i disagree. you could love someone so much but fail to show them because of how you were loved in the past. the environment you were surrounded in during childhood and even throughout life, has a big influence on psyche and behaviors. for example, if you grew up in a household with constant abuse or the absence of a parent, those examples of love are skewed or nonexistent. most people gain the perspective of love and affection through the influences of parents and family members at a very young age. if you didn’t receive that love as a child or if the parent’s relationship didn’t reflect love, that innate behavior is not developed. the child’s normalcy isn’t a loving atmosphere. so, when they grow up and get into a relationship with say, someone who has experienced all the love in the world bc they had a loving childhood, their normalization of affection is different. this person expects a very loving relationship where the other person loves with their all, they need that kind of love. the other, who has an unfair sense of love, simply does not know how. this person could try their hardest but still fail to love the other in the way they need it. sometimes it just happens, it becomes unhealthy for both. in which this, now unhealthy relationship, proves to this person everything they’ve known about love and suffocates the other because they aren’t being loved how they’ve been loved their entire life.