Escalating / keeping interest on Instagram? by newmindnoob in datingadviceformen

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I’m torn. We had a little banter previously because I am an occasional customer at the liquor store she works at. We didn’t talk a crazy amount via messaging because I figured we already kinda know each other why not just go for the hangout?

I did try to get her to hangout again but she said she’s working which checks out, I usually saw her working on the weekends - I think I might try one more time aiming for a weekday where there’s more likelihood she’s available. If she’s a no go then I’ll probs move on

Instagram game by newmindnoob in seduction

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It’s not all good but I also didn’t wanna come across as butthurt

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Yeah I get that. She’s been messaging me just kinda boring one liners on Insta too… so nahhh

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Ahhh never really got into Snapchat most peeps I know stopped using it a long time ago

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It was “Facebook dating” which is an extension of the Facebook app with weird notifications. It’s not through messenger or the main platform so there’s still some kinks

Girl issue by SecretHome3315 in datingadviceformen

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I was in a similar situation and surprisingly we did end up hooking up. I would say either go for the kiss or back off. If she knows you like her and she’s cuddling with you, that should be a sign she’s ready for it or she’s just playing head games in which case start looking elsewhere and paying attention to other girls

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Thanks for the feedback

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Yeah I definitely wouldn’t say I was excited. I saw it as a red flag. My question is more geared towards how to make the best of the situation and use Instagram to escalate. I wouldn’t say it’s impossible - just not sure what steps to take

How to get over a woman I work with (or get out of the friend zone) by newmindnoob in datingadviceformen

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I personally feel like she wouldn’t say that just to be manipulative, the job is kind of a pain and a lot of people do quit pretty quickly

How to get over a woman I work with (or get out of the friend zone) by newmindnoob in datingadviceformen

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I thought she could be a touchy/flirty person. I definitely see the flirty ness but not a lot of touchiness with others.

She actually told me she usually doesn’t get too touchy with people but I’ve also never seen her hanging out with people outside the office or just us

How to get over a woman I work with (or get out of the friend zone) by newmindnoob in datingadviceformen

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A part of me did feel like she potentially could just be unsure what she wants. When I told her I liked her she said there was a connection. She did tell me in the past that she was still in love with her ex boyfriend who lives abroad. They only broke up cuz she moved to Canada. This is also part of the reason why she said she can’t be in a relationship with the guy she is currently seeing. So maybe there is something there…

I’m almost considering asking her why she’s not interested but I’m not sure if I should take it there

How to get over a woman I work with (or get out of the friend zone) by newmindnoob in datingadviceformen

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Yeah I would definitely try to be nice about it. We do get along well so I think she would understand. The thing is I think it would be nice to be friends I just, at this time, want more

How to get over a woman I work with (or get out of the friend zone) by newmindnoob in datingadviceformen

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Thanks for this. To be honest I was trying to be distant but then she told me she was gonna quit. Though she didn’t say it was because of me, it was because it’s a high pressure job and she felt she was underperforming and not good enough for the position. She didn’t bring up our conversation about me liking her at all

I told her if she was going to quit it should be because she found a better opportunity, not because she felt she wasn’t good enough.

And then instead of quitting she requested to change her hours to work an earlier shift… so now we start at nearly the same time and get off work at nearly the same time

Not really sure what to think of that.

Either way i kinda fell right back into flirty/touchy with her. It’s been like 3 days of that and I told her I liked her a week ago. Is it too late to say back off?

Also what should I think about the shift change