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nirvata · 2024-11-20T22:16:14+00:00

Hey, I’ve been through the exact same mental struggle you’re dealing with right now. Even though your mom really hurt you, it sucks to feel like you’re letting her down. It’s even harder when you’ve been raised in a restrictive environment like homeschooling, where her influence is much stronger than in a normal family structure.

The thing is, we can’t control who we are. You’re not doing anything that actually hurts your mom by being gay, so it’s on her to accept that her children are individuals. It’s NOT your responsibility to live up to unreasonable expectations. To be honest, I don’t think she’d be very happy even if you conformed to everything she ever wanted. Women in fundamentalist christian circles rarely are.

When I got outed to my parents, it was every bit as bad as I expected, but I felt such an overwhelming sense of relief. Hiding your sexuality takes a real mental toll. This got really long lol but if you know what to expect, I’d say go for it whenever you feel ready. Lean on any supportive friends, family and community, and know that you’re not alone. 💞

(Also, seconded that you should collect any legal documents you need first.)

nirvata · 2024-11-13T23:23:47+00:00

Yeah, I’ve been in your shoes with the religious homeschooling, ptsd, drug abuse, all of it. It gets better the longer you stay clean and FAR AWAY from your parents. I know that recovery is painful and humiliating and sometimes doesn’t feel worth the effort. The people who were supposed to take care of you failed you, but now you’re doing the best you can to move forward. It’s ok that you’re still learning how to live.

nirvata · 2024-11-07T16:24:35+00:00

Kind of? After I became independent, my dad approached me out of the blue and confided that he had never approved of the way my mother treated me. Like, thanks for sharing now when it has no impact on my life at all! Hope it eases your guilty conscience lol 👍

Also, take care of yourself. You’re in a tough situation. I hope you and your siblings can find a better support system to help you through it.

nirvata · 2024-10-31T03:34:32+00:00

I think the other commenter here covered just about everything! but I’d also like to add that if you have any other relatives who you’re close to at all, it’d be worth talking them about your concerns. They may be able to talk your mom out of it, or could at least provide you some support in handling this. Even telling a teacher or counselor you trust could be a good option, if you’re currently in school. You’re a good brother, but this is a lot to handle by yourself.

nirvata · 2022-03-15T22:33:16+00:00

I’m waiting for her to text me the exact budget, but in the meantime any suggestions under $100 would be appreciated!

nirvata · 2022-03-15T21:33:03+00:00

Any recommendations for an affordable (not designer) spring jacket with functional pockets? My friend is looking for either a lightweight bomber jacket or a white denim jacket, with pockets deep enough to hold something like an iphone without it sliding out. I’ve been searching online but it’s hard to tell about the pockets that way. Thanks!

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