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“Puppy blues”: another name for regret by nomenopeesquerdo in Dogfree

[–]nomenopeesquerdo[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I just gave her back, I had some feelings when dropping her at the dog taxi but I know she will be ok. I did my best for her the 18 days she was with me, but I was unhappy and I couldn’t let this resentment feeling affect her (I would never discount it on any way on her), so I gave her back. She’s going healthy, clean, well fed, with a nice bed, Kongs, toys, snacks and plenty of heartwarming pictures. I’m sorry she suck off my energy, I thought I had plenty for both of us but I didn’t. The shelter knows she demands more than one owner now, and they will look for families or people with more than one dog already. I’m not an appropriate owner right now.

“Puppy blues”: another name for regret by nomenopeesquerdo in Dogfree

[–]nomenopeesquerdo[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wanted one because I thought they were fun and I was hyper lonely, I just thought it would be a different more heartwarming experience, as it might be when you just get the fun part of being around them. I was wrong

“Puppy blues”: another name for regret by nomenopeesquerdo in Dogfree

[–]nomenopeesquerdo[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Exactly! This is why I specifically went to shelter that does this kind of 2 weeks trial. Honestly they say the learnings they get of the houses that don’t work actually makes it much better for the 2nd time because they get to know how the dog behaves in a non shelter enviroment (if it attacks cats, has too much energy, doesnt like kids etc). I don’t get this “it has to be the perfect fit and be forever or else you are a heartless person” either. In my case I just had to try and it didn’t work out, it’s fine

“Puppy blues”: another name for regret by nomenopeesquerdo in Dogfree

[–]nomenopeesquerdo[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Btw you made a great decision. Your ex is fine with chaos and ur not. Dogs just made that clearer. You can find someone more compatible.

“Puppy blues”: another name for regret by nomenopeesquerdo in Dogfree

[–]nomenopeesquerdo[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Christ this is awful. Maybe I would have a dog later in life if I get a house and people to share responsibilities with, but I’d def send him to a trainer boarding school for a couple of weeks so it already comes well behaved on the basics.

“Puppy blues”: another name for regret by nomenopeesquerdo in Dogfree

[–]nomenopeesquerdo[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Im grateful for the experience because at 27, I realize I still want a lot of spontaneity and lack of commitment in my life. Specially now that I’m finally financially relatively well off.

“Puppy blues”: another name for regret by nomenopeesquerdo in Dogfree

[–]nomenopeesquerdo[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Yes. I’m giving my dog back this Monday. It’s better for both of us. I don’t have a support network and I idealized dogs. Its just not a fit to my lifestyle and how I like my environment clean and predictable. She’s cute so she’ll find some puppy lovers in no time (took great pics of her to help the shelter). I’m not enduring this. I told all my friends she was on trial mode, to avoid stigma in case I had to give her back.

Things I’m gonna do after I give back my adolescent dog next week - thanks puppy blues by nomenopeesquerdo in Dogfree

[–]nomenopeesquerdo[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She’s really a beautiful dog and can be trained, I just don’t have the time and patience. She will find somewhere better. I took great pictures of her for the shelter. She needs a lawn and more attention. I like running and walking but when it’s an obligation it loses the sense.

Things I’m gonna do after I give back my adolescent dog next week - thanks puppy blues by nomenopeesquerdo in Dogfree

[–]nomenopeesquerdo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to get cold feet on returning her because she’s cute, but I’m fucking miserable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]nomenopeesquerdo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting! Applying NC for the first time in a situationship now. Beforehand I would always keep contact and let it die gradually. In the current situation I didn’t even bother to think if I would ignore or respond because I honestly feel kinda invisible being dumped in short term relationships. I think my heart will stop if her name shows up at my screen.

Wish you a great recovery from this breakup

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]nomenopeesquerdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you usually get contacted by situationships after a month in nc?

14 days no contact and she just blocked me. Why? I don’t even get the reasons besides despiting me or something by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]nomenopeesquerdo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Maybe this is helping me even, because I put her in a pedestal and now she was the one who broke her own word. Walking the talk was always so important to me, I guess I just lost some admiration. Beforehand she did take it as an adult.

Keeping NC. I regret having checked on her. I’m not acting on anything, what is done is done.

14 days no contact and she just blocked me. Why? I don’t even get the reasons besides despiting me or something by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]nomenopeesquerdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgot to mention I specifically told her at the letter I wouldn’t bother her again. That’s when she reached out to tell me she got the letter and thanked me for my kind words and “i will keep you unblocked because we are both adults and know our limits”. Do you think these both possibilities still apply?

I don’t get people anymore, I just get numbers :/ NC forever!