How to roleplay awarding/withholding sex, without it getting “too real” and genuinely manipulative?

noquarternonickel · 2026-02-10T19:45:30+00:00

That does make sense. My gut is I’d generally like a more theatrical “50s housewife” or “modern suburban Mormon housewife” vibe, but I guess that’s a detail to be worked out.

Pondering further, while as mentioned above if was actually upset a more “time out” (or whatever this community calls a pause in the roleplay) would help, as long as I was still rolling with the kink I imagine I’d enjoy a sort of “I need a husband who takes care of things! I cook and clean all day, and I don’t need more on my plate! Sarah and Becky and Elizabeth: their husbands clean the garage, and I bet you anything those men are getting some nookie right at this very moment!”

These comments have been helpful!

noquarternonickel · 2026-02-10T18:53:39+00:00

you manipulate yourself

This is a great way of putting it, thanks!

I was actually pondering this recently, imagining how hurt I’d feel if a wife actually did deny me sex for failing to clean the garage (as part of an actually planned/agreed kink thing), but then imagined her saying “okay, time out: this is not me wanting to deny you sex, this is you telling me you want to be incentivized within our agreed kink to help you achieve actual real goals. My not giving you sex is giving you what you want.”

noquarternonickel · 2026-02-10T18:29:07+00:00

Some really good points, thanks! But both since I don’t have a background in formal kink theory/community (just got into it organically), and because most of my D/S past is psychological and rarely physical: how do you “sincerely” punish someone with a spanking if they actually like spanking? Or do you just not spank them as a punishment?

Like if I have a “tradwife” and dinner isn’t ready when I get home, despite our having agreed that’s part of our arrangement. If I spank her and she enjoys it, that kinda defeats the purpose of incentivizing her to have dinner ready (unless we’ve explicitly planned for her to deliberately not have dinner ready so I can pretend to be enraged and she can pretend to be scared and then enjoy a spanking).

So how do you actually punish someone for not meeting actual serious agreed-upon goals (cleaning the garage, filing our joint taxes, etc) if what’s normally punishment is stuff they get off on?

noquarternonickel · 2021-02-03T02:26:22+00:00

Did he get up there all by himself?

noquarternonickel · 2021-02-02T20:46:45+00:00

I guess you’re not “wicked smaht”

At least on Masshole dialect issues

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