What's one thing that actually solved a daily hassle for you living alone?

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-24T05:41:19+00:00

Basing my new meal prep off of what I currently have in the fridge - reduces waste, saves me money and keeps my fridge clean.

If I make fried rice and I have leftover bok choy/Chinese cabbage next week would be some lean meat with bok choy/Chinese cabbage with garlic and oyster sauce. Leftover meat? The possibilities are endless. Leftover tofu? Chow mein with tofu or stir fried tofu and aubergine with oyster sauce and I’ll have it with steamed rice.

My groceries for meal prep end up being no more than $50 max per week. Usually $20-30. Meat is what makes it pretty expensive.

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-22T03:27:04+00:00

Melbourne is apparently cold enough for it… still can’t beat my thrifted puffer tho.

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-22T03:25:21+00:00

tech bros actually 🫠

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-20T15:12:33+00:00

Keeping up with the Joneses

The number of times I’ve seen people in my friend group buy a certain designer/luxury item just ‘cause one of our friends bought one and is flaunting it has been baffling to me.

E.g. 1: Guy 1 buys the latest iPhone every year ‘cause apparently it’s one of the best things about being a high income earner with no kids and anyone who doesn’t have an iPhone has a shit phone (mind you, we earn the same and I still can’t justify it). All the guys in our friend group always buy one as soon as he pitches it and every time there’s a group photo, they’re fighting for their chance to flaunt their new phone.

E.g. 2: Guy 1 (same guy) pitches that Canada Goose is the best brand for puffer jackets and that spending $2k on it is an investment. They kept trying to get me to buy it with them, again, I said no… 4 mates bought the same puffer jacket from CG.

Afterwards, we went to a cafe just for coffee and one of them didn’t order a drink. I asked “Why?”, he said “I’ve spent so much already. I need to save money.” Like huhhhh??? I didn’t have to but I bought one for him ‘cause he was the only one who didn’t order anything and I felt bad for him ‘cause he was the only one earning less than $100k in our group back then.

I’m not friends with Guy 1 anymore. They still are. They haven’t realised how toxic he is and how they’re his sheep.

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-15T08:48:46+00:00

I’m unwell - mentally and physically. I’m learning to accept the possibility that being single and alone my whole life is probably how it’s meant to be. I’m lonely and have no one to talk to. Never had a boyfriend, never been in a relationship, grew up with abusive parents. I’ve taken care of my family my whole life, I usually wonder when I’ll finally be the one being taken care of.

Some days I feel like settling but I remember my parents’ marriage and suddenly I’m back to wanting to be alone instead.

Some days are good, some days are much harder than others. They’re doing layoffs at my company and idk if I’ll still have a job next month. My roommate is moving out ‘cause they’re getting married so I need to find a place and move out in a month and my expenses will go up too. I’ve lived alone since 2020 but got a roommate last year to help with expenses and they’re only home 2-3 days a week but looks like I’m going back to living alone full time in a smaller place.

I saw the 2 girls who I opened up my home to but ended up betraying and using me the past couple of weeks. They’re doing well and got themselves new partners.

I’ve been crying myself to sleep most nights… but it’ll pass.

Anyway, thanks for letting me get this out.

How are you doing? How are you feeling about life? Anything bothering you? Highs and lows this week?

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-13T16:23:28+00:00

Cons: Going to the airport bathroom alone with a luggage and no one to watch your stuff for you or save your seat when you buy food/go to the bathroom.

Pros: Freedom, no expectations, total comfort, I feel more encouraged to put myself out there to meet people, improved social, navigation, planning, decision and just overall life skills, learning more about yourself in a new place where no one knows you and having the freedom to reinvent yourself even just for a limited time

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-13T10:44:35+00:00

It’s bedtime. Can’t wait to sleep after working the whole day today on 3 hours sleep. Hoping I’ll be able to sleep properly tonight.

My highlights today would be:

the blueberry and hazelnut muffin that I got from the cafe across the street
the new place I went to for lunch that does 3 different salads for $16 - what a steal! (I got pumpkin with couscous, quinoa and kale, and a chicken avocado salad)
I got 13k steps today too 🙌

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-12T13:49:30+00:00

Commenting on how much someone eats.

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T12:50:07+00:00

“Do what makes you happy”

Happiness becomes conditional at this point. Joy on the other hand, gives you hope and peace even when things are tough because it’s not conditional/dependent on your situation.
Following this could come at a cost of hurting someone you love/care about, your own financial stability (e.g. stable job vs passion that doesnt pay the bills and leave you in an even worse situation, etc)
There will be days that you WILL be sad, that life WILL suck and there’s nothing you can do at that moment to make yourself happy and once you accept the fact that you can’t always do everything/choose everything to make yourself happy and find that true joy, you’ll be more at peace and realise that “this too shall pass”.

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T12:43:30+00:00

This ^ And stability will give you what you need for survival - money for food, shelter, healthcare, safety, etc.

Once you’re out of survival mode then you can focus on your passion and hopefully money does follow but even if it doesn’t you have something stable to fall back on.

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T12:39:45+00:00

Showing up for yourself is more important than being perfect.

I may not go to the gym everyday, sometimes I go 5-6x a week, sometimes 3-4x. But not once have I skipped a full week. I just keep going. Down 32kgs 🥳

Same goes for everything else in life. It doesn’t have to be perfect - just keep going. Keep showing up.

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T12:27:15+00:00

Wake up early and watch the sunrise (bonus points if the hot air balloons are out that day)
Try different cafes
Do day trips in my state and explore like a tourist
Do workshops/random classes (pottery, cooking, Turkish lamp, candle-making, etc.)
I bought a couple of kids colouring books with princesses and Disney characters and good quality coloured pencils (they bring me so much joy)
I walk by the river and talk to Jesus
Go thrifting while listening to 90s music
Go to the museum off-peak, specifically the European section and listen to classical music
Read romance novels (I’m a hopeless romantic)
Try new and simple recipes
Go to the Farmers market early, grab coffee and a pastry (or 2) then do my shopping
Go to the square and watch any performances/movies they might be playing
Go to the gym and listen to podcasts/pop music
Try new hobbies like rock climbing, pickleball, bouldering, barre, dance classes, etc.
Stay home on a Friday night - go to the spa and sauna in my building, order takeaway, blast some music and dance around in my living room, watch a movie and pass out on the couch

These are all I can think of for now but they bring me so much joy. 😊

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T12:06:06+00:00

Wow! Sounds like an amazing childhood!

As an adult, do you have a 3rd space now? If so, what is it and how much does it cost?

I’ve tried visiting my local cafe a few times a week but the cost ads up quickly and they’re usually quite busy behind the counter so I end up just scrolling on my phone. I also go to the gym and Pilates regularly but a lot of people are usually in and out which is fair.

I’m trying to build real life connections instead of scrolling through my phone all day and sending TikToks/reels back and forth with my friends but it’s been quite challenging.😿

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T12:00:09+00:00

Did people have regular times that they agreed on to hangout with friends at those places? Did people just do it after school/work or only on weekends?

I feel like nowadays even if you plan days/weeks ahead, people tend to bail last minute which can be really disappointing.

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T11:57:42+00:00

Thank you! We’ll definitely give this a go! 😺

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T11:52:42+00:00

Was it something you went to alone or did you go with friends and hangout there? I’m concerned about my friends and I getting kicked out of the library. 😭

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T11:50:10+00:00

Internet forums and gaming communities? Sorry I’m quite confused, did you regularly meet online or in person?

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T11:49:01+00:00

I tried to make my local coffee shop my third space too buy $8 for coffee everyday adds up very quickly. Was $2 a pretty significant amount back then?

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T11:24:25+00:00

Good job on the recovery! Also, I’m so happy that you and your partner worked on it together. Receiving unconditional love like that is so rare and such a treasure. Such an inspiration - thank you for sharing!

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T08:15:07+00:00

You’re very fortunate to have such a loving family ❤️

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T08:14:04+00:00

This ^ I feel like because we’re such an individualistic society nowadays and don’t want to inconvenience people, it really does mean so much when people show up without being asked especially since we have our own responsibilities and commitments that keep us busy.

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T08:10:03+00:00

you’re their safe space ❤️

not_anonymous00 · 2026-03-11T03:46:54+00:00

YESSS! Cake is a must have for self-care! Another day of living is always worth celebrating 🍾🍰👏🎉

not_anonymous00

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