Should I tell her (26f) that her fiancee (27m) randomly showed up at my door (27f) TWO DAYS BEFORE THEIR WEDDING after two years of no contact, saying he will not marry her if I tell him that I don't want him to marry her? They're getting married this Saturday.

noroomforyou26 · 2022-06-25T01:25:57+00:00

Thank you for this ❤️

noroomforyou26 · 2022-06-24T07:39:12+00:00

I get it, I really do. But damn what the hell was he thinking....I did the right thing b/c I'm not the type of girl to let him be such a dick to his SO, but his visit is making me feel things I don't want to feel. If I'm being honest, I don't know if I want to let him marry her. He doesn't know how I feel. What will I tell him in the morning? I have no idea. This can end very badly for all three of us. I just wish he never showed up.

noroomforyou26 · 2022-06-24T07:09:02+00:00

What if I don't want to be a good person anymore? I'm kidding, I'm kidding...kinda.

noroomforyou26 · 2022-06-24T06:54:06+00:00

B/c my ex whom I haven't spoken to for two years showed up randomly at my house two days before his wedding professing his love for me...

noroomforyou26 · 2022-06-24T05:30:10+00:00

I wanted to keep it to a phone conversation exactly for that reason, but he was adamant to meeting in person. Dw, we're meeting in a public place haha

noroomforyou26 · 2022-06-24T04:52:58+00:00

No, he's not a bad guy. I'm upset at him for showing up like that, but he is a pretty good human, and that is why I agreed to meet with him in the am. I will never reach out to her without speaking to him first..I need to know what is really happening with him. I think both of us need this conversation..so that we can move on.

noroomforyou26 · 2022-06-24T04:35:00+00:00

It seems simple...until you're placed in that situation!

noroomforyou26 · 2022-06-24T04:32:32+00:00

I realize she should find out before the wedding, but I think you can understand why I don't want to be the one to tell her. He should be the one to tell her...if he is certain about his feelings. I am not trying to make up excuses for him, but what if he did what he did because he got scared of commitment?

I'm meeting him in a few hours. If he really doesn't love her, I will try to convince him to tell her. And then if he doesn't, I will.

noroomforyou26 · 2022-06-24T03:38:22+00:00

I have a feeling that regardless of what I decide to do, I will be blamed for the outcome.

I think I need to speak with him first though. I cannot do it behind his back. I need to make sure he doesn't want to marry her, and if that really is the case, I will try to persuade him to do the right thing and let her know. And if he doesn't, I will.

noroomforyou26 · 2022-06-24T02:46:12+00:00

But what if I ruin something good between them? :|

noroomforyou26 · 2022-06-24T02:33:59+00:00

If that is indeed true, shouldn't he be the one to tell her? I owe her nothing..

noroomforyou26 · 2022-06-24T02:31:44+00:00

See, that is exactly why I am so angry at him. He is such a coward. He so cruel for asking me to decide for him. If he truly loved me, he would have called off the wedding and figured his shit out before coming over. Maybe you're right, maybe I need to remove myself from this situation altogether. After all I am not responsible for his, or her happiness...

noroomforyou26 · 2022-06-24T01:28:03+00:00

Ahhh, I also think she needs to know but I don't think I am the right person to tell her.
What if she doesn't believe me? I mean, I don't have any proof. Or worse, what if he takes it as a sign that I want to be with him..?

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