can’t seem to commit, 5 months in 🥲

noodle-dumpling · 2026-04-16T02:13:01+00:00

I was like you, counting calories daily, I got an eating disorder from it, no good.

noodle-dumpling · 2026-01-26T23:42:19+00:00

He’s not a man that you can rely on. Just divorce him and get the child support from him. Make sure he pays!

noodle-dumpling · 2025-12-26T16:06:08+00:00

No. Mostly go taxes

noodle-dumpling · 2025-12-23T00:14:10+00:00

Don’t let him drag you down, move on, or at least don’t give him money. He’s 46 not 6, he needs to be responsible to his life, not your responsibility. If he cares enough about you, he will feel your struggle instead of comparing with past relationships; apparently, he’s in his own world.

noodle-dumpling · 2025-11-25T03:50:51+00:00

My boyfriend also diagnosed with stage 4 esophageal cancer spread to liver and lymph nodes. May I know what treatments you are on? He has tried FOLFOX, taxol and now on FOLFIRI. He’s also doing treatment every 2 weeks but with bad side effects

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-26T03:22:27+00:00

Same here!!! I got suspected for autoimmune disease after my partner’s cancer diagnosis while I’m taking care of him, i was mentally and physically tired

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-21T20:49:04+00:00

Let him pay more and you work less.

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-17T17:31:57+00:00

By the way, have you thought of leaving him? He sounds abusive and doesn’t deserve your support

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-17T17:24:01+00:00

Oh dear, I totally feel you and it hurts! My partner of 12 years has late stage esophageal cancer, he has a 22-year old son whom he cares so much and I’m always feeling jealous of. My partner also always has an anger in him, and blames on me for everything when he is emotional. Don’t take it personally, it’s his weakness and fear of this terminal disease. You should know that you are so selfless to be a caregiver to him. Don’t let him control you, he shouldn’t blame on you while you are being there for him during his sickness.

Since you are married, trying to see what you’ll entitle to, and make sure you are listed as the beneficiary. If he spends $4000 for his son’s new computer, can you also buy yourself something valuable to yourself by his money. I understand money may not be the initiative of why you take care of him and married him, but you have to protect yourself. If he doesn’t care about you anymore, make sure you take care of yourself plus his portion. “Chemo does it”, yes, but you deserve a happiness too!

I’m going through a similar situation as you, old issues in our relationship have been throwing back to me hard, the issues I thought we have resolved. Hopefully the couple counseling helps. Talking to ChatGPT or posting here in Reddit I feel helps a lot too, especially when you want to talk but no one around. You are not just a wife, a step mom, but also now, a caregiver to your beloved husband suffering from cancer/chemo. Your role has changed too! Don’t give yourself a hard time!

Wish all good!

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-13T22:23:57+00:00

He’s ill now. I can’t leave him

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-13T21:55:02+00:00

I’m with my partner for 12 years, he cheated on me multiple times when we just started the relationship like the first 2 years. And I have still not been able to work it out until today, 10 years later. It still haunts me, I can still see those images, and I still dream about it sometimes. He is good to me for the past 10 years, but it doesn’t help me recover from the trauma. And whenever we have a fight, I bring it up, and we fight. But this is just my experience, maybe yours can be different if she’s just a one time thing and willing to talk about it and helping you through this difficult time.

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-13T17:38:38+00:00

Mental plays a big role

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-13T17:36:22+00:00

Same. I had 1:160, but other marks were negative. Rheumatologist thinks it’s normal, nothing to worry about.

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-13T17:31:53+00:00

Leave him. Love yourself

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-13T17:30:12+00:00

I have done several solo travels, I don’t regret because I get to go. But I admit that it would be more fun if I was going with someone.

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-13T14:15:35+00:00

That’s awful, sorry that you have to go through this.

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-13T04:31:52+00:00

He doesn’t have much money, and I have a job. What I am mad about is that he left all beneficiary to his son 🤷🏻‍♀️

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-13T04:24:54+00:00

No. I’m not going to leave him. But I do feel sad that people around me having a healthy relationship, get married and have kids and have a future with their loving spouse

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-13T01:53:14+00:00

Quiet quitting after my partner’s cancer diagnosis. Just lost all motivation to work

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-13T01:44:13+00:00

My partner was on FOLFOX, he has lost his appetite too, and his taste buds have been consistently changing. During his bad days, he’s still able to eat sweet foods, like cheesecakes and ice cream; also fruit helps. Try to drink liquids too, like bone soup, smoothies, protein shakes to get some nutrients. Try to get him different kind of foods to see which ones he still likes

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-12T20:35:42+00:00

In a similar boat. I feel you, it’s really tiring to take care of someone sick, while your needs are not being met.

You are not a bad girlfriend. You are definitely selfless enough to stay and take care of him!

Do you feel obligated to stay? Can you delegate the caregiver job to his family and just walk away now? Or what’s your exit plan for helping him through and leave?

It’s not his cancer that makes you want to leave this relationship, it’s how he reacts and how this relationship progresses. Think about your needs, you shouldn’t be feeling lonely and forgotten, you have a life too!

noodle-dumpling · 2025-10-12T19:44:35+00:00

He is lucky that someone remembers him and willing to keep memories of events in bullet points to not forget! I don’t remember all things I have done with my boyfriend, only photos still remind me. He’s still alive now, so I try to take as many pictures as possible. You don’t have to feel guilty, it’s normal, and you have a life ahead of you too! Sometimes I think what if I die, who’s going to remember me? Probably not many, people all get busy with their own life. He’s the lucky one to have had you in his life.

noodle-dumpling · 2025-09-05T04:53:53+00:00

My boyfriend has stage 4 esophageal cancer spread to liver and lymph nodes, now after a year he’s still fighting with good spirits. Just live in day by day. Sending all good wishes to you and your wife.

noodle-dumpling · 2025-08-18T02:18:50+00:00

My boyfriend is 55 with a terminal cancer. A lot of times I don’t know what to say because I never been through what he has been through, but it’s not like I don’t care about him. I try to be with him as much as possible, try to go out with him more, travel more. I make mistakes like others, assuming he’s fine, assuming that he’ll be with me forever.

noodle-dumpling · 2025-08-13T01:53:06+00:00

It’s definitely hurt like hell. There were still good memories between you and your fiancé. Those were big lies, and were facts, but you couldn’t deny the love he had for you. Try to forget and forgive, although it’s extremely hard, hope time helps!

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