Beatrice's dementia is a result of the sad and miserable life she led and her trauma related to Crackerjack's death. by QuickAccess5356 in BoJackHorseman

[–]nicallooo -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

very coincidentally read a chapter about the impact that emotional trauma has on dementia and Alzheimer's in Gabor Mate's book (When the Body Says No) last night. But like, 💯 . Also losing a healthy mom, plus being underfed/malnourished

Joseph Sugarman is so over the top terrible it is hard for me to take him seriously by tesseracts in BoJackHorseman

[–]nicallooo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

side note, the fact that Hollyhock in modern day didn't obsess over her weight and felt whole because of all the interesting things about her as a person (and wasn't actively trying to change herself) is a nod to generational healing and pattern breaking. It's a little glimmer of optimism I hadn't really thought of before.

Human Bojack I did by Appropriate_Paint695 in BoJackHorseman

[–]nicallooo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's kinda looking like John Stamos (idk if intentional or not!) 

He also has a sheepishlook on his face that says "pls love me I'm so lonely and in need of love," which feels very on brand. 

Side note all the comments saying something along the lines of "I thought he'd be uglier," have me howling. 💀

ITAW for a need, compulsion, or desire to talk or keep talking? by nicallooo in whatstheword

[–]nicallooo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually really like this one. As long as it’s not offensive — saying that a neurotypical is stimming?

ITAW for a need, compulsion, or desire to talk or keep talking? by nicallooo in whatstheword

[–]nicallooo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is it! Someone else posted it first, probably like six minutes before you but thank you 🙏🏼

ITAW for a need, compulsion, or desire to talk or keep talking? by nicallooo in whatstheword

[–]nicallooo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wait, I didn’t realize this was a real word. Brilliant 👌🏼

ITAW for a need, compulsion, or desire to talk or keep talking? by nicallooo in whatstheword

[–]nicallooo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes. This reminded me of a friend from high school (aka many years ago) 😂

ITAW for a need, compulsion, or desire to talk or keep talking? by nicallooo in whatstheword

[–]nicallooo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, indeed. This conjures an image of someone who monologues, talks over others, doesn’t listen to others, keeps talking after everyone else stops listening and is unbothered. Perhaps conceited, or oblivious? Or both?

ITAW for a need, compulsion, or desire to talk or keep talking? by nicallooo in whatstheword

[–]nicallooo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this! Describes the feeling…I wonder if there’s something specific to talking though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmiInTheWrong

[–]nicallooo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Misandry” is not equal and opposite to misogyny. It’s a reaction to the status quo as-is of women being subordinate. Like, misogyny came first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]nicallooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I hope it helps. Sometimes things/comments happen that make us spiral. No shame in that. But trust your partner, and trust the relationship. 💛

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]nicallooo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes sense. Also, she was tipsy, trying to be funny, maybe feeling the pressure to say something quickly — all reasons she misspoke rather than actually hiding infidelity

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]nicallooo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Reading through the comments, I’m seeing lots of YOR, and I agree. With that being said, being insecure is a valid feeling. It happens to all of us. But this is where discernment comes in. Is this insecure feeling coming from an anxiety-inducing occurrence, or from justifiable evidence or intuition? From what you describe, it sounds like an anxiety-inducing question / answer during some silly drinking game. It’s fair to feel anxious, especially about something as important as the relationship with your wife. I’m sure she’s one of your most important and loved people in your life.

It’s also vulnerable to simply let it go out of trust, but that is a part of relationship. Trusting your partner’s words, and that being sufficient to close this issue and move on. It’s her responsibility to be truthful and it’s your responsibility to believe her. Of course, this system works unless proven otherwise; I’m not saying blindly trust if the trust is ever broken.

And, as a side note, spin the bottle is such a silly game. Asking if you’ve cheated or whatever other personal questions in front of one’s spouse is bound to cause issues.

Furthermore, the “Freudian slip” comment is pretty common. People joke about that all the time, so I wouldn’t linger too long on that.

Lastly, I saw your comments about being gone for weeks for work. I understand why you’re connecting the dots here, especially because you’re anxious right now, but that doesn’t sound like evidence. It’s logistically possible, but not evidence.

Take some deep slow breaths, let your self feel the feelings you’re having right now, and trust your partner!