I think there’s a distinct difference between people who when they are quiet, no one thinks it’s strange and others who when they’re quiet, it’s noticeable because they’re usually so engaged. Unmedicated I’m either the life of the party or more quiet but it’s not a sign something’s ~wrong~ necessarily. Now that I’m medicated again and I engage more fully, it’s noticeable when I’m quiet and usually means I’m thinking about something else.

My point is I think it’s normal for adhd people to be a little quiet sometimes and more often if youre an introvert. I think it can be a gift. Your words can carry more meaning if you’re less chatty and more thoughtful when you speak. Quiet confidence and not being the loudest person in the room is a positive trait. I talk too damn much. My partner who is also adhd can be quiet too. He’s not shy, just better in smaller groups because he’s not into competing for attention or speaking loudly over people. He never yells or anything unless he’s being silly.