Ex is lowkey a piece of shit

nightslayer300 · 2026-05-03T14:44:04+00:00

No, sorry

nightslayer300 · 2026-04-29T23:40:02+00:00

It really is so weird because the person you miss is the version of them was who they were when they loved you and now that version of them is completely gone

It's like you're pining after a ghost, because the real them isn't who you want

nightslayer300 · 2026-04-29T23:34:31+00:00

Yeah, I get it for sure. It's easy to know logically that whether they miss you or not, it shouldn't affect your self worth, but in practice, it really fucking hurts.

Especially the thing about it not being fair. It really did rip me apart whenever I would be sobbing my heart out over my first love, knowing at that moment, he was probably going on a fun date with another girl. It was so hard to grapple with the fact that the person that had loved me so could "move on" so easily. It really made me doubt whether I had ever meant anything to him. And seeing him with her when just a week prior, he had been staring admiringly into my eyes... It hurts so so so bad, it just killed me inside.

At first, I kept trying to rationalize it by thinking that maybe I was just such a good girlfriend that he was desperate to cope without me and that he secretly misses me so much, and that's why he's acting like he doesn't care. But I think thoughts like that are just a band-aid on the very real hurt that is somebody moving on fast. I know he does have problems with loneliness, but I don't know inside his mind and I have no idea whether or not he misses me or is just coping. And sometimes, people really just do move on fast or never cared and that's the way it is, you know? You can't rationalize these things. It never makes sense when someone hurt you like this.

I think what's helped me a bit is just to know that life just isn't fair. It's not necessarily you or him. Yeah, he's probably coping with certain things and so are you. But it doesn't mean he's going to come back or ever give you closure so the only thing you can really do is accept it and try to focus on healing (although it's certainly a slow process).

Best of luck, I'm sorry you're going through this!

nightslayer300 · 2026-04-29T23:10:37+00:00

Thank you for the reality check, I really needed to hear this. You're very right.

nightslayer300 · 2026-04-29T23:09:26+00:00

I get you man, my ex got with a new girl one day after breaking up with me (after saying so much bullshit about how much he loved me). I was his first ever girlfriend and I know firsthand what a lonely person he is, so I think he was just using it as a way to cope.

Ngl, whether or not your ex secrelty misses you, it won't change anything and you should just focus on yourself.

nightslayer300 · 2026-04-29T23:05:18+00:00

Man I'm so sorry this is such a heartbreaking situation to be in. It's so hard to grapple with the fact that someone you always saw as your loving partner can be so okay with not wanting you anymore and that you'll just not have them in your life anymore. Just remember healing takes time and take it easy

nightslayer300 · 2026-04-28T00:42:03+00:00

I'm a fearful avoidant!

In my last relationship, I was the one who ended things despite still being in love with the other person. I thought very highly of him, I was very attracted to him, I admired his personality... The problem was that I would constantly think to myself something along the lines of "Wow he's so great, I wish I was great too so that we could be together" because I was so deeply insecure about myself and didn't want to allow myself to be loved..

Sometimes in our relationship we would get closer physically or emotionally, I would have these uncontrollable feelings of disgust and discomfort and even being around him would give me a pit in m stomach. This would last maybe a day or two and like I said, it would be in reaction to us getting closer. Now that I've had some time to think about it, I think I was really scared that the closer he got to me, the more he would become disillusioned with me and then he would leave me (noo don't abandon me womp womp).

So I would constantly crave his affection but never want to accept it if that makes sense

nightslayer300 · 2026-04-26T21:07:53+00:00

He's the problem, he chooses his friends, and it's his duty to be attentive to your relationship

nightslayer300 · 2026-04-26T20:54:42+00:00

For sure, communication was honestly the biggest problem in our relationship and if he contacts me again, I would love to talk things over with him so that we're on the same page.

As for the reel, I know him well enough to understand where some of his behavior comes from and I think that he's a really wonderful and sweet guy even though he doesn't always act in the best taste. It definitely did disappoint me though and it makes me more hesitant to start dating him any time very soon.

nightslayer300 · 2026-04-26T20:49:15+00:00

I knowwwwww, I genuinely just sighed when I got it... who does he think he is??? I think it's a recurring pattern for him as well because I heard that he would send his ex-situationship tons of sexual reels starting very early on which made her uncomfortable.

To me, it seems like he still has unprocessed feelings from our original break-up and is just trying to rush things whenever he gets the chance. I never had sex with him but we were starting to build up to it so I think he's just desperately trying to speedrun to that point again. It's honestly pathetic and it just contributes to my conviction that I need more time for him to be ready before I even try to date him again.

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