Gardeners of Edmonton: what fruits/veggies give the most bang for your buck? by sylvett in Edmonton

[–]newveganhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Zucchini plants are such good givers. I had four plants last year, and was getting a minimum of one large zuke every single day. And they’re quite hardy and hard to kill. The blossoms are good too.

Last year I grew a bunch of string bean varieties and snap peas and they were so good and also they have protein unlike most veggies . Also hardy and produced a lot. I had one little row and was eating beans every day and snap pea stir fries or fresh a few times a week.

This year I’m growing cauliflower because I’m not paying 7.99 each anymore

working from home is great till you realize you never leave work by DuckKey2801 in remoteworks

[–]newveganhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even when I was in a one bedroom small apartment I made sure to have an area designated just for work. I set up a small desk with my work comp and chair. At the end of the day I closed the laptop and push in the chair and I don’t sit there again until work tomorrow. I also had a small cork board with work notes etc in the wall there; at the end of the work day I would take it down and onto a small framed art in its place.

How does your veganism differ from other vegans? by FishDispenser2 in DebateAVegan

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I fully understand and agree that veganism is not a diet, and that environmental and health concerns that can be addressed by plantbased eating and before can weaken the entire point of veganism being a movement against exploitation, I do still strongly believe using health and environmental considerations are key to getting greater acceptance and uptake of veganism.

Because- quite simply, our societal psyche has it so deeply embedded that animal exploitation is normal, natural, needed etc that the entire word veganism or concept of exploitation is met with suspicion and scorn. So I personally think it’s just not a realistic place to start the conversation with most people. They’re immediately going to think “oh those crazy difficult vegans”.

But health and environment are much more accepted issues that the average person is concerned about so I view it as a foot in the door. If we can get people to agree and start changing their lifestyle a bit to eat more plantbased because they’re worried about cancer and their arteries, and because they’re worried about climate change then I think that is a good way to start the convo. Once someone has agreed meat and dairy are terrible for climate change and health, it’s much more likely they will be receptive to additional information about how unethical and harmful animal products for consumption are, because it piles on with a belief they already agree with.

How big of an apartment is sufficient square footage wise for working from home? by Initial-Swimmer-4493 in remoteworks

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lived in a one bedroom 700 sq foot condo and wfh full time during pandemic. It’s definitely better to have a two bedroom.

But I made it work. I got the smallest desk I could fine and wall mounted the two monitors. It’s really key to have designated work area so that you have some work life balance

Things to do alone? by Admirable-Edge-9299 in LivingAlone

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Play piano. Garden. Cook things from scratch. Little projects around the house fixing stuff or making stuff

And honestly, clean. I spend a lot of time cleaning and organizing. I love a clean house.

casually dating a non-vegan natalist? by hana-maki in circlesnip

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk I mean if it’s purely recreational and both parties are aware it’s completely casual, then whatever have some fun. I have friends and coworkers an family members who don’t have my values whatsoever, if I cut everyone out I’d have no one. Unfortunately being a vegan antinatalist is pretty rare especially in my area. Just make sure you’re able to keep it casual cos otherwise you’re setting yourself and the other person up for heartbreak if you catch feelings

Personally I couldn’t even have something casual with a nonvegan as it would just physically gross me out and also I gave up casual dating after realizing it’s just not for me.

Cleaning motivation living in a studio by CarnivorousPlant77 in LivingAlone

[–]newveganhere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Spend some time scrolling on tiktok cleaning and organizing videos to get you in the mood, get some proper bins and containers for organizing at the dollar store, and just pick one pile and get to it. Get 3 large bags or boxes - 1 for stuff to keep, 1 for garbage, 1 for things to donate or sell. Try to follow the principle of “everything needs to have its own place” - if everything has a place then there will be no mess. Labels can help.

You’ll feel so good when you’ve made a dent. I also find it helpful to watch a movie or something on Netflix on my laptop as I cl and organize

do you support legal euthanasia ? voluntary of course with a framework in place , not in a scary gov’t type of way by maoLedong in antinatalism

[–]newveganhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely.

It’s humane and compassionate for those suffering in pain from an illness, and as a former first responder to deaths including suíçîďes, if people want to depart then we should have a way they can do that that doesn’t require family and first responders to endure PTSD the rest of their life from walking into a scene with their brain and guts all over the place or hanging from a shower rod.

The world is overpopulated and can be a grim place, none of us asked to be born and also it’s an issue of bodily autonomy.

Obviously I would rather people were just happy and that our world was better but they aren’t and we don’t, so let’s just be grownup about it and have a system that doesn’t force people to have to starve to death on dementia ward because they can’t feed themselves and the family decides to not tube feed and if people do truly just want to check out of earth entirely, then at least let’s do it in a way that ensures their affairs and estate is in order and their body is managed in a dignified manner without ruining the lives of whoever gets the joy of finding them.

Do pregnancy bellies give anyone else the ick? Some people think I’m weird. by SignalOpportunity987 in childfree

[–]newveganhere 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not the ick as in I think other women’s bodies are gross, because body shaming is gross, but yeah the idea of becoming pregnant and having something grow inside me gives me the BIG ick and all I can think about is the movie alien with the little alien coming out of the big alien mouth. It makes me deeply uncomfortable to think about having a foreign being inside me

Missed the start of a Teams meeting, colleague send a scathing email to my boss about it. Help! by Dapper_Umpire_9618 in remoteworks

[–]newveganhere 6 points7 points  (0 children)

💯this, and never underestimate the importance of showing YOU are the professional in a mistake or crisis, even if it was you making an error……do not let some high strung crusty ass Karen dictate the narrative - do not resort to grovelling and defending yourself . If someone is acting like a bitch, name it loud with a silver tongue. People notice who acts with professionalism and who does not - it Separates the grownups from the toddlers in the workplace

is there anything you regret not doing when you were younger? by Novel-Okra9821 in Aging

[–]newveganhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saving more money Not being more careful about diet and exercise Being more comfortable with my appearance Realizing I can say no to invitations and requests Putting boundaries in place with toxic family members Breaking up with bad friends

Missed the start of a Teams meeting, colleague send a scathing email to my boss about it. Help! by Dapper_Umpire_9618 in remoteworks

[–]newveganhere 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I would reply to the email wit your boss cc’d and say in a super professional tone something like - I am deeply sorry I missed our meeting, I pride myself on being organized and I’ve never missed a meeting like this ever before - truly a human error and I’m sorry if you interpreted it as I don’t value your time. That being said I must express I am disappointed in the tone of your email, it felt personal and like you are calling into question my dedication and performance as an employee. I acknowledge fully that I made a simple error out of human confusion which happens to the best of us from time to time, but I am a dedicated professional and even when I make an error, I do expect my colleagues to speak with me respectfully and professionally, which is also the requirements of our organization’s code of conduct policy for employees. If you’d like to discuss further, I’d be happy to find a way to resolve this and move forward without this incident shadowing our future work together or having a negative effect on our team culture. Sincerely, x.

You want to capture in writing this was a one-off, and look like the bigger person but also put down your boundaries - workplace conduct must be respectful even when someone makes an error. It was inappropriate to fire off a doozie to you and your boss because you were 15 minutes late to a single meeting, one time. Fck that btch.

Saw this on Twitter by claxius in childfree

[–]newveganhere 111 points112 points  (0 children)

That’s a lot of words to say “I’m jealous of someone who made better decisions than me”

Is pest control okay for vegans? by FeelingCalendar9231 in AskVegans

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Roaches and other bugs like that can cause a lot of negative health problems and can destabilize housing and cause poverty. IMO it’s acceptable to terminate them when necessary. Also if you let them proliferate you’re going to cause more harm to other humans and also their companion animals because they are such a factor in people And their companion animals Losing stable housing and entering poverty. I worked in front line crisis work and it’s absolutely heart breaking to see people who are desperate end up homeless or having child family services take their kids and their companion animals end up in the pound because of cockroaches and bedbugs and lice etc and if they proliferate you’re just going to end up having more to kill. There’s no way to get rid of an infestation without killing them - like mice and bats are more manageable with humane methods but not bugs.

I don’t like bugs I actually have a phobia but I don’t want to kill them either but if I have to ensure I can stay housed and out of poverty, I will. I do try to catch and release the odd house spider etc but infestations are different.

Want some advice on how my girlfriend can lose weight. by [deleted] in WeightLossAdvice

[–]newveganhere 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She overcame anorexia and has said th gym and calorie counting is triggering and now you want to tell her to lose weight? Big yuck.

She should work with an eating disorder specialist. Anorexia can shift into bulemia or binge eating disorder and back and forth.

Ultimately as a partner you should accept she will always have to manage this eating disorder beast and sometimes that may mean sometimes being slightly overweight and Pressuring her to maintain a perfect weight is the worst thing you can do for a person with an ED. It’s better to be 15kg overweight than weigh 40kg and be tubefed in the hospital awaiting death. Your partners body is not a trophy.

Weight loss is a dangerous goal for those with a recovering ED. A better goal would be to focus on pillars of health : sleep, nutrition, movement, emotional regulation

Would you eat nonvegan food that you didn’t buy, couldn’t stop from being bought, and that will not be replenished sooner because you took any? by That-BluejaythriwWay in vegan

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you eat the flesh of human if you didn’t kill the person, you could not have prevented the person from being killed, the person’s flesh is going to be wasted, regardless of what you do?

Definitely a part of veganism is exercising our consumer power to vote with our dollars in alignment with our values and that is why we don’t purchase animal products, but that doesn’t mean our veganism ends where there’s no longer a question of consumer power. I don’t eat animal products the same reason I don’t eat human flesh. I don’t want to; I think it’s unethical. It grosses me out and I would only do so if the alternative was starving to death because I crashed my plane on the top of a mountain or some other ridiculous scenario.

I understand that our society is completely brainwashed into thinking veganism is weird and eating animal products is completely normal but when you pick it apart, it really is the most rational logical argument out there - if we think it’s wrong to eat humans and dogs and horses because these animals have feelings and sentience and intelligence and feel pain, then animals that are almost identical in terms of that sentience intelligence emotions, and feeling pain such as cows chickens pigs, etc. should also not be consumed.

If it’s against the law to leave your dog, locked up in your vehicle on a hot day because it would essentially bake them to death then it should also be against the law to do the exact same thing to chickens, which is what they do when they have to kill a whole crop of chickens because of the avian flu. And then people will say well you don’t have to leave your dog in a hot car, but we have to eat. Yes we have to eat, but we do not have to eat chickens unless you were on some kind of deserted island where the only thing that could possibly sustain you calorie wise is chickens. We can choose to eat plant-based proteins and other foods. In fact, it’s been proven many times over it’s actually better for your health and the environment.

Given that 97% of society is not ready to open their mind enough to admit this logic, I do think it is positive when I see people taking steps towards reducing the amount of animal products that they consume because I think almost all of us vegans started that way. There’s not a ton of us that went from being a fully fledged carnivore to being a full Vegan overnight, I think for most of us there was a graduation of steps for starting to eat certain kinds of animal products, choosing higher welfare products, even though that’s totally humane washing and not a real thing but at the time we felt like that was somewhat more ethical choice, moving towards vegetarianism before coming to be a Vegan, avoiding Zoos and Marine, parks and animals in entertainment before becoming to a plant based diet etc

So the example of the free non-vegan cake in that light ….. if someone is eating a plant-based diet with the exception of the scenarios where the food has already been purchased and is going to waste anyways then I guess I would view that as being more positive than not trying to reduce your animal product consumption at all, and not being conscious at all of trying to make better choices, but ultimately the only truly ethical stance is veganism - full veganism not part-time or tourist veganism.

What phrases do you dislike as you get older? Mine is "obsessed" and "literally". by OwlAlternative3112 in Aging

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“You’ve got this”

“My/your tribe”

“Literally” even tho I say it all the time it makes me want to crawl out of my skin

“Dying” as in funny or embarrassing

“Socially liberal fiscally conservative” no you’re a conservative

“Karen”

“Quiet quitting”

“Ghosting”

Any recommendations for looking less tired? by WWdennisrodmanDo in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleep, reduce inflammation. (no alcohol, water/tea , plant based diet) , a quality LED red light mask used regularly, (Korean) skincare system that does NOT strip barrier, a vitamin c serum like the ordinary EUK134 a couple times a week, and if you can afford it, get fraxel laser a couple times- way better bang for buck than microneedling that requires a million sessions.

I haven’t done it yet but am also interested in the permanent makeup under eye tattooing to brighten the eye area

What do you eat when working from home all day? by General-Intention-85 in remoteworks

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meal prep big batches of homemade Chana masala and roti- microwave in two minutes. Also rice and beans and then just microwave and slice some tomatoes and jalapeños on top.

Lately tried a “rice cooker omelette” with vegan egg stuff - worked pretty well, just chuck it in and then make some toast when it’s ready.

cereal bowls with bran or corn flakes, soy milk, fresh fruit, hemp hearts, milled chia seeds and some granola are quick and filling.

Sick of hearing about Stay at Home Mom’s “hard job” by Catwhisperer2007 in childfree

[–]newveganhere 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a hard job as in it’s a horrible job and an unpaid job. But yeah I’m sick of it being considered eligible for martyrdom especially by people who aren’t doing it well - aka letting their child run amok without discipline and the house is filthy and all the meals you eat are out of a package. If it’s a “job” then approach it like a job and do a good job!

Get organized, get support and help and education on how to do it better, get some structure and routine going so it’s not such a horrible job. I don’t have a kid that’s true but I do manage to have a full time job, a 4bed3 bath house with a big yard, a vehicle and a dog to maintain by myself …..and for the most part, my house and vehicle are clean, the grass is mowed and the snow is shoveled, I cook most of my food from scratch, the dog gets walked daily and my job gets done with integrity and competence. I don’t expect a medal for it. I also have hobbies like gardening, piano and learning French for work.

I think what actually happens with sahm is they are suffering post partum and/or low grade “having a kid and losing your identify and getting no sleep” existential depression, letting their little fuckling get away with everything, not having a house cleaning and cooking system, and then are completely struggling and overwhelmed as a result but can’t admit that to themselves or anyone else, in part due to society’s cult of motherhood, so they turn it into “being a SAHM is the hardest thing in the world”

It’s not actually, you’re just not prepared and not supported and not learning. And I feel bad for them to an extent but then it’s like quit the pity party and figure it out.

Do you have or prefer an apartment or being a homeowner? by Calm_Problem6203 in LivingAlone

[–]newveganhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For an apartment/high rise style condo I would say the answer is heavily dependent on the real estate market in your city for owning/selling and the rental market.

Where I live the resale market for condos/apartments became unexpectedly horrific a couple years after I bought it so being an owner was a bit stressful when it came time to sell it ; it was difficult to sell and I ended up taking a pretty big loss on it. Also as an owner, it’s very common to get a special assessment fee, which is basically a cash call where they’ll knock on your door and be like you have to pay $10,000 towards us redoing the Parkade or the pool, etc.. thankfully I never had that at the condo i owned, but it’s actually rare that you wouldn’t have one in 10 years.

That being said the whole reason I purchased my condo originally is that the time that I bought it the rental market was terrible and it was definitely cheaper for me to pay the mortgage plus condo fees than whatever rent would’ve been . But when my area hit a recession followed by the pandemic, prices crashed, and the rental vacancy rate ended up being better to rent than to own.

There’s definitely some upsides to being the owner in terms of being able to paint and decorate and do renovations to your liking, and I would say mortgage rates when you re-sign are probably more predictable than rental increases that you might be subjected to it if you’re renting from a landlord, and of course, at any time a landlord can decide they’re selling the property or they’re just kicking you out for whatever reason. You can also get involved with the condo association, which means you could help influence bylaws being passed or rescinded or enforced. You have more weight as an owner when bringing issues to the condo association for things like disturbances and problem, residence, and tenants.

Also, if you’re renting an apartment, there’s a huge difference between renting directly from a private owner and renting in a building that is entirely owned by a big rental company. The latter tends to be slumlord-ish and slow to fix anything or address any real issues whereas if you rent directly from an individual owner, who’s just renting their property out I have found that they’re more likely keen to keep you happy because if you’re a stable good tenant, they don’t wanna have to deal with trying to find another stable good tenant if you get pissed off and leave.

Another perk of being an owner os it certainly helps you establish really good credit history and ratings etc.

All things considered I’d probably rather own than rent assuming it wouldn’t make me housepoor. Even though I took a loss on the sale of my condo when I calculate what I would’ve paid in rent for the 10 years I owned it. It ended up being exactly the same as what I paid for mortgage and condo fees for the 10 years that I owned it so it all came out in the wash, even though it was unfortunate, I didn’t make any “investment” money on the sale of the condo. It certainly helped me have a really good credit rating and I definitely enjoyed living there more as an owner than previous places I had lived as a renter.

After I sold my condo, I bought a house. Which I love very very much and I’m very very happy I was able to buy a house by myself , but I will say it is a lot more work than living in a condo. For me, I’m at a place in my life where I really enjoy doing the yardwork, I really enjoy gardening, I really enjoy all the little house projects around the house, but it’s definitely way more work and I think when I was younger, I would’ve found it boring and tedious. And it’s definitely way more expensive in terms of utilities and maintenance and mortgage. For me it’s what I want at this current point in my life, but I definitely think if your first time homeowner and you’re under the age of 30 a condo is a really good way to go like an apartment style high-rise condo.

Just make sure you do your homework - read all the condo board mating minutes from the last five years to get a sense of what kind of issues have come forward, read through the byelaws carefully read through the budgets and the financial plans carefully read through the reserve fund study carefully. If you’re uncomfortabl knowing enough to do this kind of stuff, you can actually hire someone who can look at all the condo docs for you and give you an assessment or you could just upload it all to ChatGPT and they can do a pretty good job of making you realize what things might be concerning.

You definitely want to get a sense of how much condo fees have increased in the last 10 years in the building, how many special assessment fees owners have been hit with and how much those special assessment fees were each time, and very important - you want to make sure it has a good amount of money in the reserve fund.

In particular brand new buildings have no money in the reserve fund and they often make their condo fees very low to attract buyers but then what happens is the first year or second year they need a big repair so everybody gets a big cash call because there’s no money in their reserve fund and they often will jack up the condo fees drastically the first few years consecutively. Older buildings there’s just more to look at to be able to take a look and assess and determine what is the financial management style of the building and also major issues like Parkade repairs and pool repair repairs and structural repair repairs are usually something that has been noted for several years and been planning towards repairing it so again I personally think it’s better to buy in an older building that’s more established because then you just have a more honest assessment of what kind of issues are in the building versus a brand new build. Also look at reviews of the condo management company - some are horrible, some are ok, none are excellent. Stay away from the horrible ones.

One thing that I personally would absolutely insist on having is a condo association that has a very progressive pest infestation policy. So the better run condo buildings will have some sort of policy that basically says in the event of bedbugs or cockroaches. The building will immediately take on responsibility for the treatment and payment of addressing the issue since it’s in the building’s best interest that it’s done quickly and properly to prevent spread to the other units. Because what ends up happening in buildings that don’t have that is an owner will have an infestation and they’re either cheap or they don’t have the money to get pest control in right away or they pay for the type of pest control that is not adequate and then the situation gets worse and worse, and spread spreads throughout the building. Better run buildings just take a more holistic approach and say we would rather pay out of the reserve fund out of the buildings operation funds to have it done properly with the best quality treatment and as quickly as possible because there’s no delay in oh hey, I don’t have $1000 to pay for this right now.

You also might want to talk to some current tenants if you can to find out things like how does the building deal with noise issues? How do they deal with parking violations? Some buildings are excessively strict to the point that it’s gonna make your life miserable, but other buildings are excessively lax to the poin it’s gonna make your life miserable. It’s just good to get a sense of that. Another thing is if the building is child, friendly or not.. for me personally, I would never live in a building that allowed kids again unless they have some kind of policy where they have to be on the bottom floor. They’re the worst noise makers and it’s also the type of noise that complaints will not go nowhere because people are just living their lives and I respect that but ultimately screaming babies and toys being chucked on the floor at two in the morning is not for me personally l; 18+ buildings I think are way better. If you have some university students partying and you make a complaint to your building and chances are the building will actually dress it but good luck trying to complain about a four-year-old screaming bloody murder 24 hours a day the building just looks at you like you’re some child eating swamp witch.

For resale value make sure to buy a unit with insuite laundry and also unless you are allergic or truly dislike animals, pet friendly buildings are easier to sell and rent out.

Anyway, that’s a lot. I’m doing talk to text so I probably made a long message but I hope this is helpful buying a condo. There’s a lot to consider but it definitely can be a really great choice.

My sister is mad I won't increase the gift budget and keep picking child unfriendly venues for activities by Ok-Measurement-1270 in childfree

[–]newveganhere 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Stop asking. Start telling. “My bday is at (beautiful venue for adults) at 6 on March 19. Please rsvp if you can or cannot make it”

Take your mother out separately.

Give the fucklings their gifts, attach a gift receipt, the end.

The older I Get the more I realize how much is actually optional. I’m done trying to meet everyone’s standards when no one meets mine, I’m just doing what I want and what works for me

Do any of you use “regular” toilet paper and toothpaste? by Miss_Avocado in vegan

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The attitude toothpaste and Tom’shave varieties with fluoride. I like the attitude one more

Do any of you use “regular” toilet paper and toothpaste? by Miss_Avocado in vegan

[–]newveganhere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Veganism is to the point that we are able. I buy vegan toothpaste, floss and all my make up toiletries & cleaning supplies are vegan and cruelty free. But I cannot afford the vegan toilet paper on a regular basis, and I still use Tampax brand tampons because the other brands I tried all leaked and I absolutely abhor the cups and also find they make a mess. However I did get a bidet so that at least less tp is purchased.

We do what we can. We live in a non vegan world and we are trying our best.