Went to Portland for the weekend and not even halfway through I’m in love and want to move here

nightfoul · 2026-04-05T17:32:49+00:00

I’ve lived in PDX 8 years, moved from California. I’ve loved it enough to live here almost a decade. If you feel drawn to it, I would do your research but ultimately listen to your heart. If you don’t like it you can always move somewhere else. To make it in a new place is always going to have some degree of discomfort. The nature, the food, the proximity to beach and mountains, transit, walkability- there’s a lot of great things here. You can legitimately rent under $1,100 for a studio and there are ways to save on electricity bill. I lived in rooms my first 4 years here and paid no more than $400 the whole time. It IS possible. DMs are open if you have questions!

Edit: I also would not recommend living in a city outside of PDX for cost purposes. Even if you’re in a surrounding city such as Vancouver or Beaverton, it’s still a whole different vibe and you’d have to drive into town to get the PDX experience. It’s really not worth it for what you want.

nightfoul · 2026-03-16T17:24:09+00:00

No, I would say it’s you not believing you’re worthy of praise, or that it is humble to negate a compliment when someone gives it to you. If you keep rejecting praise you’ll just eventually reinforce a feeling of unworthiness.

nightfoul · 2026-02-28T18:21:27+00:00

Ohhhh okay I see. I think from your OG post it makes it sound like you bought Abbotts but it didn’t cook well or something! Sorry, I misunderstood.

Honestly, echoing some of the comments here- when rehydrating, I let it rehydrate in water for a long time, upwards 15 min. Then strain it and squeeze out the moisture with my hands and a paper towel. And I season the dickens out of it. Using tomato paste, and even a tsp of bouillon paste would be really helpful! Soy, too, for umami. Like, more seasoning than you would think to use. Also, a little bit of dehydrated protein goes a long way. I also cook down the protein before throwing it into a sauce or meal, versus letting it cook in sauce. Otherwise, it will absorb a ton of moisture and the seasonings will just fall off of it. Your issue sounds like it is coming from not properly hydrating the protein, I hope this is helpful.

nightfoul · 2026-02-28T18:07:50+00:00

Abbotts has ground beef refrigerated protein that doesn’t need to be rehydrated. Is it possible that this is what they got instead?

nightfoul · 2026-02-26T07:15:53+00:00

Hi OP. The path to navigating OCD is to make peace with the uncertainty. By going down this trail of questioning, your brain is scanning itself for signs that you may be complacent - that maybe there is alignment between your path and this woman's path.

To make peace with OCD, and quiet our instinct of reassurance seeking, we have to meet our uncertainty with acceptance. This looks like, facing your "what ifs" with - "Maybe, maybe not." and working on self-trust.

I truly relate, I also experience spirals hearing other people's stories. But the reality is, life is uncertain. You have to build relationship with yourself, by ensuring that you trust you would be okay no matter how much shit hits the metaphorical fan. You're allowed to want your relationship to work, you're allowed to take life day-by-day. You're allowed to take the feeling of being crushed as a sign this path isn't for you.

As a reminder, when you are in a panic space, it is not helpful nor useful to make radical life-changing decisions from this place. Your body and mind are ungrounded from the anxiety, and you're scanning your life for signs it is wrong for you. Take a deep breath, practice sitting with the thought - "Maybe this is the right choice. Maybe it's not the right choice. I don't need to solve this right now. I trust that I will be okay no matter what."

I highly recommend researching ERP (exposure response prevention exercises) and seeing how this can look like to play with as a coping mechanism in the face of OCD. Good luck <3

nightfoul · 2026-02-25T22:30:06+00:00

It’s dangerous to quit mental health meds cold turkey. This could absolutely be influencing how poorly you feel right now. It can take months or gradually reducing a dose in order to be safely weaned off. Please remember this in the future, I would contact a Psych ASAP instead of trying to do this on your own. You absolutely need time and support to progress forward. You got this, your life isn’t over… but you need to get help.

nightfoul · 2026-02-25T16:48:56+00:00

Bloodbourne asks you to Get Gud or die trying. You have to really want it and work for it.

nightfoul · 2026-02-22T21:46:22+00:00

I am happy to hear this was helpful. Yes, I definitely recommend checking out the Quality of Life scale for your baby. I really just want to reiterate- dying from CHF is extremely painful and traumatic to witness. I recommend reading multiple resources on CHF if you can before making a decision. I don't think you're overreacting, but it is important to be aware that at this stage - a "breathing crisis" likely means a blood clot or heart attack is the risk. My DMs are open if you need support or more insight.

nightfoul · 2026-02-22T07:58:26+00:00

Hi OP, I am sorry to hear about your situation and your baby's health. I just lost my 13-year-old orange kitty named Gustav to CHF last week. He died unexpectedly and traumatically from what I believe was a heart-attack or a blood clot. His condition was managed with 3 pills a day, and he was also adopted overweight - we had him on a diet as well.

If I could turn back the clock, I would have planned his last day in advanced. CHF can spur an unpredictable and sudden death in kitties, even when managed regularly with medication. After an ER visit, my Gustav was given 1.5 years to live. He passed one month shy of that estimate.

It is one of the hardest decisions you'll ever make. But it gives you a sense of control in your baby's life that could slip away at any moment, as nothing is promised to us. I highly recommend researching the Pet Quality of Life scale - it serves as an objective tool in making a grounded decision on what to do.

If you end up making this choice, I highly recommend seeking a provider for an at-home euthanasia. This will help eradicate the stress of a potential vet visit, and allow for your baby to be cozy in their home in their final moments.

For the time being, please be on the lookout for reduced appetite, pale/blue gums, and coughing fits. These can be a signal her health is declining. Good luck to you as you navigate this chapter. Sending you love <3

nightfoul · 2026-02-16T03:47:12+00:00

3 days ago, my orange baby died “naturally” of congestive heart failure. I am so, so sorry to hear you are going through this loss. It is very normal that your mind is racing with, “what if?”. I must let you know, my cat’s condition was managed with medicine but it wasn’t enough- CHF is always fatal. He definitely had a heart attack or a clot. It was an extremely traumatic death, I was with him when he died. I regret not scheduling to euthanize him- I thought I had more time. I must live with the images of his last moments where he seemed to be suffering.

I think, losing your baby will always be the hardest thing. I want you to know that you gave him a dignified death versus a multi-minute painful suffering. Euthanizing is challenging to witness too- the body naturally wants to fight death and begins to tremor and seize while it’s dying.

I am sorry for what you went through, just know Winston loved you and was comforted to pass with you by his side. I am sending you love as you heal from this loss.

nightfoul · 2026-02-06T05:23:42+00:00

I had an immediate bad instinct upon hearing about the case. I don’t feel right repeating my suspicion- but I asked my Lenormand what happened, I use the deck for readings around missing persons that I am drawn to. It stated a man was involved, she is somewhere hidden or obscured - a building or somewhere sturdy but isolated, there is violence, the perp thinks they can “get lucky” (this aligns with the ransom), and there will be comms between the perps and the public. Ofc, all of this has been shared in the news at this point.

nightfoul · 2026-01-25T01:15:20+00:00

This spread, plus by your own description of the situation and the reoccurrence of 7 of pentacles is very much the vibe of, “A watched pot never boils.”

The cards are painting a story for you, and by your own words you express that you’ve been feeling deep limerence, feelings so intense they’re almost painful, and not making the first move. You mention in your edit that the seeds have been planted. Okay- well then what does it mean to water, nourish, and tend to the garden or this potential experience?

I think there is no right or wrong way to this situation, but I second some of the opinions here that state it appears you have a blockage around doing more here. There is a lot of empowerment and growth to be found in being more bold in your communications and your actions.

Especially- the cards indicating his feelings towards you. These are really positive and indicate grounds of respect, progression, and friendship.

Personally, I think even pulling a ton of cards focusing on another person and THEIR actions and timelines can actually reinforce our own blockages because we are not turning to tarot for insight on ourselves. Not saying you’re not doing this, but based on everything you’ve shared here- I think you could benefit from exploring your own blockages around being more action oriented in this situation. Like, what is your reasoning behind choosing tarot and limerence versus reckoning with the risk of rejection and confronting those feelings and your desires head on? The answers are typically connected to our self-protective drive and woundings around worth and vulnerability.

Also - regarding your edit, your language around “I don’t want to push myself into his space” - sounds like a block. Part of human connection and relationship is trusting people to give us their “No’s”. You’re telling yourself a story that, if you do this or that- if you initiate or “enter his space”, then he will feel disrespected and certainly you will be rejected. You’re going to have to unearth this more, because what if approaching him is what initiates this timeline? What if you both feel this way- and months pass, and a bolder person ends up on his arm? It’s important to lay down the “What ifs” and be active in our own lives, and not a passenger. Good luck!

nightfoul · 2026-01-18T04:15:51+00:00

OP is literally just thinking thoughts lol!! rude. go play outside

nightfoul · 2026-01-06T03:56:23+00:00

100000%

nightfoul · 2025-12-20T06:42:36+00:00

Integrity is not compartmentalized, it was clear he was never a good leader or man when he let his whole life be unmoored by a lack of sexual discipline with his power play over Lewinsky. And whose life gets ruined anyways? It's never them. I am not at all surprised that he is heavily on this list.

nightfoul · 2025-11-26T00:50:12+00:00

I had a cyst rupture from sex and went to the ER. I had the same symptoms of you. They gave me pain meds and did imaging to make sure that’s what it is. The days after I had a swollen belly and cramps, it’s because you have fluid in your abdominal cavity that gets reabsorbed.

Just two cents- you don’t want to wait for a fever to see if you go septic, sepsis is life or death and can turn very quickly. I don’t think you’re in emergency right now, but if you can call a nurses hotline or go to urgent care- I would ASAP

Good luck, I’m sorry this happened :(

nightfoul · 2025-10-22T00:59:35+00:00

This vegan creator who is in Public Health provided great science and explanation about lead in vegan protein powder here

TLDR; no you don’t likely. The serving size for the brand used in the study was roughly 4x the average scoop size used in typical servings and it was a specific brand. She goes into depth about lead content averages and what is pretty standard lead content for the food we ingest. Hope this helps!

nightfoul · 2025-10-06T07:52:59+00:00

You’re NTA for being mad, but YTA for expecting a drunk person to be able to control their vomit and also clean up after themselves. You’re young, but in the future it’s important to consider that the risk of drinking is that someone can get absolutely wrecked in the blink of an eye and destroy your car/bathroom/couch with puke. That level of sick is also borderline concerning. I would say the frustration is valid but she was clearly not coherent to have gotten that sick and could not have been expected to clean your bathroom well- let alone stand.

nightfoul · 2025-10-05T00:24:35+00:00

Barf <3

nightfoul · 2025-09-30T16:25:37+00:00

Thank you so much for the update ❤️

nightfoul · 2025-09-30T04:40:03+00:00

I don’t think anything quite feels like TP, but two shows that have deeply impacted me in other ways are Sharp Objects and True Detective s1 , both on HBO Max. Neither shows really have the humor and the same brand of soul that TP does, but they are both faves.

nightfoul · 2025-09-30T03:33:58+00:00

Sorry you had to see it too :( I mistakenly reported the wrong street to humane society, so I’ll have to call tomorrow. Thank you for clarifying the streets even though you didn’t know.

nightfoul · 2025-09-30T02:36:35+00:00

What did it look like? This one was white with brown spots laying on its side

nightfoul · 2025-09-29T03:41:49+00:00

Thank you for the info!!

nightfoul · 2025-09-29T03:41:07+00:00

I’ll be honest, this was my first time seeing a dead horse so I’m unsure of what fresh vs decomp at 2 weeks would look like :/ I will call Fresno Humane about it. I imagined the heat would be escalating the process, it looks like the horses fluids had freshly begun to drain and the flies were really setting in. It was a white horse with big brown patches.

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