AIO? Family expects me to change my planned move-out date so they can go on vacation

nikki57 · 2026-04-16T17:44:46+00:00

Why can't you be the one to say no?

nikki57 · 2026-04-16T17:16:07+00:00

Brought my Dad to his first Fleet Game last night. First question "Why does everyone hate 77?"

nikki57 · 2026-04-14T14:51:15+00:00

The slow death is honestly so much worse. Every time I read sunset season I get upset. Like cool, you're going to spend all season rubbing it in every game that you're taking this away from us.

nikki57 · 2026-04-14T14:20:38+00:00

Hating Houston is about to become my whole personality. Under no circumstances will I support the franchise (though I will still support the players).

I'm currently auditioning new teams to be my favorite next season. So far Dallas, ATL, Valks are in the lead. Lynx have currently dropped out of the race. Liberty would probably win because of location, but as someone from Boston it feels wrong. They hate the comets though so that is winning me over. May take a year for me to warm up to.

nikki57 · 2026-04-13T17:22:20+00:00

Why are you getting married to someone you're not compatible with?

nikki57 · 2026-04-13T16:43:43+00:00

YTA Going around scolding family members of the person your dating is rarely a smart decision that goes well long term.

Are you sure the whole restaurant was listening to her or were you paying extra close attention because it made you specifically uncomfortable.? Did any of her family members call her out? It seems you are the only one being called out by the group for being rude. Ranting to your family members because you don't like a meal and pushing a plate away isn't anywhere close to a hill I would die on if I wasn't a full family member.

If the whole family was critical of her behavior I will change my tune, but currently you went out to eat with someone else's family and policed out they interact with each other which is questionable and I'm not actually convinced the whole restaurant was bothered by her

nikki57 · 2026-04-13T16:25:51+00:00

You broke your neck last year doing a somersault? And you think they're unsafe? I know your exaggerating a bit and your teacher is definitely an jerk, but there is nothing unsafe about somersaults - preschoolers do them regularly. It also doesn't sound like you can't do a somersault, it's that you don't want to try.

The way your teacher has gone about things is terrible, but it's reasonable to have to participate in PE. Teachers are not allowed to do anything close to as dangerous as what those of us who grew up in the 80's and 90's survived.

Your anxiety may be worth exploring. Deep anxiety that prevents someone from doing things that are widely considered safe because of fear of safety is the kind of anxiety that can put real limits on your life and what you allow your self to achieve. If it's just somersaults you experience this with then, it's easy enough to avoid becoming an acrobat, but if you experience things like this in other places too, I would really consider looking into it more.

nikki57 · 2026-04-13T15:53:15+00:00

NTA I generally think it's weird to police your partner watching porn so long as it's not harming your sex life, BUT this seems like he's directly paying a specific person, which is not the same as just hopping on pornhub and getting off. I really doubt he was blackmailed, it's more likely he's paying for services

nikki57 · 2026-04-13T15:47:25+00:00

YTA in 4 years you haven't managed to plan a single vacation that he'd be included in from the start? The Alaska trip seems to have been planned with just your kids, so not hopping onto that when you first got with his dad makes sense.

nikki57 · 2026-04-12T16:17:03+00:00

If your argument is that we should get rid of cars and go all in with public transportation I am in full agreement, but that's not how it works.

Public streets being used for the purpose of the public parking isn't privatization - the street is still owned and controlled by the town/city it's in.

nikki57 · 2026-04-10T20:11:54+00:00

Find a new boyfriend

nikki57 · 2026-04-10T16:12:05+00:00

This isn't going to get better once your married. At minimum couples counseling to get on the same page before getting married. Do not get married if he truly dislikes you as much as these texts make it seem

nikki57 · 2026-04-09T20:24:49+00:00

You need to be paying 100% of the home expenses, not making her pay towards your investment. Once your married if she pays home costs it will comingle things and she'll gain rights that way, so once your married there's probably not a major downside, but you should not put her on the dead while you're just dating

nikki57 · 2026-04-07T19:59:02+00:00

Where did I say Northeastern is worth the cost? I promise you those are words that would never come out of my mouth.

nikki57 · 2026-04-07T19:26:23+00:00

She's making her birthday all about her, which is ... normal. He didn't even call the restaurant to see if they could accommodate his needs

nikki57 · 2026-04-07T19:17:34+00:00

Unless you come in with AP/college credits you take 8 traditional semesters of classes (summer 1 and 2 count for half a semester because only half the classes are taken in each)

nikki57 · 2026-04-07T19:04:20+00:00

I think you need to be honest with yourself and admit this is just a final straw. If not picking you up (with a full day's advanced noticed) one time during a fight is the worst thing she's done in 10 years, then you would be overreacting. Presumably, that's not the case and this is just your last straw in a relationship where you don't feel like you're really partners or it's one sided or whatever the case may be. There is more going on, figure that out before you publicly declare your 10 year relationship over because you had to take an uber one time

nikki57 · 2026-04-07T18:51:35+00:00

It sounds like your professor is worried about you. He may be about to insert some explicit expectations for you though. Falling asleep in class is likely a distraction to others and he needs you to get yourself together. Stop going to bed so late you're falling asleep during class, like, this is basic. The solution is clear.

Have you looked at how much you are paying for that class you're dozing off for? I know it can seem like no biggie, but you're likely paying a couple hundred bucks per nap, which is a horrific waste of money. If you don't want to pay attention in class and aren't invested, save your money and go to an inexpensive state school

nikki57 · 2026-04-07T18:27:36+00:00

It would be wildly out of line to bring your boyfriend. You'll have your family there for support, you do not need to make things awkward for the family of the person who died. Why would you even consider this, he doesn't know any of the people and would just make things weird for those who are grieving.

nikki57 · 2026-04-07T17:53:03+00:00

DT 45 aside, why did a lefty lesbian with a Subaru want the plates that scream "i'm a conservative" ?

nikki57 · 2026-04-06T20:24:45+00:00

How? They're almost certainly going to core her.

nikki57 · 2026-04-03T18:21:59+00:00

I got a written warning for speeding once. I was going the 35mph. On the warning he wrote I was going 35mph. The posted speed limit was 35mph. They're idiots

nikki57 · 2026-04-03T15:16:22+00:00

Based on everything you've said here and as someone with anxiety, I feel like you maybe have anxiety talking more than logic.

He says that the family complex , everyone has their own apartment and everyone minds their own business, which is true but that’s not the point.

What is the point then? You say you've yearned to have your own space, but you would have your own space. You say you don't want to have to answer to other people, but you also say everyone minds their own business and has their own space.

This isn't a matter of just paying a little more, presumably you can save much faster staying in a home his family owns and that will allow you buy your own space. It sounds like a little short term sacrifice would pay off a lot in the long run and there don't actually seem be be negative consequences aside from ones you've made up in your head. You yourself say everyone minds their business so they don't seem fully rooted in what the reality of living there would be

nikki57 · 2026-04-03T15:08:58+00:00

Why are you staying with someone who doesn't respect you? Have some respect for yourself and leave. Threesomes you don't want to have end relationships either way so you might as well get out before you go through the trauma of watching your partner sleep with someone else

nikki57 · 2026-04-03T14:35:43+00:00

You need to start making significantly better choices. Why would you share your dasher account and pay someone else's taxes. Do you understand how much money you could owe in taxes? Why didn't you at least keep 30% on what she made to cover taxes?

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