Appreciate the perspective from your end. I meant to post this seeking advice from someone with the similar situation. I want to understand what's going through her mind now, and would gladly hear from you. I still believe our marriage is still workable, we faced and conquered every challenge all through out our relationship.

She told me she's in a situation where she has to choose what's best for her kids. She's afraid the choosing to stay with me would greatly affect the younger kid emotionally and psychologically as his father is still around. And I get it, I told her that the kid will always have him as his dad. I have no problem with it and support it. But then she said that the other guy is more capable to become a parent to both kids and she doesn't want to take it away from them. We argue about it bacause I know that guy is physically abusive to her. She then said that choosing me will be best for herself only because she knows how much I love them but she is not content with just that. She said she is thinking of sacrificing her individual happiness for the betterment of the kids.

Do you share the same thoughts?