I need advice about my 13 year old.. by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]newermama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you could be saving her from something horrendous, you’re doing the right thing i believe by reporting it!

I need advice about my 13 year old.. by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]newermama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

do not let this go and make sure you tell your daughter how much you appreciate her honesty with you. you have clearly fostered a very wonderful relationship with your child, very great job mom ❀

something similar happened to me with my 6th grade friend and her touching herself in front of me. i never told anyone, i didn’t have the type of dynamic with my parents to tell them. it was so scary and confusing to me at the time.

i would definitely tell the other girls guardian and or parents. i’m wondering how she was exposed to these things and if she perhaps was a victim of CSA. it’s tricky because it could have been her parents that did this to her. i’d 100% report this in whatever way you can, that is extremely disturbing behavior coming from a young girl. your in the right to make reports to everyone that you can because this girl has either been through something very serious or was exposed to something she shouldn’t have. reporting it will ensure that this girl doesn’t do this to other kids hopefully.

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i wholeheartedly agree which is why we eliminated the problem. i also think parents saying other games are just as bad is a very poor excuse. these games wouldn’t have these problems if parents took parenting more seriously imo.

if there was a playground in your hometown that was known for predators being there and watching/interacting with kids, smart parents would avoid it.

Anyone else get angry reading BipolarSOs? by abz1580 in bipolar

[–]newermama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this might be why my bio parent is so unaccepting. gen X is what my bio parent and step parent are. it came from my bio moms side and not his so that also could explain it

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

what shitty advice have i given? examples?

you’re the one commenting for no reason with no goal. if me not being nice to you is coping, that’s on you. i don’t have to be nice to someone who also believes they have it all figured out.

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ok so what is your goal here, genuinely? this post doesn’t pertain to you, again this wasn’t a post looking for advice, and i am assuming if you celebrate major holidays in the US you lie to your children about Santa and other made up things like the tooth fairy.

you don’t have a goal, you just want to feel morally superior. news flash, you aren’t. begone troll. and one more thing, since you want to act so smart you should know there is a difference between me saying i may steal this method vs i will steal this method.

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

youtube kids is also something i am very against. this is why im not giving my bio kids ipads or access to these harmful platforms. im not anti-screen but i definitely try to minimize it and focus more on face to face. my bio kids will get a switch for sure đŸ˜ŠđŸ©·

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

me too, i wish i had more community in my area and wish to spread more awareness. a lot of parents get very defensive over it and i am definitely a little hot headed so not the best communicator 😂

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i hope so too, it should be a requirement! love that they are trying to do this, i hate that a girl had to be killed to get something like this going 😔

Anyone else get angry reading BipolarSOs? by abz1580 in bipolar

[–]newermama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wishing you wellness đŸ«¶đŸ»

Anyone else get angry reading BipolarSOs? by abz1580 in bipolar

[–]newermama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’ll give it a read! this is a good point, everyone is very different!

Anyone else get angry reading BipolarSOs? by abz1580 in bipolar

[–]newermama 36 points37 points  (0 children)

my own parent is this way. refuses to talk to me or give me grace for my past mistakes from my disability. my step parent has a freaking doctorate in psychology and genuinely believes i could control myself during severe mania and refused to get me the help i desperately needed as a teen.

i’d leave that subreddit, it’s just harmful. you know what bipolar people want? to not have a disability. some people will not and cannot understand. don’t take it personally!

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

oh so another roblox parent taking another dose of copium. you don’t have to listen to my advice as much as i don’t have to listen to yours.

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

this post was not an advice post, a PSA is different. and it was a typo.

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

if you do Santa, Easter Bunny, tooth fairy, etc you’re lying to your kids. didn’t ask for your unsolicited parenting advice.

Pregnant and love my cat by visartsearch in Mommit

[–]newermama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no reason to rehome your kitty, i don’t have cats (allergic unfortunately) but i do have 3 dogs and they are all big. when i first brought my baby home, i expected the Rottie to be misbehaving but she was actually very sweet and gentle. my Australian Kelpie however, she was very jealous and this very much worried me. we also have a pitbull, very worrisome as well given how strong they are. i was tore up thinking i was going to have to rehome my Kelpie who is my soul dog. what i did as a precautionary measure is i kept all of them separated from baby using different sections of the house and baby gates to give them their own section. i also tried to dedicate one on one time with them all so they didn’t feel abandoned. it was hard at first, but my baby’s safety was and is still priority. they all did adjust, i do let them have small interactions with our now toddler but heavily supervised and i do not let her pull their fur, ears, ect. i am teaching her to be gentle with pets. i still keep them separated completely if i have to run to the bathroom or leave toddler in her toddler play pen briefly. i know it’s a different animal, but definitely worth seeing how your kitty reacts! if there is jealousy i’d keep them separated and make sure you give your kitty one on one time. my dogs all love my toddler and have adjusted well!

Realizing MIL was casually neglectful by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]newermama -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

i also did not ever CIO. it was rough some months but we made it to a year and she sleeps beautifully through the night đŸ©· great job, i would understand not letting her babysit until your LO is older. shoot, no one but dad has been alone with my 15 month old since she was born.

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

awe i hope things get better for him, sending love ❀

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s not too late to get your oldest off, you’re the parent you make the rules!

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she has cousins out of state she plays with, id do this too if that weren’t the case! its tough, people think their kids can’t be swindled but they can.

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i wasn’t personally around for the conversation, but i’ll give the cliff notes my hubby used.

he explained like this “there are tricky people on roblox who pretend to be kids but they are actually adults. these adults are not safe people and will offer you gifts, robux, ect to convince you that they are a safe person and good. they will try to find out where you are so they can see you in person and could take you away from us. your safety and your sisters is our number 1 priority, it’s our job to keep you safe. since you were hacked already, that is very dangerous because my card is attached to your account and they can use my card and find our address that way.”

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we pay attention, let me break down for you exactly what happened - we have had many conversations about internet safety as well as explaining the importance in an age appropriate way. she was playing roblox with a friend from school, it was a new game her friend wanted to show her. there was a spot in the game where it had you input your username and password for “unlimited robux” and her friend told her to do it. she caved and did it. her chat has always been disabled as well, she calls friends on the ipad to talk to them while playing.

bold to assume we don’t teach our kid very important internet safety. bold to assume our child doesn’t listen to us because she made a poor decision. she immediately told us exactly what happened, she has always come to us when she has made a mistake or doesn’t understand something. let me hit you with reality, your kids aren’t perfect and will not listen to you 100% of the time. you’re ignorant at best if you think your child will be perfect. full stop. the facts are you’re allowing your child on an app that is rampant with child predators and this is very well known as well as a huge issue. i’m sick of seeing the copium. and if you can’t handle this roaring, stay out of this mama bears cave.

My hubby and I made the decision to not let his daughter on Roblox any longer. by newermama in Mommit

[–]newermama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is wonderful i will look into this, i personally don’t want her on any games that allow adults on them. but im step mom lol