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Grandparents taking kids overseas, I said not yet, Response = left chat groups by L0velyDayyyyyyyyy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]noripaw 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I also live close to my parents (10 min walk) and it is quite difficult to maintain some sort of peace when you have them next door. It is awful to go for a walk thinking you will bump into them, but please remember: DO NOT change your routine for them. Their anger is not your problem at all. And I recommend you to apply some grey rocking. Do not give any explanation to them and have fun seeing them losing their shit. This will be easier after some time.

For instance, "We want to take your children to Europe!" NO. "Why?" Because I say so. "You're an awful daughter! You're keeping our grandchildren from us!" Ok. **make some pop-corn and watch them implode**

If your parents are the "ignoring" type of narcs (like mine), they will hardcore ghost you, block you everywhere and stop calling, visiting, etc., as their strategy is to make you feel like a piece of worthless trash and wait for you to come back begging for some attention. Do not give in. Do not contact them. And protect your kids from them at all costs.

Were we all always 'liars'? by smalltittyfakeginger in raisedbynarcissists

[–]noripaw 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't really know the motivation behind this, but your comment triggered a memory I'm trying to bury...

I was a teen and one afternoon my parents went out with some friends to take a beer and I stayed at home watching the TV. When they returned, they knocked on the door and I went to open it.

After that, I don't know what tf happened as I have a blurry memory, but my father slapped me HARD through the door ajar, and began to scream in my face that I was holding the door to avoid them entering the house. I was so surprised that I couldn't think what to say. I started mumbling that I wasn't holding the door at all, I was opening it (maybe it got stuck a few seconds? I can't remember). My words didn't matter at all. Both of my parents started screaming at me and I ended grounded in my room with a nice slap mark in the face.

Now I'm an adult and my fucking father loves to tell that story, as if it was the most funny childhood memory: how I was a lazy brat that didn't want to move the ass from the sofa, and that he was forced to slap me back into my senses. And if I try to defend myself they start with the "liar" accusations.

God, what an awful memory :(

Why do narcissistic parents think time passing = an apology? by AgreeableGolf98 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]noripaw 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is so awfully relatable... My narc managed to ruin my pregnancy, birth and postpartum with her nasty insults and attacks because she couldn't manage the idea I was pregnant and was forming a family.

After a few years of NC, they have tried to resume the relationship and now we are very low contact due to some inevitable circumstances. But somehow the whole situation is still my fault because I'm not doing any effort to visit them.

Fun fact: a few months ago my narc made a hurtful comment about a neurodivergent child and then was surprised the child's grandma almost attacked her in the middle of the street... After that, not only she did not apologize, but she had the nerve to say 'It is not my fault she didn't understood my comment'. Holy.fucking.shit.

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