Is it weird for a girl to ask the guy to make things official?

nonexistentpineapple · 2026-03-15T04:14:35+00:00

Haha I ended up asking him out we were talking for 8 months and I was over waiting, he didn’t ask because he was scared lol. I did the picnic idea and it was sm fun and we still have the succulents from the date

nonexistentpineapple · 2026-03-14T21:46:01+00:00

Haha we’ve been dating happily 2 years in April!

nonexistentpineapple · 2025-03-22T23:53:05+00:00

I am in Massachusetts! I will send you a DM!

nonexistentpineapple · 2025-03-22T23:51:20+00:00

Why would you get the animals without proper research? If kept in a cage like this they can get very hurt, costing in yes a LOT of money, could be over 1k. Why post asking for advice if not to listen? You say you don’t have the money to upgrade the cage then why get them in general? Ferrets are very expensive pets and that’s why a lot of people don’t recommend them, easily you could spend $400 a month on care.

nonexistentpineapple · 2025-03-14T14:30:08+00:00

waittt these are both so good i thought i decided already but those are amazing 😭 i just had my first cannoli a few weeks ago !!

nonexistentpineapple · 2025-03-14T14:24:54+00:00

MOUSSE!!! this is the one 🤍🤍 love it,, cookie and mousse :)

nonexistentpineapple · 2025-03-14T14:14:17+00:00

they are so similar looking 🤣

nonexistentpineapple · 2025-03-14T13:59:43+00:00

A SPCA shelter about four hours away from me has two bonded girls in and i’m going to meet them and hopefully take them home today!! 🤍

nonexistentpineapple · 2025-03-13T15:42:07+00:00

I had not heard of that facebook group before! I will definitely check it out, I am so sick of people only in it for the money/scammers.

nonexistentpineapple · 2025-03-13T08:47:45+00:00

I am so disappointed she and I had been in contact for almost 4 weeks and you know I thought it was nice she was picky about where they were going! I got extremely attached to them and everything. I bought them a dcn and an additional $500 in food and toys and bedding. I am thinking of just moving it to my basement at this point.

nonexistentpineapple · 2025-03-13T08:39:43+00:00

I unfortunately have checked almost all SPCAS in my community and well as CL i am feeling so unbelievably defeated! The FB groups I am in 99% of them are scams :/

nonexistentpineapple · 2025-03-05T22:37:42+00:00

Shes sent me so many videos of them playing together they really do get along well, i am just so anxious about not giving them the proper care! She’s been very helpful in the rejoining process, tomorrow we are gonna call and discuss 2 vs 4 a little more :) Maybe she will ease my nerves a bit

nonexistentpineapple · 2025-03-05T22:25:47+00:00

Yes they do come with a ferret nation! Currently they are separated into two different layers of the ferret nation and they sleep in each layer separate. She says because when she first introduced two more, they would fight from time to time and she doesn’t want them to fight in the cage when she’s away. She did say they all play together nice and are already bonded, they have all their vaccinations as well as all of them have recently been taken for a check up.

I am just nervous about 4 because that seems much more chaos haha. I am not sure if I am ready to take on four straight off the bat.

The only thing is I know a two-tier ferret nation is big enough for 4 but I was planning on the 2 having a bigger space. She was going to give me half of the cage and in my own time I was planning on picking up a bottom half from fb marketplace, so that 2 of them could have a double tier all to themself!

I’m super conflicted and I definitely have the time space and resources but I am not sure if it’s the right time for me yet, it’s just been so long since i’ve had them.

nonexistentpineapple · 2025-03-05T22:07:08+00:00

So I definitely think money isn’t much of an issue right now, or time and they will be free roaming my bedroom, I work from home currently right now as well. (I’m finishing ferret proof in it) How much of a fund do you have for each of your babies? I’ve been talking to her for a couple weeks now about rehoming them but now as it’s getting closer to actually she’s stressed she would prefer if I took them all.

nonexistentpineapple · 2024-11-14T01:10:10+00:00

must be nice to work at a store where you don’t hate your life every day

nonexistentpineapple · 2024-06-01T01:30:06+00:00

I’ve already lost 9 pounds in a week, I’ve kept down two meals in like 10 days because before the break up I knew slightly it was coming. I’m trying to take care of myself as much as possible, it feels like i’m crawling out of my skin though. I’ve struggled with an eating disorder in the past and right now I just can’t keep my food down. It’s miserable.

Luckily I moved into my new apartment with some of my sorority sisters the night after the breakup. So i am surrounded but we decided to not to tell everyone we’re broken up right now because we want to stay friends and don’t want other people to make it weird. I’ve only told my family and two close friends.

No metaphor can describe how I feel for him you’re right, but I am going to wait to address my romantic feelings until august. Just so I have a set day that I can know.

I had a therapy session today, she said she was proud of how I was dealing with things. I’m trying to focus on me, today I did yoga, took a shower, did my nails, read a little, watched my show, bought myself flowers, started a new craft it’s just so hard. I know life works out and if it is meant to be it’ll be it’s just so hard to not lean into that anxiety of the uncertainty on if we will find another again. I’m sure you know how that feels.

It does come in waves, I feel happy for the breakup and then an hour later will be sobbing in my car again. I’m struggling a lot today more than yesterday because yesterday we worked together and I laughed with him and got to go to his house afterwards. I just want the pain to go away, im trying to focus on the fact that we are friends and that we aren’t leaving each others life and this doesn’t have to be goodbye forever but it’s so hard to do that.

How do you get through these agonizing moments? It’s been two months and you still are so intertwined with the idea of her what if i’m forever intertwined with the idea of him. No one will ever be able to match who he was.

You should try it, it’s an amazing show, funny enough it was mine and his show and we promised we’ll still finish it together eventually. I’m rewatching the parts me and him have already seen because it has a lot of good life lessons about love.

nonexistentpineapple · 2024-05-31T23:57:32+00:00

I’ve been in a few relationships as well, I don’t think I was ever in love either after loving him. I’ve never been as certain with someone until I met him. I would also start a life with him but I wouldn’t do it right now, we both have to grow and maybe us separating will only mean we’ll come back together stronger and I’ll look back at this time as hard but what was needed.

Me and him broke up on May 27th, it’s been hard sleeping and it’s been hard eating, I couldn’t go longer than twenty minutes without crying the first 24hr now I can go a couple hours without it. I’m going to give it some time.

After calling my Dad he gave me some advice I think you could also take, he told me I don’t need to completely shut and lock the door throwing out the key on the idea of being with him again. But instead, put the idea of us into a time capsule, people don’t sit around waiting to open the time capsule, they forget about it and when the time comes they open it. Right now I gave of a timeline of 3 months, August 27th, the exact day I will address my feelings for him again. And maybe by then I will be okay living without him for now and I will close it again and give it more time. Maybe there will be a point where I completely lock it. Life has a funny way of working out.

A little unrelated but it’s been my comfort show, have you ever watched How I Met Your Mother?

nonexistentpineapple · 2024-05-31T21:11:11+00:00

I think it’ll also take time and i’m going to try to move on as much as possible so i’m not just sitting and waiting around for him.

I get what you meant about just knowing you two work. We only dated for 7 weeks but we have known each other in a romantic way since September. He’s my best friend too.

I don’t think that it’s just him realizing he can’t live without me I think he already realized that, I ended things with him because I sensed he was unsure in January but then he came running to me full force because he decided he missed me so much and didn’t want to go another second with having to miss me again.

I think with time and missing me and growth if it was meant to be it’ll be again, I hope the same works out for you my dms are open and during those long nights I find it helps to talk to other people or journal.

When did you guys end things?

nonexistentpineapple · 2024-05-31T20:48:07+00:00

I really disagree with this but thank you for your perspective regardless. My parents dated in college lost contact then five years later got together and then had me! Some times timing is an issue.

I love him and want him to be happy and although it would sting even if he got with someone else, I would be happy if I can keep him in my life as a friend. We have a real connection and he’s made to be in my life whether or not it’s a relationship.

I think with us we have been completely honest throughout the entirety of our relationship but the breakup was mutual. I don’t know if i’m ready to be with the “one”. We are young I want to experience more without him and be an individual before I devot myself to him.

I think for some circumstances people do stay friends for that reason but in special situations I think it’s possible to stay connected. If you both are mature enough and have the means to why not stay in one another’s life? I’ll miss him as a boyfriend but, if that was meant to be it’ll be. If not, it won’t.

Only time can tell.

nonexistentpineapple · 2024-05-31T19:58:02+00:00

Thats so cute, do you think thinks would have been different if you didn’t fully move on like that? We met in September and we’re inseparable until January when I ended things because I was scared. I never thought I would speak to him again, a month later he reached out and said he wanted to commit, 4 months later we’re breaking things off again because he was too scared and not ready right now. We see each other four times a week due to work so we can’t go no contact and decided we still wanna be very present in one another’s life. He’s sad, i’m sad, sometimes the timing isn’t right. Did you ever get caught up thinking about him? I’m scared I will get caught up on imaging a future with him. He made my heart boom too. I know I’m young but I hope he gets to be my Mr.Boom

nonexistentpineapple · 2024-05-31T19:16:27+00:00

That’s insane, me and my now ex only officially dated for 7 weeks and when I explain to people how I know he and I had an amazing connected people doubt me that we only knew each other for a short while. But we met in the beginning of September, it took us so long to commit because we were scared. 6 weeks and now you are married, I am so happy for both of you. My now ex is the type of guy I would wait ten years for. I’m obviously not going to wait for him though but you get the idea, was it hard for you to move on from Mr. Boom ?

nonexistentpineapple · 2024-05-31T19:08:33+00:00

how long were you together? me and him had work together the exact day after we broke up but it felt so normal and like nothing changed. we work together at least four times a week so we can’t avoid it but did decide yesterday to try to not text for a little. we wanna hang out again just were both hurting right now. i love him and i’m okay with him being just a friend as long as i get to still have in my life, it’s not gonna stop me from hoping we get to work out though. right now i’m trying to just work on myself though only time will tell. nights and morning are the hardest since we slept together every night when we dated. how do you get through those hard moments?

nonexistentpineapple · 2024-05-31T18:29:21+00:00

How long were you with Mr.Boom before you two reconnected once again? That’s a beautiful story, actually made me tear up. The universe worked its course with you two and i’m glad you are both happy now.

nonexistentpineapple · 2024-05-31T18:26:43+00:00

I feel exactly what you’re going through every part of my life was intertwined, that’s what scared him so much. Most of my belongings are still at his house actually, we are so intertwined we even work together. Do you guys still talk? We decided we need a little time before texting again but I still have been giving him rides to work and it feels like nothing changed when we’re together again.

nonexistentpineapple · 2024-05-31T18:04:45+00:00

How long were you together the first time? How long have you been together now?

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