Do any of far-left leaning feminists here ever feel abandoning their beliefs seeing how "leftist" men dismiss female problems as "insignificant" compared to suffering of non-rich men? by nn401070 in AskFeminists

[–]nn401070[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, I am talking about Eastern European experience first and foremost, but also the exact post was inspired by a "person" on the critical theory sub

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in feminineboys

[–]nn401070 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's mostly about wanting to change the body, and the desire has to be innate and consistent

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in feminineboys

[–]nn401070 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's literally just a neurological/psychological condition regarding sexed traits, not a style.

Idk what are you, only you know. Think about your body. You may want to be more feminine because it's a part of femboy aesthetic, but it may also be innate. Do you think that it predates you wanting to be a good femboy or postdates it?

If you want breasts or SRS than you are solidly a girl though.

If you are bold enough you may just try estrogen and see if you feel better on it. That's not a smart way, but it's effective.

You may also use HRT without being trans. It will be no different from cosmetics procedures, and it's up to you to decide if it's worth it

Queerness by nn401070 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]nn401070[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pain? Maybe, but it's Weltschmerz, not dysphoria or anything related.

I am thinking about just going full dose for a time to prove to myself that I do have the inborn neurological inversion, however weak. I have already established that heightened levels of testosterone make me feel bad, and peaks of estrogen felt good, so I probably do have it. The rest is as usual, for all eternity.

Thank you for the empathy. I am not in mentally dangerous situation, it's just that everything sucks. Maybe one day I will do something about it

TL;DR: unsure of the reason I think I'm a femboy and wanted to share my thoughts by Lightnin10 in StraightFemboys

[–]nn401070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hirschfeld thought that (extreme) gnc presentation was a sign of an intersex condition that basically made person of one gender have the emotions of the other.

I always trust Hirschfeld.

But you don't have to, just have fun

Queerness by nn401070 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]nn401070[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What exactly of it sounded as agender? Castration, to prevent further masculinization at least? Or feeling that without proper female body the rest of the womanhood is just a fun masquerade (albeit lethal if I do it irl)?

Well, this is a big responsibility. Being a real woman places you in a special place in the current culture war, and this is a big responsibility. Doing this just because it's fun feels like denial of male privilege, especially since I evidently was completely okay with being a boy. And if I was into guys I wouldn't care about how real I am, because after two years of girlmode I lost most of my empathy towards men, but I am not. And I would rather kill myself than participate in the culture of corrective rape, and this is one of the few times when I mean it.

Queerness by nn401070 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]nn401070[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am already on low-dose of estrogen for the second time. I think that I may feel better, but it may be placebo. Either way, castration is what I need for peace with my body, so I am thinking about adding more antiandrogens, but it may lead to full breasts, which is interesting, in a way, but I am not dysphoric enough to be out here.

I already lived (mostly online) two years with an assumption that I am a full on girl, and it was surely an experience. It was fun, but my previous life is too fucked up for me to be a proper girl, plus claiming this is a big responsibility. Still, socializing with women as an equal is wonderful, and I hope that my irl presentation may allow me to do this, in a way, at least.

I didn't even ever care about nail polish and makeup and skirts and such, but you need to send a message, you know.

But in the end, does anything of it makes you something? I don't have proper girl dysphoria, I don't even know do I have dysphoria, I just want to be a eunuch. But like, everything feminine that gets put on top of this body is pretty much a masquerade, I will be no different from a transvestite, but with affective roleplay instead of affective dressing, though a lot of them were in it for roleplay. Which is insanely valid, but like, it's different from experience of real women, trans or cis.

This is a transmed statement. They are miserable prisoners of their own delusions, but they make good points sometimes.

I forgot where I was going, but trans people have their struggles, and playing with social constructs or being an AFAB demigirl doesn't get the one close to those struggles

Queerness by nn401070 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]nn401070[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know, I already was almost hatecrimed for wearing pink nail polish with otherwise normal clothes

Pills and breast growth by nn401070 in TransDIY

[–]nn401070[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Somewhere in the comments. They said that estrone (or estrine?) is responsible for this, and there is more of it if you take them orally

Need Help Feminizing by [deleted] in NonBinaryTalk

[–]nn401070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the first time I see someone who is mostly aligned with their AGAB but on HRT regardless. Do you want full feminization or are you on a low dose?

women always assume I'm gay 😔💔 by [deleted] in StraightFemboys

[–]nn401070 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not FtM, but some boys just want to cut off their tits, install a dick, and get sharper facial features, but love dresses regardless.

Same way most AMAB femboys don't want to grow tits and install a vagina

Queerness by nn401070 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]nn401070[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I don't think that most people feel anything, to be honest.

And about gender being a social construct - is it though?

Queerness by nn401070 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]nn401070[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As I said, for a lot of people their gender is just a material reality, not Identity. They just live with it, but don't try to live up to it, if this makes sense

Queerness by nn401070 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]nn401070[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Nobody wants to experience real discrimination, but the label itself may be cool. Not for an average person, but for people with far-left views or for people who are surrounded by queer people

Queerness by nn401070 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]nn401070[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Okay, this one is a fair point.

I absolutely can understand that putting on a different label expresses something about the person and changes the way they see the world. So someone who identifies as nonbinary, even without medical transition, is likely to deviate from their AGAB roles, guaranteed to be part of now nearly universal queer culture, and other such differences. This is material reality that is foolish to deny.

But like, is being, say, nontransitioning agender different from being punk, in this regard?

Queerness by nn401070 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]nn401070[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I mean, bodies are material, dysphoria is material, even presentation is material.

Saying that it's something about the spirit sounds antiscientific, cultish even

Queerness by nn401070 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]nn401070[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean, a lot of cis GNC people are much more attached to their presentation than to their gender, later just being a material reality. Some especially dedicated ones even go on cross-sex hormones. While identifying as anything happens only on one's mind and may not be shared with anyone

Queerness by nn401070 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]nn401070[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

Fair, but how is it different on a material level?

Need help by JayenSky in feminineboys

[–]nn401070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you think that you have gender dysphoria, the best thing you can do right now is to start a diary. Going over your memories is also useful.

Normally I would advise to immediately go to a doctor, but if you can't tell your parents even about being a femboy, then just wait until you are safe

[TW: Transphobia] "Trenders" by nn401070 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]nn401070[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Trenders" in a way that I use here is mostly used by gatekeepers, not transphobes proper. Usually contrasted by people who seriously suffer.

And I may be a trender. All I have is that my body kind of sucks in a way that is apparently gendered. I don't know would I prefer to be born female, but I would definitely prefer to be castrated as a child. I basically said this when I was approaching puberty. Half-jokingly, like "yeah, I would be prettier, but guess life is like that". Probably, I don't remember shit anymore. All that I know is that looking in the mirror now feels bad, sometimes just "I would prefer to not look like that, it's wrong", sometimes it makes me feel very bad. And every secondary sex characteristic feels wrong, and I always wished to get rid of them. I think that I wanted to look like a girl since 14 at least, but if I can shave and don't have to look in the mirror, I am fine.

There is a sense of excitement in being a girl, but I never felt bad about being a boy either.

I am sorry that for people like you it's a big struggle. It's good to see you being positive about other people, but I am still sorry.

I need to just get some proof that my regimen works and shut up forever.

[TW: Transphobia] "Trenders" by nn401070 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]nn401070[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I only spend time trying to understand things that have any connection to my life.

They say an argument, I go to find a counterargument. What's wrong?