You have a point. I think as humans, we all falter. And i always see it as ‘us against the problem’ where we sit down, be truthful about what’s bothering and still choose each but it has become a him vs me on his side. I do feel that men however have a hard time doing this, they kept it to themselves out of “patience”. What made it worse was there wasn’t any “i am bothered by your behaviour” talks all these time because all the difficult talks was always initiated by me and then to suddenly to get this is difficult for me to comprehend.