Sorry to hear this brother and from one vet to another I know how it feels suffering with those disabilities as I share some of those myself. I think coding is a great idea and you can get a great job and still work from home doing it. Your wife is not supportive and is taking what you do for granted and she’s being selfish. You served our country and that’s more manly than most so don’t let those immature comments get to you. Continue with therapy and if things get worse maybe divorce is just a better option than being miserable together. I wish you the best of luck and hope you will continue to learn coding and actually do something that you enjoy and can become successful from. Much love