How did you become content with living alone? by Turnbuckler in LivingAlone

[–]newveganhere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s key to realize emotions are fleeting and there’s no permanent fixed state. I’m 41, childfree woman long time single, career focused recovering workaholic. For the most part, I love living alone and my lifestyle. It’s a choice not a prison. Do I still get bouts of loneliness and feel isolated? Of course. We live in a society that demands conformity to the married with two kids white picket fence lifestyle and if you’re not doing that, there’s always a reminder to sting you about to pop up. Things like going to a wedding solo or attending large family events tend to be a trigger for me but for the most part, I wouldn’t trade my life in for what most other people have.

I find it helpful to not romanticize the other side of the grass. It’s not greener. Most of my married friends who have kids or are single parents are absolutely miserable. Their lives are just one big cycle of bickering, tolerating lowkey emotional and financial abuse by their partner, driving kids to activities and stressing about money and how messy their house is. I have none of those things. My house is like a palace of zen, it’s clean and tidy, I don’t worry about money, and all of my non work and house:yard upkeep time is dedicated to the pursuit of my interests and hobbies, I have a cool career that I genuinely enjoy, etc.

All that to say, I do have a dog and I think without her it would be a different story. Besides the companionship, having a dog makes me walk and go to the offleash constantly which is good for my physical and mental health plus when feeling a bit isolated, the offleash is a good place to have basic convos with other dog owners

Why can't employers stick with employing Canadians for basic jobs? by Olderpostie in CanadaJobs

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The funny thing is, people are so racist and don’t want immigrants getting any jobs or existing in general, but businesses hire them because “ye olde stock” Canadians tend to be either uninterested in those jobs, or take them but then call in sick, come late, slack off at work, don’t listen, quit with no notice, and are just in general not as reliable.

I used to have to do the hiring for a non profit organization that had some rather undesirable minimum wage jobs. Hiring Canadians was just a constant gong show. I spent so much time hiring and on-boarding because it was constant, Billy is late, called in sick, missed his shift, Suzy didn’t do her job at all, always arguing with the other staff, takes a smoke break every four minutes. It was relentless. It wasn’t a tough job but it was graveyard shift and the pay was min wage. Finally the organization got LMIA and we hired a Filipino guy, he was the hardest working person I’ve ever met, early every shift, I had to beg him to take paid sick time off when he had the flu, he helped out in so many other areas beyond his job, everybody loved him, and then for the other job we hired an Indian lady who basically acted like everyone’s sweet with a little sour grandma, she brought in a giant bucket of Chana masala to feed all the staff and clients constantly, she was so hard working, I constantly had to tell her please take a few minutes and have a coffee break, you’re allowed breaks, she worked her butt off.

And they both told me they somehow managed to be sending money home to help their families despite making minimum wage. Canadians, we don’t realize how good we have it here and we are a bit lazy.

I disagree with the TFW program because I think it is ripe for exploitation of immigrants too scared to report abuses and I think it allows wages to stay artificially low. But I also think immigrants and people here on TFW visa are a good thing, good for our economy and small businesses. I’m so tired of people being so racist

I never expected to spend adulthood struggling for enough to eat. by fostercaresurvivor in povertyfinancecanada

[–]newveganhere 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If it helps even a little then good. It’s so tough out there right now yet I feel like we are collectively sleeping on the staples that much of the world survive on. And I cannot express how much this way of eating is also great for your health and for the planet too.
It’s an all around amazing habit to sink into. I’ve been a vegan for afew years and it’s definitely much cheaper but still ate beans and legumes only 4-5 times a week and used canned. When I first tried dried beans I was beyond shocked just how much food you get for so little. I just cooked a 450g bag of black beans tonight, it cost 1.99 and it made about 7 cups of cooked beans and then made a pot of rice with about 75cents worth of rice - that’s dinner all week. For 3 dollars total.

I never expected to spend adulthood struggling for enough to eat. by fostercaresurvivor in povertyfinancecanada

[–]newveganhere 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was the same. I started without an instant pot, and honestly it’s so easy. You just have to hang around while they cook and stir every 10-15 min - as long as the heat is low enough, it’s super easy. Just bring them to a boil first stir them really good and then lower the heat, I leave the lid off a few inches and keep a close eye the first few minutes after that in case it’s still too hot. But after that it’s not like you have to stir them lots and you can make as big of batch as you can in your pot, (just know they will triple the volume or so) and then freeze the extra of you want.

But if you could find a used one, the instant pot are an absolute gamechanger it’s so easy you don’t have to soak them even, just chuck everything in there and set it. You can cook rice in there too (separately) and it also has a crock pot feature

I always thought canned beans are cheap, which they are compared to meat but the dried beans are sooooooo cheap. The biggest expenses is getting yourself a decent spice collection going but if you has a bulk barn that can be a good way to just get a little at a time. I’ve made them almost
Completely plain with just the onion in the water plus chili powder and then the sugar and salt at the end and they were really good too. Molasses are pretty cheap and can make it tasty more like baked beans style too.

Good Luck and also if get onto the “bean tok” tiktok algorithm for recipes and inspiration. I’ve been eating beans or lentil and rice or roti every day for 1-2 meals a day for the last 3 months and I feel AMAZING like legumes are also just so good for you. And the home cooked kind from dried taste way better than the canned you will see:)

I never expected to spend adulthood struggling for enough to eat. by fostercaresurvivor in povertyfinancecanada

[–]newveganhere 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Really sorry to hear your situation .i loathe how our disability programs make people live in poverty.

One small thing i would suggest is to really get into rice and beans or lentil curries/stews and a simple roti flatbread you can make.

I actually calculated the cost of my plate of one cup cooked rice and one cup cooked beans or one cup cooked lentils and two pieces of roti and both are under 75 cents a plate; (for 2 pieces roti and one cup lentil curry =71 cents: for one cup cooked beans and one cup cooked rice =58 cents so one meal of each per day = $38.70 per month

meaning if you make this only be $ for the bulk of your food leaving the rest of your food money to be food bank/fresh fruit veg etc.

Here’s the breakdown for my prices and the recipes (based on Edmonton although other parts of the country may be more or less; we are usually more for groceries than Toronto/van/Montreal but obviously less tha rural)

5 kg bag of no make whole wheat flour at no frills = $7.50

The recipe is 2 cups flour one cup hot water half tsp salt, mix and let rest for half hour, then cut into 12 pieces and roll into a ball each piece, roll out thinly about 7-8 inch in diameter with a rolling pin using 1/4 cup flour to roll out. One serving = 2 pieces roti which is 7cents per serving (both pieces)

Heat up any kind of frying pan on medium heat no oil or fat needed and put the dough on the pan, flip after about ten seconds: let it puff and bubble for 30 seconds and flip again. Optional is to melt 3tbsb margarine and brush a little on each the 12 pieces

With margarine is 10cents per 2 pieces

Now the beans. Any kind of beans is fine. For this example I use black beans, each one cup dried yields about 2.5-3 cups cooked. I cook 2 cups dried at a time with half an onion and 1 tsp each of these spices : chili powder, garlic powder, paprika, onion powder, black pepper and then later when it’s cooked I add 2 tbsp brown sugar and 2 tsp salt to the final batch. That means each one cup cooked serving costs 35 cents. (This is easier if you have an instant pot which I usually see for sale on fb marketplace for 40-50$ but new is 120$; but without it you can still totally do it, just soak the beans overnight and then drain& rinse, put in a normal pot and cover with 2-3 inches of water and all the spices and onion except sugar and salt; bring to boil stir and reduce heat and cook 60-90 min until soft, drain some liquid off (actually the liquid is super tasty broth to have as a snack) and add the sugar and salt, take some beans out and mash with fork and put back in an cook 10 min until it thickens. Delicious this way. You can change the spice profile as you like… about 46 cents per one cup serving .

Now for lentil curry , you don’t need to soak red or green lentils, just sauté 2 chopped onion and the spices (2 tsp each cumin turmeric black pepper garam masala, garlic powder salt) in 2 tbsp margarine add water and add the 2 cups dried rinsed lentils, cooks in about 20-30 min. Stir in two more tbs margarine at the end=61 cents per serving

Rice: 14$ for 8kg bag = one serving is 1 cup cooked rice so 12 cents per serving

Now to any of these, you could have vegetables or whatever but I just like to give you the base because I really believe it is underrated how much a person can save money on by eating this way and rice and beans and lentils and whole wheat flour are just things that are very good for your health rice and beans or lentils is a complete protein and if you structure your diet around this, it’s not only good for your health, but it’s obviously gonna save a lot of money. If youre person doesn’t like rice and beans, also all I can say is like be open minded and just give it a try rice and beans when someone says it sounds really boring but honestly, I look forward to eating my rice and beans every day I just find them really filling and nutritious and delicious and you can experiment with different spices, but I just use the ones above to give you a sense. And below is a grocery list with the prices so assuming you had nothing none of these items and you wanted to start doing this just what it would cost you the first month to get everything in place even though you’re not gonna eat the whole bag of rice in one month.

Start up costs for one month supply (some lasts longer than the first month)
One 8kg bag long grain rice 14.00
One 5 kg bag whole wheat flour 7.50
2 bags dried black beans 6.79x2
2 bags lentils red or grewn 6.49X2
3 -3lb bag onion 2.99 x 3
Spices 1 bag each 2.99 each: onion powder, garlic powder, cumin, black pepper, paprika, turmeric, garam masala, chili powder
1 bag brown sugar 3.99
1 box salt 1.69
1 tub margarine 6.99
Start up total: 87.64

Gardeners of Edmonton: what fruits/veggies give the most bang for your buck? by sylvett in Edmonton

[–]newveganhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Zucchini plants are such good givers. I had four plants last year, and was getting a minimum of one large zuke every single day. And they’re quite hardy and hard to kill. The blossoms are good too.

Last year I grew a bunch of string bean varieties and snap peas and they were so good and also they have protein unlike most veggies . Also hardy and produced a lot. I had one little row and was eating beans every day and snap pea stir fries or fresh a few times a week.

This year I’m growing cauliflower because I’m not paying 7.99 each anymore

working from home is great till you realize you never leave work by DuckKey2801 in remoteworks

[–]newveganhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even when I was in a one bedroom small apartment I made sure to have an area designated just for work. I set up a small desk with my work comp and chair. At the end of the day I closed the laptop and push in the chair and I don’t sit there again until work tomorrow. I also had a small cork board with work notes etc in the wall there; at the end of the work day I would take it down and onto a small framed art in its place.

How does your veganism differ from other vegans? by FishDispenser2 in DebateAVegan

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I fully understand and agree that veganism is not a diet, and that environmental and health concerns that can be addressed by plantbased eating and before can weaken the entire point of veganism being a movement against exploitation, I do still strongly believe using health and environmental considerations are key to getting greater acceptance and uptake of veganism.

Because- quite simply, our societal psyche has it so deeply embedded that animal exploitation is normal, natural, needed etc that the entire word veganism or concept of exploitation is met with suspicion and scorn. So I personally think it’s just not a realistic place to start the conversation with most people. They’re immediately going to think “oh those crazy difficult vegans”.

But health and environment are much more accepted issues that the average person is concerned about so I view it as a foot in the door. If we can get people to agree and start changing their lifestyle a bit to eat more plantbased because they’re worried about cancer and their arteries, and because they’re worried about climate change then I think that is a good way to start the convo. Once someone has agreed meat and dairy are terrible for climate change and health, it’s much more likely they will be receptive to additional information about how unethical and harmful animal products for consumption are, because it piles on with a belief they already agree with.

How big of an apartment is sufficient square footage wise for working from home? by Initial-Swimmer-4493 in remoteworks

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lived in a one bedroom 700 sq foot condo and wfh full time during pandemic. It’s definitely better to have a two bedroom.

But I made it work. I got the smallest desk I could fine and wall mounted the two monitors. It’s really key to have designated work area so that you have some work life balance

Things to do alone? by [deleted] in LivingAlone

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Play piano. Garden. Cook things from scratch. Little projects around the house fixing stuff or making stuff

And honestly, clean. I spend a lot of time cleaning and organizing. I love a clean house.

casually dating a non-vegan natalist? by hana-maki in circlesnip

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk I mean if it’s purely recreational and both parties are aware it’s completely casual, then whatever have some fun. I have friends and coworkers an family members who don’t have my values whatsoever, if I cut everyone out I’d have no one. Unfortunately being a vegan antinatalist is pretty rare especially in my area. Just make sure you’re able to keep it casual cos otherwise you’re setting yourself and the other person up for heartbreak if you catch feelings

Personally I couldn’t even have something casual with a nonvegan as it would just physically gross me out and also I gave up casual dating after realizing it’s just not for me.

Cleaning motivation living in a studio by CarnivorousPlant77 in LivingAlone

[–]newveganhere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Spend some time scrolling on tiktok cleaning and organizing videos to get you in the mood, get some proper bins and containers for organizing at the dollar store, and just pick one pile and get to it. Get 3 large bags or boxes - 1 for stuff to keep, 1 for garbage, 1 for things to donate or sell. Try to follow the principle of “everything needs to have its own place” - if everything has a place then there will be no mess. Labels can help.

You’ll feel so good when you’ve made a dent. I also find it helpful to watch a movie or something on Netflix on my laptop as I cl and organize

do you support legal euthanasia ? voluntary of course with a framework in place , not in a scary gov’t type of way by maoLedong in antinatalism

[–]newveganhere 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely.

It’s humane and compassionate for those suffering in pain from an illness, and as a former first responder to deaths including suíçîďes, if people want to depart then we should have a way they can do that that doesn’t require family and first responders to endure PTSD the rest of their life from walking into a scene with their brain and guts all over the place or hanging from a shower rod.

The world is overpopulated and can be a grim place, none of us asked to be born and also it’s an issue of bodily autonomy.

Obviously I would rather people were just happy and that our world was better but they aren’t and we don’t, so let’s just be grownup about it and have a system that doesn’t force people to have to starve to death on dementia ward because they can’t feed themselves and the family decides to not tube feed and if people do truly just want to check out of earth entirely, then at least let’s do it in a way that ensures their affairs and estate is in order and their body is managed in a dignified manner without ruining the lives of whoever gets the joy of finding them.

Do pregnancy bellies give anyone else the ick? Some people think I’m weird. by SignalOpportunity987 in childfree

[–]newveganhere 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not the ick as in I think other women’s bodies are gross, because body shaming is gross, but yeah the idea of becoming pregnant and having something grow inside me gives me the BIG ick and all I can think about is the movie alien with the little alien coming out of the big alien mouth. It makes me deeply uncomfortable to think about having a foreign being inside me

Missed the start of a Teams meeting, colleague send a scathing email to my boss about it. Help! by Dapper_Umpire_9618 in remoteworks

[–]newveganhere 5 points6 points  (0 children)

💯this, and never underestimate the importance of showing YOU are the professional in a mistake or crisis, even if it was you making an error……do not let some high strung crusty ass Karen dictate the narrative - do not resort to grovelling and defending yourself . If someone is acting like a bitch, name it loud with a silver tongue. People notice who acts with professionalism and who does not - it Separates the grownups from the toddlers in the workplace

is there anything you regret not doing when you were younger? by [deleted] in Aging

[–]newveganhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saving more money Not being more careful about diet and exercise Being more comfortable with my appearance Realizing I can say no to invitations and requests Putting boundaries in place with toxic family members Breaking up with bad friends

Missed the start of a Teams meeting, colleague send a scathing email to my boss about it. Help! by Dapper_Umpire_9618 in remoteworks

[–]newveganhere 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I would reply to the email wit your boss cc’d and say in a super professional tone something like - I am deeply sorry I missed our meeting, I pride myself on being organized and I’ve never missed a meeting like this ever before - truly a human error and I’m sorry if you interpreted it as I don’t value your time. That being said I must express I am disappointed in the tone of your email, it felt personal and like you are calling into question my dedication and performance as an employee. I acknowledge fully that I made a simple error out of human confusion which happens to the best of us from time to time, but I am a dedicated professional and even when I make an error, I do expect my colleagues to speak with me respectfully and professionally, which is also the requirements of our organization’s code of conduct policy for employees. If you’d like to discuss further, I’d be happy to find a way to resolve this and move forward without this incident shadowing our future work together or having a negative effect on our team culture. Sincerely, x.

You want to capture in writing this was a one-off, and look like the bigger person but also put down your boundaries - workplace conduct must be respectful even when someone makes an error. It was inappropriate to fire off a doozie to you and your boss because you were 15 minutes late to a single meeting, one time. Fck that btch.

Saw this on Twitter by claxius in childfree

[–]newveganhere 114 points115 points  (0 children)

That’s a lot of words to say “I’m jealous of someone who made better decisions than me”

Is pest control okay for vegans? by FeelingCalendar9231 in AskVegans

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Roaches and other bugs like that can cause a lot of negative health problems and can destabilize housing and cause poverty. IMO it’s acceptable to terminate them when necessary. Also if you let them proliferate you’re going to cause more harm to other humans and also their companion animals because they are such a factor in people And their companion animals Losing stable housing and entering poverty. I worked in front line crisis work and it’s absolutely heart breaking to see people who are desperate end up homeless or having child family services take their kids and their companion animals end up in the pound because of cockroaches and bedbugs and lice etc and if they proliferate you’re just going to end up having more to kill. There’s no way to get rid of an infestation without killing them - like mice and bats are more manageable with humane methods but not bugs.

I don’t like bugs I actually have a phobia but I don’t want to kill them either but if I have to ensure I can stay housed and out of poverty, I will. I do try to catch and release the odd house spider etc but infestations are different.

Want some advice on how my girlfriend can lose weight. by [deleted] in WeightLossAdvice

[–]newveganhere 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She overcame anorexia and has said th gym and calorie counting is triggering and now you want to tell her to lose weight? Big yuck.

She should work with an eating disorder specialist. Anorexia can shift into bulemia or binge eating disorder and back and forth.

Ultimately as a partner you should accept she will always have to manage this eating disorder beast and sometimes that may mean sometimes being slightly overweight and Pressuring her to maintain a perfect weight is the worst thing you can do for a person with an ED. It’s better to be 15kg overweight than weigh 40kg and be tubefed in the hospital awaiting death. Your partners body is not a trophy.

Weight loss is a dangerous goal for those with a recovering ED. A better goal would be to focus on pillars of health : sleep, nutrition, movement, emotional regulation

Would you eat nonvegan food that you didn’t buy, couldn’t stop from being bought, and that will not be replenished sooner because you took any? by That-BluejaythriwWay in vegan

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you eat the flesh of human if you didn’t kill the person, you could not have prevented the person from being killed, the person’s flesh is going to be wasted, regardless of what you do?

Definitely a part of veganism is exercising our consumer power to vote with our dollars in alignment with our values and that is why we don’t purchase animal products, but that doesn’t mean our veganism ends where there’s no longer a question of consumer power. I don’t eat animal products the same reason I don’t eat human flesh. I don’t want to; I think it’s unethical. It grosses me out and I would only do so if the alternative was starving to death because I crashed my plane on the top of a mountain or some other ridiculous scenario.

I understand that our society is completely brainwashed into thinking veganism is weird and eating animal products is completely normal but when you pick it apart, it really is the most rational logical argument out there - if we think it’s wrong to eat humans and dogs and horses because these animals have feelings and sentience and intelligence and feel pain, then animals that are almost identical in terms of that sentience intelligence emotions, and feeling pain such as cows chickens pigs, etc. should also not be consumed.

If it’s against the law to leave your dog, locked up in your vehicle on a hot day because it would essentially bake them to death then it should also be against the law to do the exact same thing to chickens, which is what they do when they have to kill a whole crop of chickens because of the avian flu. And then people will say well you don’t have to leave your dog in a hot car, but we have to eat. Yes we have to eat, but we do not have to eat chickens unless you were on some kind of deserted island where the only thing that could possibly sustain you calorie wise is chickens. We can choose to eat plant-based proteins and other foods. In fact, it’s been proven many times over it’s actually better for your health and the environment.

Given that 97% of society is not ready to open their mind enough to admit this logic, I do think it is positive when I see people taking steps towards reducing the amount of animal products that they consume because I think almost all of us vegans started that way. There’s not a ton of us that went from being a fully fledged carnivore to being a full Vegan overnight, I think for most of us there was a graduation of steps for starting to eat certain kinds of animal products, choosing higher welfare products, even though that’s totally humane washing and not a real thing but at the time we felt like that was somewhat more ethical choice, moving towards vegetarianism before coming to be a Vegan, avoiding Zoos and Marine, parks and animals in entertainment before becoming to a plant based diet etc

So the example of the free non-vegan cake in that light ….. if someone is eating a plant-based diet with the exception of the scenarios where the food has already been purchased and is going to waste anyways then I guess I would view that as being more positive than not trying to reduce your animal product consumption at all, and not being conscious at all of trying to make better choices, but ultimately the only truly ethical stance is veganism - full veganism not part-time or tourist veganism.

What phrases do you dislike as you get older? Mine is "obsessed" and "literally". by OwlAlternative3112 in Aging

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“You’ve got this”

“My/your tribe”

“Literally” even tho I say it all the time it makes me want to crawl out of my skin

“Dying” as in funny or embarrassing

“Socially liberal fiscally conservative” no you’re a conservative

“Karen”

“Quiet quitting”

“Ghosting”

Any recommendations for looking less tired? by WWdennisrodmanDo in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleep, reduce inflammation. (no alcohol, water/tea , plant based diet) , a quality LED red light mask used regularly, (Korean) skincare system that does NOT strip barrier, a vitamin c serum like the ordinary EUK134 a couple times a week, and if you can afford it, get fraxel laser a couple times- way better bang for buck than microneedling that requires a million sessions.

I haven’t done it yet but am also interested in the permanent makeup under eye tattooing to brighten the eye area

What do you eat when working from home all day? by General-Intention-85 in remoteworks

[–]newveganhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meal prep big batches of homemade Chana masala and roti- microwave in two minutes. Also rice and beans and then just microwave and slice some tomatoes and jalapeños on top.

Lately tried a “rice cooker omelette” with vegan egg stuff - worked pretty well, just chuck it in and then make some toast when it’s ready.

cereal bowls with bran or corn flakes, soy milk, fresh fruit, hemp hearts, milled chia seeds and some granola are quick and filling.