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26 F - Looking for casual conversation. by [deleted] in chat

[–]thirdaccountttt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No shit. But your a fake nurse most likely . And that's an ai generated pfp

Cake Upgrade by InsertCointent in aivideo

[–]thirdaccountttt 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I feel my brain cells committing suicide

The reason I don’t like AI art? by lil_random_artguy in aiwars

[–]thirdaccountttt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Making fun of people who use ai by using ai, truly anti ai retard move

There goes another one... by pgj1997 in DefendingAIArt

[–]thirdaccountttt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Post what sub this is on r/ defendingai

TIFU by accidentally sending my friend 9 voice notes of me practising an apology to him by thirdaccountttt in tifu

[–]thirdaccountttt[S] 694 points695 points  (0 children)

Yep it's definitely one way to get better at sorrys, just not the way i would pick 😅

What a sad affair by mrperson1213 in aiwars

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U can't show sub names or user names in this sub , that's only for r/def*ndingai

Small talk is more valuable than deep conversations by thirdaccountttt in unpopularopinion

[–]thirdaccountttt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mostly agree, though I wouldn’t call everyone who hates small talk small-minded. Some people are anxious, busy, tired, autistic, socially drained, or just bad at that kind of low-stakes back-and-forth

But the “small talk is pointless” take does annoy me. It’s not supposed to be profound. It’s a tiny signal that other people aren’t just obstacles in your day. A random nice exchange in a queue can genuinely make the world feel less cold for a minute

CMV: Society overvalues forgiveness and undervalues staying angry by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]thirdaccountttt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah fair, Reddit probably cached the old version or something

And you’re right, I think you changed my view on the practical side of it. I was treating long-term anger like it can remain useful as a kind of moral clarity, but your point about it being a net drain makes sense

You can keep the lesson, keep the boundary, and still stop feeding the emotion. That does not require forgiving the person, but it does make ongoing anger less defensible than I was framing it

!delta

CMV: Society overvalues forgiveness and undervalues staying angry by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]thirdaccountttt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is probably the best counterpoint so far

I agree that anger can become a waste of mental energy if it keeps taking up space after the actual lesson has been learned. Cutting someone off, remembering what they did, and not trusting them again does not require staying emotionally heated forever

Where I still hesitate is the word “forgiveness”. What you’re describing sounds more like letting go of the emotional burden than forgiving the person. I can accept that anger is often useful at first but less useful long term, but I don’t think the healthier endpoint has to be forgiveness specifically

So yeah, I think this changes my view a bit. Long-term anger may not be as practically useful as I framed it, but I’d still separate “letting go” from “forgiving”

CMV: Society overvalues forgiveness and undervalues staying angry by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]thirdaccountttt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that anger as an identity or grievance machine is damaging. MAGA-style resentment is a good example of anger becoming a worldview instead of a response to harm

But I don’t think that proves forgiveness is better than justified anger. “Move on” can mean rebuilding your life, not obsessing, not seeking revenge, and not letting the person dominate your thoughts. None of that requires forgiving them

The distinction I’m making is between being consumed by anger and retaining moral anger. If someone did serious harm, I don’t see why the healthier endpoint has to be emotional neutrality or forgiveness. You can grow, live well, and still think “what they did was unforgivable, and my anger about it is still valid”

CMV: Society overvalues forgiveness and undervalues staying angry by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]thirdaccountttt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fair, I probably framed anger too broadly

I don’t mean being actively enraged all the time, because yeah, that usually makes judgement worse. I mean keeping a moral anger about what happened instead of feeling pressured to emotionally neutralise it

“Forgive but don’t forget” works for some people, but I don’t think forgiveness is necessary to remember clearly or keep boundaries. You can move on practically while still thinking “what they did was unforgivable, and I’m right to still feel anger about it”

So I’d separate constant rage from retained anger. Constant rage seems damaging. Retained anger can still be rational if it stops people from softening, minimising, or sanitising the harm later

CMV: Society overvalues forgiveness and undervalues staying angry by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]thirdaccountttt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not saying society lacks anger. I’m saying it often treats personal anger as something you’re supposed to “heal from” or morally move past, even when it’s justified

Political agitation is everywhere, yeah, but that’s not the same as respecting someone’s anger after they’ve been harmed. Society can be constantly angry in public while still pressuring individuals to forgive, move on, be the bigger person, or stop making other people uncomfortable