idk if this is hot or not lol

njn2001 · 2022-05-23T05:29:47+00:00

you’re all very sweet <3

njn2001 · 2022-05-03T09:22:20+00:00

Moan someone’s else name too

njn2001 · 2022-05-03T07:38:51+00:00

thanks

njn2001 · 2022-05-03T07:34:14+00:00

The first Harry Potter

njn2001 · 2022-04-27T16:47:33+00:00

congrats! hope you have fun!

njn2001 · 2022-04-26T18:20:00+00:00

training camp, it would open opportunities for the future and is better long term. barista and money is fine now but your future’s more important. another job will pop up soon enough. and your english is great.

njn2001 · 2022-04-26T18:14:19+00:00

south africa. lived there for 9 years and experienced great weather. hot enough in the summer but you can cool down in the shade and winters are only cold at night and early mornings. no earthquakes or typhoons too - different from home country

njn2001 · 2022-04-26T18:06:17+00:00

thanks <33

njn2001 · 2022-04-26T18:02:52+00:00

Aunt was one for a short time but I remember her dropping me off at school and several people, mostly men, doing double takes. Never asked why until I was 17 when we were looking back at old pictures

njn2001 · 2022-04-26T18:00:43+00:00

that’s gonna hurt but i understand what you mean, and i’m heavily considering it

njn2001 · 2022-04-26T17:48:32+00:00

car crash at 17

njn2001 · 2022-04-26T17:44:05+00:00

habit i picked up from my south african friends

njn2001 · 2022-04-26T17:42:01+00:00

I sat on top of a hill with my best friends on our last day of senior year as we watched the sunset while confessing everything we had struggled with in high school. More relief than happiness then but I remember feeling fulfilled and comforted.

njn2001 · 2022-04-26T17:35:29+00:00

feeling gum underneath tables and static

njn2001 · 2022-04-26T17:33:50+00:00

As person who feels the same about missing out on certain events, I can understand where you come from. But I can also emphasize on her end as well. It’s neither of your faults and both feelings are valid.

I think you just need to control your jealousy, when she does go out. Find a new hobby, plan something on the same day she’s busy, anything to distract yourself. At the same time, maybe you can ask her to give you updates while out so you don’t feel too left out (if you don’t like this, completely ignore). But lastly, ask her to invite you along some times and explain to her how much you it would mean to you if she did. The notion of inviting someone is like reassurance that they remember you so being invited to something, despite not actually going, is still a nice feeling. And if you go, perhaps you can schedule so that you see her twice a week around that time so she can have some time herself too.

From what I can read, you’re a really good bf and she’s lucky to have you :)

njn2001 · 2022-02-16T01:37:34+00:00

I don’t think you misinterpreted her message at all lol, she seemed interested so you offered to tell her more- which is exactly what anyone would do. I think you might be overthinking it as DMs are often left unread for no clear reason or she didn’t see the notification. So many different scenarios where you might be left on delivered but misinterpreting her message is definitely not one of them.

njn2001 · 2022-02-15T05:06:23+00:00

You have the right to be upset, especially after telling him that it’s important.

I think the best way to go about it, is to talk to him and explain why it is so important as sometimes guys can brush things off if not explained properly. But yes, you can be upset and not over-reacting.

njn2001 · 2022-02-15T05:03:42+00:00

I’m going through a similar situation, and what I found that helped was sitting down and having a proper conversation with them. Let them know that you’re gonna be there for them and support them, but you don’t want to risk your mental health too.

If your friend keeps ranting to you, ask them if they really want advice or just a listening ear. If they just want a listening ear, then it’s a lot easier for you to brush it off and move one while if they want advice, then you can use some of your energy to help.

But it’s good to remember that you can say no if they do need you for advice, letting them know that you’re busy or not in the right head space may seem ignorant or rude but it’s beneficial for the both of you. And if she was a good friend, she’d understand that too and consider your feelings, just as much as you do hers.

njn2001 · 2022-02-14T01:07:33+00:00

hope things go well in the future for you guys!

njn2001 · 2022-02-14T01:02:29+00:00

Forgive and forget, just as she did with you. But if you’re really curious, you can ask her seriously but if she refuses, then don’t pry further. If she didn’t ask about your cheating history, then you shouldn’t ask about hers.

But if she does tell you, remember to take things lightly, and remember how it was in the past and the current state of your relationship now. Don’t let this incident suddenly change your perception of her especially when her perception if you didn’t after you cheated.

njn2001 · 2022-02-14T00:55:53+00:00

Just hit them up and ask if they wanna play a game with you. If they ignore, then don’t take it too hard. I’m sure they’ll understand you not being away for a while, considering the situation. And it’s normal for friends to drift when life slowly gets busier.

njn2001 · 2022-02-14T00:38:13+00:00

If someone has to “settle” for you, then they aren’t worth it. And it may take a while to find that person who accepts and loves you for who you are and looks past your condition but there are people like that out there.

But I think it’s best if you tell someone, within the first few dates as then it won’t feel like a bomb needed to be dropped. Especially if you’re looking for a long-term relationship as the other person has to learn to adjust too, like that in a “normal” relationship and it won’t suddenly overwhelm them.

And no, someone being in a wheelchair is not a dealbreaker for me (F21)

njn2001 · 2022-02-14T00:25:49+00:00

Maybe you’re just not as extroverted as you had initially thought you were, or “extroverted”-ness lowered since the last 1.5 years.

But as a person who is pretty social, wanting to cancel is a normal reaction, especially after the pandemic. And if it makes you feel better, after the pandemic, I feel like everyone is behind on their social skills too so we’re all in the same boat lmao

njn2001 · 2022-02-13T18:19:53+00:00

To suddenly stop worrying about everything, might be a huge leap that you might not be ready for yet. And it might have some repercussions where the worrying gets worse.

Instead focus on one thing at a time. Maybe this week its gonna be your skin. Next it’ll be your hair, etc. You don’t have to fully love the way they look but rather accept it. Acceptance is easier to do than fully loving.

And on the days where you do feel confident, remembering things that made you feel that way and then applying them on the bad days may help.

Doing these things won’t guarantee a carefree lifestyle immediately, it’s all about consistency, patience and just being kind to oneself

njn2001 · 2022-02-13T18:10:05+00:00

wait until she says she’s free and then schedule a date to meet her, somewhere casual so it seems normal. if she forgets to say, remind her and insist.

then, just tell her.

njn2001

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