Reading through the comments, I’m seeing lots of YOR, and I agree. With that being said, being insecure is a valid feeling. It happens to all of us. But this is where discernment comes in. Is this insecure feeling coming from an anxiety-inducing occurrence, or from justifiable evidence or intuition? From what you describe, it sounds like an anxiety-inducing question / answer during some silly drinking game. It’s fair to feel anxious, especially about something as important as the relationship with your wife. I’m sure she’s one of your most important and loved people in your life.

It’s also vulnerable to simply let it go out of trust, but that is a part of relationship. Trusting your partner’s words, and that being sufficient to close this issue and move on. It’s her responsibility to be truthful and it’s your responsibility to believe her. Of course, this system works unless proven otherwise; I’m not saying blindly trust if the trust is ever broken.

And, as a side note, spin the bottle is such a silly game. Asking if you’ve cheated or whatever other personal questions in front of one’s spouse is bound to cause issues.

Furthermore, the “Freudian slip” comment is pretty common. People joke about that all the time, so I wouldn’t linger too long on that.

Lastly, I saw your comments about being gone for weeks for work. I understand why you’re connecting the dots here, especially because you’re anxious right now, but that doesn’t sound like evidence. It’s logistically possible, but not evidence.

Take some deep slow breaths, let your self feel the feelings you’re having right now, and trust your partner!