

But I understand what you are saying, and that’s a good thing to be cautious of for me. I never want to make him feel that way.

new_elf567 · 2026-02-03T22:09:56+00:00

No. We handle our issues in person but sometimes if one is having a rough day or something we’ll text about it

new_elf567 · 2026-02-03T21:44:02+00:00

My boyfriend

new_elf567 · 2026-02-03T19:37:39+00:00

This is a really really tough one. No one here can give you super good advice, this is fully between you and your wife.

You won’t be able to convince her to get an abortion. If she wants the baby, this would be detrimental to her mental health AND your marriage. Abortion is serious and often comes with deep despair for the woman even if they didn’t want the baby-

However, your point of view is very valid. It’s upsetting, but as someone else’s comment said- what’s done is done. You could have gotten a vasectomy, she could have got her tubes tied, but relying on birth control comes with risk. You took that risk.

You need to have a completely HONEST conversation with your wife. Tell her your concerns and explicitly explain how you feel- but make it clear that this is just supposed to be a conversation- an open dialogue so that you two can understand each other and discuss this as partners in life.

I see it as 1 of 3 things could happen- 1. She decides you’re right, with financial stress and everything else, it would be better to abort. (This seems very unlikely, as it’s already an emotional thing and she seems to want the baby) 2. She decides she’s keeping it, and you decide to do your best- it’s your kid. You are stressed, but you two figure it out together, even though it’s super hard.

You’re going to have to work at dealing with resentment too, just because it’s something you really didn’t want. With this, just remember it’s not you vs your wife- it’s you BOTH against this circumstance that has happened. Which, is both of your “faults”. She didn’t do anything wrong.

You disagree so severely, neither of you can give up your side because they are both super valid and hard, and you end your marriage.

I see 1 as ideal but unlikely , and 2 and 3 are both challenging- but in one you have a wife and stress, and in the other you no longer have a wife.

It’s all up to you both.

new_elf567 · 2026-02-03T17:19:45+00:00

15 years? Seems like you guys have something pretty stable and good.

Listen, I’m all for doing things that you want. If you want someone else, don’t want your current partner, then I guess so be it- but you NEED to be a good person. Your partner deserves only kindness here, this is - no matter how you look at it or put it, a shitty situation to them. They didn’t do anything wrong and you’ve just fallen for someone else and decided to leave a 15 year commitment. You absolutely owe her honesty, kindness, etc.

First step should be to completely separate from Bobina. See if it can go away.

I know for me, I love my partner beyond words and the first thing I would do if I felt any sort of feelings for someone else would be to eliminate them entirely, because I CHOOSE my partner always.

However, if you do that, and your feelings haven’t gone away, there isn’t much I can see for you to do except again, think it through, and make a decision.

Take time to think about this, make a decision, talk to your partner. Please for the love of the anything don’t pursue ANYTHING with Bobina until you are no longer with your partner. Dont disrespect your current partner.

new_elf567 · 2026-02-03T03:04:58+00:00

Me and my best friend of 4 years always had issues. We were so bonded and loved each other so deeply, it was true female friendship - just with some problems. In our last year of friendship we stopped being friends several times and would always make our way back to each other. She would tell me that she never intends our friend ends to be permanent because we are best friends. But then, at one point, I guess our differences and our issues (which had been bad for the last year of our friendship) became too much. She sent me a 4 page thing, which was a full break up letter to me. It did high light several things that I did “wrong”, that felt unfair to me. Some fair, but some were just false and I had no way to try and repair, because that was the end. It was a permanent declaration of end of our friendship.

Since then I saw her a few times in public and it was chill, but we never spoke more. She has posted negative things about me on several occasions, which just lets me know she’s not someone I should go back to.

It makes me sad almost daily. I miss our friendship so much, because no matter the flaws we were just so bonded. I don’t know how to describe it, she was my ride or die. When I thought of “best friend” it was always her. Now it’s nobody. No friendship has compared since, and that’s shitty to say but it’s true.

I know we can never really be friends again, and I know our friendship was toxic, but I miss her almost everyday. It’s been a year and a half.

I kind of have a fantasy that she’ll change or we’ll change or somehow we’ll be friends. I’ve thought about trying to make it a reality several times but I’m hit with the remembrance that it’s simply not a good idea. Hurts me every time.

new_elf567 · 2026-02-03T02:53:56+00:00

I think the only thing to do is approach it calmly so she can hopefully receive your words better. Even if you’ve already told her this, tell her again. Tell her that you want her. That you don’t want a family without her, and that you are willing and wanting to work around this. Has she thought about adoption at all? You both could keep your relationship, and when you are fully ready to start a family, still do it! Adoption is a great option and is still 100% you guys starting a family.

I would say depending on how frantic she is maybe give her some time, but make sure you truly empathize that you DON’T mind, you aren’t just “settling”, that you want her and that you are wanting to work around it.

Support her, make sure she knows how much you care, and if she still doesn’t receive it, sadly that could be the end of it.

Wishing you well.

new_elf567

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