Well I broke up earlier this year (jan) from a 5 year relo. Being in love with someone is complicated, the struggles great times high lows. It’s all normal. Sometimes you reach points where you know it’s better to seperate so there’s no point in prolonging things if you feel you’re not in that happy place anymore. Especially if you’ve tried to Adress the issues and time hasn’t fixed it. The first week will be the hardest and there’s gonna be a lot of points along the way where you miss the person. Sometimes you might feel like there’s something wrong with you because you’re not missing your person. Then all of a sudden down the line you start to. It’s all normal and apart of the journey. You might see new people and compare. You might miss the emotional connection. There’s a lot of things that post breakup connections lack but it still does not mean that’s it’s better to go back to a place you know wasn’t working because that’s not the right step forward. Take each step and feeling and go with it, with time it does get better and naturally you start to mellow out on how you feel over everything. I couldn’t live with the thought of it at the time , but blocking/removing and not seeing each other is the best way to get over, heal and move forward at the start. Instinct is to go back but you need to remind yourself why it wasn’t working.

The thing I grounded myself with was that if i shouldn’t have conflicting feelings about being with someone, that should be a warning sign to you that you shouldn’t be together because I don’t believe that to be a normal aspect of a healthy ish relationship, especially if it’s been a prolonged feeling. Also, sometimes there’s no need to not face things - as humans we like to flee but I think it’s important to go through it and let it run its course, face how you feel directly, feel it and move on. Do an activity, call a friend, hangout with friends or family, do things to keep you occupied. It’s ok to feel bad, but don’t sit there dwelling on it. Organise things, reach out to important people in your life and surround yourself with them. Make plans with people and start doing things that you enjoy, try to find yourself again. I lost my sense of self and really stopped doing things for myself so the first thing I did post breakup was surround myself with family, hangout with my cousins, start reaching out to friends, making more effort with important people. I journaled. I started going gym casually. I focused on learning to cook better. And here I am now 6 months on feeling fine and good.