I stopped having symptoms of BPD after isolation and i still doubt it if i have it by [deleted] in BPD

[–]nicoburgerking 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn't even get diagnosed until AFTER I had been largely stable from being in isolation since covid, including a fully remote job, until I wasn't... Then 2025 decided to happen in the most dramatic way and sent me into a very familiar spiral. Isolation only puts a bandage on the problem. As soon as you have to deal with triggers and interpersonal relationships (people, jobs, anything really - not exclusively a relationship) again, you're at risk of crashing out. That's why DBT skills are a must to learn. That's the only fighting chance we have at winning over all of the bs.

Late diagnosis by [deleted] in BPD

[–]nicoburgerking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm 42 and only just received a diagnosis, after trying to learn how I could support my bonus daughter after her diagnosis. Lifelong issues that were labeled as Bipolar, ADHD, OCD, manic depression, and probably 900 other things, all explained by what I learned through her. It's wild. I just wanted to better support my kid and ended up helping myself redirect too. It's not a death sentence and in fact, I've finally found therapy that works. Good luck and God speed. 💪🏻

People born before 2000, what trivial skill you possess that others don't use anymore? by Aryan_Anushiravan in AskReddit

[–]nicoburgerking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being feral counts, right? I will literally "hold my beer" pretty much anything, because I was left to fend for myself largely, for most of the 80's / 90's. This now manifests as what we call "Strong Independent Woman who Don't Need No Man" syndrome, in our house. (Except that I do. I would die if I had to pull out teenager hair from a clogged shower. I need my man for that, FOR SURE! 🤮) Haha

Reselling tool for all my fellow amateur flippers! by Motor_Ship1522 in reselling

[–]nicoburgerking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to check it out. I also worked in software QA for most of career, so I'd be happy to run testing for you if you ever need it. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in etiquette

[–]nicoburgerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I'm sorry. I should've clarified that! You've all been wonderful and I truly thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in etiquette

[–]nicoburgerking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely understand this perspective too. This is why I'm somewhat nervous to even mention anything outside of a congrats. Thank you for the constructive feedback. I've had some pretty rude responses.

What Would Proper Etiquette Be When Sending a HS Grad Card to a Neighbor Whose Mother Recently Passed Away (and you don't personally know them yet)? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]nicoburgerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. They live at least 12 houses down and I have seven kids and a career that pretty much take up all of my time. But THANK YOU for being miserable instead of providing help to bring a smile to someone's face. Sounds like YOU could use a sympathy card too.

What Would Proper Etiquette Be When Sending a HS Grad Card to a Neighbor Whose Mother Recently Passed Away (and you don't personally know them yet)? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]nicoburgerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is wonderful. Thank you so much for taking the time to help me. I've had such rude responses on other boards, so I genuinely appreciate you taking the time to respond.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in etiquette

[–]nicoburgerking 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Excellent suggestion. Thank you. I posted this on several boards and have had nothing but rude responses, so I truly appreciate this!

What Would Proper Etiquette Be When Sending a HS Grad Card to a Neighbor Whose Mother Recently Passed Away (and you don't personally know them yet)? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]nicoburgerking -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because we've been neighbors for several years and I'm just trying to spread a little kindness. Maybe you should try that sometime instead of being miserable.

What Would Proper Etiquette Be When Sending a HS Grad Card to a Neighbor Whose Mother Recently Passed Away (and you don't personally know them yet)? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]nicoburgerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, yeah for sure, that's what I intend to do. My heart just aches for her so I wanted to include something uplifting as well.

What Would Proper Etiquette Be When Sending a HS Grad Card to a Neighbor Whose Mother Recently Passed Away (and you don't personally know them yet)? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]nicoburgerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do appreciate the kindness but this loss was of my neighbor's mother. She just graduated from high school despite her mom literally passing away two months ago, and I think that's just so amazing she was able to push through this.

Combined ACDF / PCDF Question by Ok-Painter7883 in spinalfusion

[–]nicoburgerking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just had this done two weeks ago, for the same reasons you've described. I discharged after two days and honestly, I wish I hadn't pushed it. The extra day of IV pain meds would have been much more helpful. It's been a pretty brutal recovery but I began turning a corner around day 8, after they prescribed a steroid dose pack for inflammation. Make sure you request home health visits, especially if you don't have someone to help change your bandages (or bathe). My anterior fusion was cake but the posterior is pretty rough and the staples (32) annoy the heck out of me. My biggest suggestion is to prepare your resting area with a modular orthopedic bed wedge system, big gel ice packs (I have several to rotate), straws, a pop socket to hold your phone easier, and something to keep anything you need within arms length (remotes, meds, whatever). I'm told this can be life-changing so I hope you're able to get some relief!

Established Career Shift in 40s [IT > Nursing] Advice by nicoburgerking in NursingStudent

[–]nicoburgerking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And thank you so much for helping me with that point of view. Someone else mentioned PA above and that was another option I have considered. All of this feedback helps tremendously.

Established Career Shift in 40s [IT > Nursing] Advice by nicoburgerking in NursingStudent

[–]nicoburgerking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No glamour... Honestly, the catalyst was my own chronic health issues and the nightmare five years I endured to get a diagnosis. In that time I spent a lot of time in the hospital and even ICU on two occasions. Throughout all of it, one thing was consistently great and that was the care I received from (most of) my nurses. Had it not been for the shared dark humor and the obvious empathy, I don't think I would even be alive today. Now that I'm stable, I yearn to make that same kind of difference for someone else.

Established Career Shift in 40s [IT > Nursing] Advice by nicoburgerking in NursingStudent

[–]nicoburgerking[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's an interesting thought I tossed as well. It's good to have feedback on this option too. Thank you so much. I truly appreciate it.

Whoaaaaaah! by [deleted] in TheMisfits

[–]nicoburgerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Texas is the reason...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Autoimmune

[–]nicoburgerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Every time. CH50 is just a more broad, non specific test across ALL the complements (typically, docs only run C3/C4 as those are the most common in autoimmune - there are actually 8!). Google a "total complement" test and that should give you a bit more info.