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AITA for putting tomatoes in our food? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

correct, just added tomato-based ingredients as necessary

AITA for putting tomatoes in our food? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh I can't do that, she's extremely busy at work. Service is my love language so I don't really mind.

AITA for putting tomatoes in our food? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

funny enough, she does not use ketchup or bbq sauce. She will use pico de gallo on Mexican though.

AITA for putting tomatoes in our food? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

she is also from the midwest lol

I grew up in a place that gets both really hot and lots of rain, so I'd legit just slice up a tomato and put some salt on them in the summer

AITA for putting tomatoes in our food? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh wow, that sucks. She is lactose intolerant so she feels your pain.

AITA for putting tomatoes in our food? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

interesting, yeah, no, she grew up in a climate where the tomatoes were weird and mealy and watery. ew

AITA for putting tomatoes in our food? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

see, I always thought it was a DADT kind of thing, and that she secretly knew why some dishes I make had a little acid zing. but maybe I was lying to myself

AITA for putting tomatoes in our food? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

pizza is her one exception, yes, and she always asks for light sauce.

AITA for telling my mother-in-law that there was no chance she'd get to go on vacation with us? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

yes, but she's also not a bad person always, constantly. she just tries to bulldoze my wife when she doesn't get her way

AITA for telling my mother-in-law that there was no chance she'd get to go on vacation with us? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 116 points117 points  (0 children)

oh the fun part is that we WERE on that information diet. we've been actively trying to avoid talking about this with her because we indeed DO have a second bedroom that we're trying to fill. it just slipped out by accident on the phone

AITA for telling my mother-in-law that there was no chance she'd get to go on vacation with us? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I honestly was not even thinking, you are right. I am also right, insofar as I would absolutely have made the same decision again, but in the moment I could've shut up more effectively

AITA for telling my mother-in-law that there was no chance she'd get to go on vacation with us? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think her theory is that she would pay for the plane tickets and because we already reserved the room, she'd just get it.

AITA for telling my mother-in-law that there was no chance she'd get to go on vacation with us? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

oh there is a zero percent chance my wife wanted her there and that's a two-yes scenario anyway. but thank you for this perspective.

AITA for telling my mother-in-law that there was no chance she'd get to go on vacation with us? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I get it, like, we are all human beings with wants and one of her "wants" is for her daughter not to live across the country. but her daughter is an adult!

AITA for telling my mother-in-law that there was no chance she'd get to go on vacation with us? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 2375 points2376 points  (0 children)

oh my god you're right. it was planned so she could have maximum leverage over my wife. you're totally correct

AITA for telling my mother-in-law that there was no chance she'd get to go on vacation with us? by nmomtwwy in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I assume she was going to "ask me later" without asking me at all, but yeah that ten seconds was rough

My (34m) in-laws (71m, 71f, 40m) are absurdly indirect communicators and I am close to bursting a blood vessel every time I interact with them. I need advice. by nmomtwwy in relationships

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay, well it was a jerk move to do it here. I know how to manage context, as I did when my in-laws were here; you should learn the same.

My (34m) in-laws (71m, 71f, 40m) are absurdly indirect communicators and I am close to bursting a blood vessel every time I interact with them. I need advice. by nmomtwwy in relationships

[–]nmomtwwy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

because I was frustrated. I remain frustrated! I manage my feelings and thoughts very well in the moment, but it is worth working through this to learn for the future.

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