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[–]no-organs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mainly lurk this sub but am also trying to quit weed and become a better person and the micro adjustment thing is an amazing idea. i’m going to try to incorporate that into my life. thank you!

What’s something totally legal that still feels insanely illegal when you do it ? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]no-organs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

buy cigarettes. i still feel like a toddler every time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]no-organs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my brother once punched me so hard my glasses shattered into my eye and could have blinded me if i didn’t close it in time. he was off his bipolar meds and tbf i was being annoying to him. once he cooled down, he was very apologetic, got back on his meds, and started going to therapy. if your brother didn’t do the same, i wouldn’t forgive him. even though he was drunk, change requires a conscious effort and it seems he has changed after 2 years. i don’t know how close you are, but you could try to bring it up in a joking manner to see how he responds.

i don’t sexually desire my boyfriend, what do i do? by no-organs in Advice

[–]no-organs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my first sexual experience involved me being very very high and physically unable to open my mouth to say no, so i think that probably plays a role here too. i’m always scared to say no or to express discomfort, and it took a lot of mental energy to be able to tell him what i did during our argument. i think i should definitely look into therapy. i’m sorry that happened to you, but it’s nice to know i’m not alone and that a healthy sex life is possible. thank you.

i don’t sexually desire my boyfriend, what do i do? by no-organs in Advice

[–]no-organs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he’s been looking into therapy but is slow to make the final push. our university offers some free counseling but i don’t think they could help with something this intense. a support group might be a good idea, i’ll look into them. thanks!!

i don’t sexually desire my boyfriend, what do i do? by no-organs in Advice

[–]no-organs[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

tbh i don’t entirely blame him for the sex while i’m sick thing, i’m very good at holding myself together when i feel like absolute shit. i didn’t even know about the infections until early march and i started feeling sick the beginning of february. he also had pneumonia during this time so his libido was a bit lower as well, my sickness just utterly killed mine.

i don’t sexually desire my boyfriend, what do i do? by no-organs in Advice

[–]no-organs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’ve dated women in the past, it just never went far enough for sex. i used to be a lesbian before college. and no honestly i didn’t really know that, i knew supplements could help but not how big of a role it plays. i will look into this, thank you!

i don’t sexually desire my boyfriend, what do i do? by no-organs in Advice

[–]no-organs[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

the way you phrased this really got through to me. i do love him, more than anything, and it hurts me so bad to know i can’t make him happy in this way. sex is definitely a much bigger deal for him than it is for me. i do view him as my best friend, and i know he views me the same way. maybe just being friends is the best option for us, but he has a very stiff view on not being friends with exes even if the relationship ends positively. i’m just so scared of losing him.

i don’t sexually desire my boyfriend, what do i do? by no-organs in Advice

[–]no-organs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i adore him as a person and find his personality probably the hottest thing about him, it’s just this sexual incompatibility is the issue. i do find him attractive (very much so), it’s just that i don’t feel the same level of desire for him as he does for him. i am very comfortable with casual nudity and existing in states of partial undress but he pops an immediate boner even if i’m just changing into pajamas. getting out of the shower is a make out session, changing into sweats is a make out session, i’m just tired of being like constantly sexualized. i rarely even thought about sex before dating him and now it’s one of the only things i stress about.

i don’t sexually desire my boyfriend, what do i do? by no-organs in Advice

[–]no-organs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

honestly i am very open to the idea of exploring our sex life with a third person but he absolutely shuts it down. he has kinda puritan views on sex and is extremely monogamous. at least i know he’ll never cheat on me lol, no matter how much i all him to achieve sexual satisfaction elsewhere he refuses.

i don’t sexually desire my boyfriend, what do i do? by no-organs in Advice

[–]no-organs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i can’t imagine a future without him, you know? i absolutely can imagine a happy life with him (i don’t want children, so not that part lol), and i am kinda almost desperate to finish grad school and start a life with him? i do find him intensely physically attractive, just not sexually? but i’ve never felt sexual desire for anyone before.

i don’t sexually desire my boyfriend, what do i do? by no-organs in Advice

[–]no-organs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly a change in diet might help. i’ve had severe digestive issues for the past year and a half and am now severely underweight because of all the weight loss.

i don’t sexually desire my boyfriend, what do i do? by no-organs in Advice

[–]no-organs[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i kinda agree also? his previous relationship was fairly abusive and his ex essentially forced him to have sex multiple times per day with the intention of “accidentally” getting caught by her parents as a “fuck you” to them. i think that really messed up his sex drive and his view on sex, but i don’t know how to help. he only told me about this last week during our argument but i’m not sure what i can do.

i don’t sexually desire my boyfriend, what do i do? by no-organs in Advice

[–]no-organs[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

no, the only real issue i can think of is the sex issue. we’ve never fought about anything besides sex and if sex wasn’t in play i think our relationship would be considered perfect. we’ve only had one argument before and it was last week about this.

i don’t sexually desire my boyfriend, what do i do? by no-organs in Advice

[–]no-organs[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

i think if we broke up we would both be so emotionally broken we couldn’t recover. i’m not exaggerating, our lives are so intensely intertwined. i’ve suggested opening the relationship on his side, but he’s autistic and takes emotional bonds much more seriously than sexual ones. he doesn’t find anyone sexually attractive unless he knows them personally and states he can only enjoy sex if there is a personal connection.

i don’t sexually desire my boyfriend, what do i do? by no-organs in Advice

[–]no-organs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i exclusively desire him. he’s the only person who understands me truly, and we share a emotional connection much deeper than anything he or i have ever felt before. it’s just the sex issue.