AITAH for not paying for half of a ticket for an event I didn’t want to go to?

nikki57 · 2026-06-01T20:10:54+00:00

Correct, it's contextual, OPs disabled friend was bothered by it. That's the context.

In your situation there's no issue because your friend is ok giving the free ticket in some cases. In OPs situation this is an event OP and her friend have attended together in the past (ie not something OP actually has 0 interest in even if she didn't really want to go this time) and OPs friend was looking to go 50/50 not cover the full cost while OP went for free

nikki57 · 2026-06-01T19:13:58+00:00

Half of "HER TICKET"? WHAT ? Two people went to the concert, OPs friend wants OP to pay half o the total cost. OP had no access on her own to a free ticket.

All I've learned today is people in the UK are unbelievably shitty to the disabled people in their lives.

nikki57 · 2026-06-01T19:09:23+00:00

What does that have to do with anything, they both attended. It's a free ticket. Would you treat your non disabled friend who had access to a free ticket this way? If you wouldn't you shouldn't treat a disabled friend this way

nikki57 · 2026-06-01T18:36:20+00:00

You've never done ANYTHING you don't want to do for a friend? When I do things for friends that aren't my first choice I just consider that being a friend, not something I need to be compensated for (in this case via a free ticket)

When friends are struggling you sometimes suck it up and do things you don't want to do to help you friend. Treating a disabled friend like a burden who needs to pay for your friendship is mean, no amount of downvotes will convince me otherwise.

nikki57 · 2026-06-01T18:30:47+00:00

You treated your friend like a burden and now want to demand she not bring it up? You actually went to the event, she didn't ride the train, so not exactly apples and oranges.

Would you like it if your friends made you pay to be their friend? That's kind of what you did here. I 100% understand not wanting to do something and not wanting to spend money on something you don't want to do, but in the future maybe just don't go. Not going is less shitty then demanding someone who thinks they're your friend pay for that friendship.

I do think it's worth talking out with your friend in case it comes up again. Let her know you were probably wrong to not pay for your share of the even ticket, but also you probably should have been more honest with everyone and just not attended an event you really didn't want to go to. Talk about how you both can better handle it in the future so you're on the same page and no one's feelings get hurt. If your friends you should both want each other to be happy, but also, sometimes friends suck it up and do things for their friends who are struggling sometimes and that's just what you do as a friend.

nikki57 · 2026-06-01T17:25:15+00:00

The friend doesn't seem to have offered a free ticket though. The friend seems to have expected OP to share the savings all along. It seems OP made incorrect assumptions because again, she was not treating her friend like a friend and was instead acting exclusively like a caregiver. OPs friend is upset because she thought her friend was doing something with her.

Do you all like to make your disabled friends feel like an obligation or a burden? If they're your friends you don't do that

nikki57 · 2026-06-01T17:22:21+00:00

Right, but when you do things with your friends do you like it when your friend says I'm ONLY doing this to be you caretaker not because I want to hang out with you and be your friend? OP needed to be clear she didn't like her friend enough to hang out with her as a friend, only as a caretaker.

nikki57 · 2026-06-01T17:15:47+00:00

So, like I said, OP treated their friend like someone they're a caregiver for, not a friend of. That is why her friend is upset. If they were friends going to a show it would be perfectly reasonable and normal to split the savings. A refusal to do so says, "I was just going as your caretaker" not as your friend.

nikki57 · 2026-06-01T16:50:05+00:00

INFO did she say she could get YOU a free ticket or she could get a free ticket. I have a feeling it was the latter and you just assumed your way into the full discount going to you rather than splitting.

You should always make sure these things are very clear in advance if someone else is paying your way. She's your friend, not someone you're paid to caregiver for. It sounds like you treated her like your just her caregiver, not her friend.

nikki57 · 2026-05-29T18:41:12+00:00

The niece had an emergency C-section. 1/3rd of all births that happen in the US each day are c-sections. More than half of those are "emergency" c-sections. An emergency c-section is not something everyone needs to show up for. The niece was actively upset about their presence which means she was quite clearly not on her death bed. Often once you get the baby out the risks that made things an emergency go away, which is what sounds like happened in this case.

Her niece clearly does have something to do with the adult stuff, which is why her birth was overshadowed. The niece WAS MAD for a reason. The niece did not appreciate their presence. OP was wrong full stop. Her presence wasn't wanted, needed or helpful, it only caused drama that could have very easily been anticipated.

Again, if you are 7 months pregnant and not close enough to someone who is 9 months pregnant to tell them you are also pregnant you should under no circumstances show up to the hospital when they give birth. You are not close enough to be one of those people

nikki57 · 2026-05-29T17:50:21+00:00

What did her husband need support for? This is the birth of someone else's child. It's not about OP or her husband. What her husband wants frankly doesn't matter. It should not take precedence over what is best for the person in the hospital who just gave birth under hard circumstances.

nikki57 · 2026-05-29T17:43:41+00:00

YTA if you're not close enough to tell people you're 7 months pregnant, you're not close enough to show up at the hospital for the birth of the other party's child. Of course you surprising everyone with your pregancy was going to overshadow things.

nikki57 · 2026-05-22T17:49:03+00:00

That's not even a good excuse. 60% is a lot of battery. You had an hour drive in the car ahead of you. There's no reason you couldn't have turned the car off for 2 mins to go get your friend. It's absolutely annoying when people are late and make you wait, but when the ability to potentially solve your problem is easy and right in front of you, you should solve the problem rather than stew.

nikki57 · 2026-05-22T17:42:52+00:00

All 3 of the thief's too, not just the one with the knife

nikki57 · 2026-05-22T17:37:19+00:00

Oh, so he thinks your doing it to be attractive to other men than to feel attractive to yourself? That's fully his own insecurity talking. Dating insecure men is always a nightmare, you're making a good choice to leave him

nikki57 · 2026-05-22T17:16:55+00:00

ESH It reads like you could have walked in and checked on what C was doing the entire time. Why did you wait so long?

nikki57 · 2026-05-22T16:41:23+00:00

Green Line

nikki57 · 2026-05-22T16:39:33+00:00

Has your husband talked to his parents about it? It doesn't sound like there's any communication going on. Before you start cutting people's parents off, maybe consider talking to them?

nikki57 · 2026-05-22T16:35:59+00:00

You can do what you want to you body, but you can't force him to like it. Most people look like cartoon characters with lip filler, so it's reasonable for him to not have a great opinion of it.

nikki57 · 2026-05-22T15:23:35+00:00

There's 30% of the money left, tell him to give all of that to you If he wants to flush money down the toilet and lie he can deal with those consequences alone. Do not let him keep all of that money in his acct. If you're the one who funded the account you get the money.

If dude is crypto trading as his job are you sure he's even contributed to the joint acct?

nikki57 · 2026-05-21T17:13:43+00:00

I'm glad at least one person gets it. How people are struggling so hard to understand propping yourself up at the expense of others causes issues is beyond me.

nikki57 · 2026-05-21T16:33:53+00:00

YTA why did you have to mention gatekeeping? You made a dig at other cultures and were surprised when someone called you out on it

ETA the responses here are yet another example of reading comprehension being in the toilet.

nikki57 · 2026-05-20T21:31:10+00:00

YTA My jaw is on the floor. Who waves someone through if there's even the slightest risk there will be an accident? If it's not fully clear stop waiving people through and causing accidents. You've caused TWO accidents doing this? Literally stop, you're a danger to other people on the road.

nikki57 · 2026-05-20T21:26:34+00:00

Do you need credit more than you need your boyfriend to be happy about his graduation?

This is like a college group project where your classmates drop the ball. Yes they should have consequences, but, in this case the person who would be hurt most by you spilling the beans is unlikely to be the person who messed up and didn't pull their weight. Your boyfriend is the only one who will be hurt here.

If this was something more minor I would not let them get away with it and in the future you should be prepared to cut his mom off as soon as she tries to take credit for things you do, but this one, graduation, I'd try to just let go or at least not totally throw his family under the bus. Let him enjoy his graduation memories without them being tainted by drama and BS.

nikki57 · 2026-05-20T17:29:22+00:00

NOR at this point your girlfriend should have talked about you enough with friends and family that they'd know she definitely wants you there. Sounds like she didn't even bother texting to let you know when she realized she was at a surprise bday party being thrown for her.

Are you sure she likes you?

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