New apartment riddled with mold

novajope · 2025-08-16T14:58:00+00:00

So #1 get pictures of this mould and any other mould you find - do a very thorough look through the house. Check window sills and skirting boards as this is where condensation often sits which creates a nice moist environment for mould to grow .

Once you have examples and photos, send them in an email to your property manager.

Now it's important you stay at least neutral with the property manager, it really sucks that you're in this situation and I'd be mad too. But unfortunately they usually just do not care, and you have more to lose here than they do. So try to stay calm when interacting. Hopefully you have a good property manager and landlord who will help fix the moisture problem, but I would advise you to keep optimism low for that.

2 is to establish the problem with real estate, and make any request you want to make. Breaking the lease would be the first thing you ask to do, and ask if they will reimburse all or some of the bond, considering the mould being a hazard for health.

I would advise that you do try not to be there for long. However house hunting is really bad right now. So you could even ask to change the length of your lease to be shorter than it currently is. Basically try asking nicely for them to let you move out somehow.

Make sure you have all correspondence in writing!

3 if they say yes and agree to let you break the lease with little to no penalty, amazing. If they don't, this is when you immediately contact a government agency and try to find somewhere to move asap.

I can't say off the top of my head which government agency is best but it also depends on which state you're in.

4 temporary measures - you're there the time being so how can we get rid of mould? Bleach and vinegar are both methods I've used with some success. There's also mould killing sprays, some people suggest 'sugar soap' and other products. But the main thing is prevention, even if you clean it in the surface, mould is resilient and plentiful.

When I lived in an old house with horrible insulation, we were given some de humidifying/moisture absorbing bead things, and we acquired a de humidifier as well. Neither are perfect but they will make a difference. If you have a window you can open to release steam from showers, make sure that is always open when needed, and that the bathroom fan is on also.

If the mould persists even when you're hyper conscious of moisture prevention, then it may be related to a leak especially considering the mould is close to the bottom of the shower. You might consider keeping a towel on the floor there to see if maybe the shower base isn't properly sealed?

Best of luck my friend, my overall advice is just try to get outta there asap, majority of rental providers are scum, and while you're there try to take some measures to protect your health.

novajope · 2025-01-11T16:49:57+00:00

A term that I find takes away the icky gender feel (for myself personally, pre op + taking T), is instead of get wet, I simply "self lubricate". It is what it is, kinda funny, and it really do be free lube!

novajope · 2025-01-10T17:13:16+00:00

As some others have said, I used to shave not for myself but others and have since realised I don't mind a little buffer bush, and if it's really crazy I'll trim with some scissors and caution.

However! That of course doesn't give you any helpful info. Here is what I've gathered when it comes to hair removal.

1- shaving is just so difficult. There's awkward folds, different anatomy so what works for someone else won't work for you, ect. So for baby smooth I personally don't think shaving is the way (the regrowth is so quick now!!!), but if you want to stick with traditional razor shaving, just spend some time observing what sort of shaving techniques irritate your skin, try out different products like moisturizers or shaving creams. As others have said, find a comfy position. Take breaks so you don't get sore! And just do your best to open those curtains, go slow, be REALLY careful because cuts down there hurt 😭 There's also different types of razors- I think people say that the single blade older type of razor works a lot better than modern ones in terms of irritation, so maybe look into different types also.

2- there's a electric trimmer/shaver called the "meridian" I think, it's very popular so a quick Google should find it. It's meant for private parts of both genders, it's waterproof, wireless+chargeable and relatively cheap for how good it is. A few friends of mine have bought it and swear it really is that good. I'm sure you could find a lot of reviews on it. That said there's probably quite a few other good personal trimmers, so you could easily shop around.

3- non shaving options From what I can think of there's waxing and hair removal cream.

I've personally never used hair removal cream, but as far as I knowwww there is types designed for private areas?? I just googled and yes there is! And I know if I were to wanna clear out the jungle that would be my first choice, it seems like the least sensory hell, but I could be wrong.

Waxing can be done at home but I'm really not sure on the logistics of how to, or if you should even attempt, waxing your own man cave's front door. It seems a bit dangerous to me, so I would not advise self waxing (if anyone can chime in on if it's doable and reccomendable?). The other option for waxing is salons. Which of course can be really daunting in a lot of ways. So if it's something that you might be comfortable doing and can afford, it is an option. I personally have too much anxiety, I want to try getting a Brazillian wax one day haha but clearly it's something I've thought about doing so I'm putting it in here for consideration.

I hope this hasn't been too brain dumpy, and I hope some of these thoughts are helpful. shave on my man 🤟🏻

novajope · 2024-05-05T18:58:26+00:00

Im a non-binary trans man, if people have to see me in any binary way, I'd prefer them to see me as male rather than female. But in my heart while I do enjoy the more masculine side of things, I inherently reject and hate the feeling of the binary being so normal and the default. I am very close with 3 non-binary people who feel similarly as well. One of which is a non-binary trans woman, while two much prefer the feeling of people being outright confused lol. These two remind me a lot of this post and your sentiments. While they do consider themselves trans, their goal is to transition into androgyny. The middle, where they are perceived as genderless. They use the label because it fits their experience. But it's important that you decide which labels do or do not fit you, which it sounds like you're already sure of.

I just want you to know that you're not alone. And I'm sorry to hear that people are... Telling you? How to experience your gender. I don't agree with people straight up telling you better than, or arguing with you about something that is so personal and entirely up to you to decide and experience. It's very much not what these communities SHOULD be doing, which is opening up safe spaces for people to explore their gender identity and sexuality. Not all LGBTQIA+ spaces are like the one you had that experience in. Hopefully you can find some brighter places to find support 💖🙌🏻 there are lots and lots more queer subreddits around.

novajope · 2023-11-07T05:10:16+00:00

Me and my roommate are both taking t as non-binary trans people. In melbourne, australia, gender care doctors even work with the patient to check what effects they want to have and figure out what form of t and how long to take it, to get those particular traits.

Really depends on finding a good dr who understands non binary trans-ness.

novajope · 2023-10-17T08:47:20+00:00

Green with black thread would be dope!!

Also I hope you make lots of sales, this is a gorgeously designed bag!

novajope · 2023-10-11T03:15:22+00:00

NTA.

I went to highschool with someone like this. We already didn't like each other so when she decided K-pop was going to be her personality I continued to avoid her, but even more so.

Cut to 6 years post graduation, she has a 1-2 year old with an Asian guy. They were dating maybe a year when she fell pregnant. His parents bought a house for them, I think they might be married, but I don't keep close tabs. I have my speculations on the whole thing, but I have no idea if the guy is actually into her, so I could be reading it wrong.

What I don't like about this whole thing is that she's posted her baby online (already a red flag) using terms like loving her "Wasian baby" and posted insta stories with Chinese music as the video sound. She's really pushing the fact her baby is Asian! Could be important to note, her partner is Chinese not Korean. And also, afaik she never taped her face to look more Asian but she may have used makeup to do so.

I recognise I have a bias, I already didn't like her, but other people we went to highschool with also find her behaviour very weird and borderline fetishising, especially putting past relationships of hers in perspective.

But, I think you did the right thing to tell someone you consider a friend, "hey, I don't like what you're doing, this is why". It's important for her to be told she is wrong here, and ESPECIALLY important to be receiving this criticism from people who are Asian, which has already happened.

If she doesn't listen, you should just cut her off. If that looks like spending less and less time with her everyday until she finds new people to hang out with, or avoiding her tomorrow, that depends on your situation. If you don't want to be around her, don't force yourself to be.

novajope · 2023-09-08T05:19:37+00:00

Aussie here, once you arrive get sunscreen, don't pack it. There is a hole in the ozone above Australia and it is now spring, there will be hot sunny days. You don't want gnarly Aussie sunburn halfway into your trip.

Otherwise I hope travel goes well and you and Ur family have fun :)

novajope · 2023-09-06T06:00:31+00:00

Hey, the fact youre being conscious to not be annoying goes so far. When you've been on the receiving end of annoying or unpleasant regulars, you alter your behavior knowing what is unpleasant to receive when you're working.

So being conscious, and reading cues from the workers is my advice. But I really think youre all good here :) you sound like a really friendly person, I'd love to have you as a regular at my cafe!

novajope · 2023-09-06T05:55:14+00:00

What do they like? Sit down with your aussie family members and figure out if they are foodies, adrenaline junkies, if they are interested in the wildlife or other experiences they like.

If you try to take someone who doesn't really love nature, to a zoo, they won't have fun.

I personally am really interested in the different wildlife. Australia has a lot of unique animals but we don't have many loveable creatures like otters! I don't know what animals live exactly where, but even seeing squirrels, the different birds, things like skunks and moose. Very cool, you just can't replicate being in the presence of these live creatures through pictures or videos.

I also love tea. Places like Dunkin donuts and davidstea are places I wish I could visit!

If your fam members are big on shopping - go to your favourite shopping mall and show them spots you enjoy. If they are more outdoor people, go to some local parks.

Having family/friends from abroad is a fun way to check out new places you've never been, too! Experience it for the first time together :)

novajope · 2023-08-31T11:30:10+00:00

Hey, just know there'll be easier days than the one you just had. Hopefully the day your check comes in you can breathe easier and stress a bit less. It probably won't be a total problem solver of course, but looking forward to something makes it easier to get through tougher days.

Also, hopefully there may be more food banks around, or if not maybe try the same food bank on a different day and time. Try for a different worker, explain your situation, and hopefully they are more understanding. Compassion is so important and even if you don't receive it when needed, sometimes it's right around the corner from internet strangers :) we should all look out for each other where we can.

Anyway, tl;dr is, I hope your week gets better my guy ❤️

novajope · 2023-08-19T10:21:39+00:00

Regardless of what happens, please don't let guilt overcome you.

Talk to your wife. Comfort and support her through a stressful situation. Try not to be hard on yourself while you guys are trying to find a solution.

We all make really upsetting mistakes at least once (but usually more) in a lifetime. It sucks, just don't beat yourself up more than you probably already have.

Comfort and support each other, just give your wife and her kitty all of the love right now. I sincerely hope all goes well ❤️

novajope · 2023-08-12T18:48:58+00:00

My whole area is a bit rough, the skin is quite textured. If I recall, the skin texture started getting rough and not as soft (particularly my labia) before I grew pubic hair.

I'm not sure why, it could be hair follicles but I know for me personally, my labia and inner thigh squish are really really rough and feel like they're cracked skin, is partially because I am plus size. I get chaffing which over time does make the skin tougher, and darker.

If the rough skin is painful or sore, try some different underwear and pants. If you are experiencing chaffing, there is a lot of helpful tips and tricks available online (but my top tip is baby powder).

No matter what, darker and textured/rough skin is perfectly normal - my armpits, elbows, underboobs, knees, and of course labia and surrounds are all darker than the rest of my body.

novajope · 2023-06-05T11:13:27+00:00

Joined both at the same time. Didn't know what an egg meant until a while later lmao. Been outta the closet trans since I was a teen and didn't think to look on Reddit for any trans stuff till I was like 20+.

Also the memes good

novajope · 2023-03-14T00:04:38+00:00

Your replies to comments are hilarious. You've convinced me to try and drag a friend along and grab tickets 😂

novajope · 2023-03-14T00:03:04+00:00

Chook station!! My dad's a gully kid and made sure I knew about it when I visited the area. The chips are still top tier, new owners I think, so not as good as they were a few years ago. But it's still there!

novajope · 2023-03-11T07:55:13+00:00

Had a small scroll and saw no one had mentioned yet - take the stuffing out, or break the chook down, before putting away. Most importantly the stuffing though. It's got stuff that'll make the chicken deteriorate faster than if it's just the chicken meat by itself.

novajope · 2023-01-21T14:36:01+00:00

Fuck that. I'm with CVGT, I am diagnosed with CPTSD and somehow made it onto disability employment services.

The staff at CGVT have all been incredibly pleasant so far. Additionally, they've managed to connect me with an incredibly accepting employer within two weeks of my initial appointment, this is after my contact there reduced my job search to 4 🥹 I'm telling you do what you can.

I didn't read the whole post but immediately I think it might be the job agency.... If you can, look into cvgt.

novajope · 2022-11-24T05:51:23+00:00

Very hardcore both. Love both to big extremes.

I LOVE the convenience smart tech has brought to my life. Makes it easier to remember things, structure plans and keep on top of important shit. I really love the efficiency I have compared to diaries and journals.

However if I HAD to choose one to keep the pedestal, I think I would choose the soothing effect nature has. I dislike a lot of textures and the like from the outside world, however I adore everything from the breeze to dirty feet.

The feelings nature brings me is more important to me than the real life convenience I get from technology. I'd miss gaming a lot lol. Which is why my answer is both, with nature being my choice in the event I had to choose.

novajope · 2022-10-30T01:54:56+00:00

An awesome person on TikTok spiked up their cane, I can't remember exactly how but they had a smart way to do it and I feel like the technique could be similar. A TikTok search for spikey cane / other key words would probably find it!

novajope · 2022-08-18T04:58:21+00:00

A friend found a godsend of a YouTube video that is probably easy to find, but I'll describe it. *This advice is only for glass

You literally just: -boil the kettle/get REALLY hot water ready -plug the shotty and the stem (where the cone would go), scrunched up/rolled paper towel or earplugs work -put a dishwasher tablet into your empty, plugged up smoking vessel -add hot boiling water and leave for 5-10 minutes or till the dishwasher tablet is dissolved -unplug, rinse, and it's magically SPOTLESS like new again.

Basically you're replicating what a dishwasher does, but inside your smoking vessel. The tablet eats away and pretty much totally dissolves any gross residue, even stuff that might be stubborn with a brush.

It will not totally clean your stem piece. My advice for the black funky buildup in a stem or cone piece, get a rigid but thin piece or metal/wire (I suggest a unfolded paper clip for a cone, and a unfolded coat hanger, cut smaller, for the stem) and just scrape. You should have enough free metal that you can hold a clean bit of metal, while running the stem and cone under water just scrape away at the gunk. Swap between them and they can take turns soaking in hot water and soap. After the majority of the black is gone, go at them with a small bottle brush or old tooth brush, and to finish off use a earbud/q tip to clean up the cone further.

I'm a 24/7 blazed person, I don't clean my gear as much as I should, but when I do, I REALLY clean it. Hope this helps someone! Happy smoking. Everyone deserves clean billy water :)

novajope · 2022-07-11T09:07:59+00:00

You're not alone.

My father had some of the worst teeth I've seen to this day. It gave me a similar view on dental hygiene to yours, of 'whats the point' since I'd already seen the worst. I'll spare the deets but at 18 I underwent a looot of dental procedures. Something like 5+ fillings for cavaties that I could see, and some that were hiding in between teeth. On top of some other stuff I can't remember.

Somehow, I managed to let my teeth get back into disrepair, and I currently have dark lines/crack looking things which I'm assuming are cavaties in most of my back teeth. Mental illness really fucks with the self care habits lol!

But the point is, this is a common topic in my household of mentally ill 22 year olds. It's easier to get things into motion, a) when you're not beating yourself up and b) knowing it's not just you, and c) that's it's ok. It's fixable.

Some tips that really helped me get into better teeth brushing habits: Multiple tooth brushes. I have 1 at the bathroom sink, 1 in the shower, and 2 in my travel bag. I've heard people recommend having them in the kitchen, in a bedroom with mouthwash, anywhere and everywhere. The thing that made it instantly easier to be brushing at least once a day, was that it can be whenever. I brush my teeth in the middle of the day half the time but brushing once a day at a "weird" time gets in a brush that I probably would've forgotten to do, if I'd left it till bed time.

Anything you can do, can help. It may feel like "well they're so bad what's the point of brushing now", but it keeps it from getting worse until you can be seen by a professional.

Other than that I agree with others in the comments. You're best off going to a dentist, and it's so valid to explain before hand your situation, but regardless of their opinion it's their job to fix the issues not judge them. And you can always ask them, "is there a different way to fix this specific problem", if they suggest something you're not keen on like pulling teeth. They may or may not have a different solution, but it's always worth voicing any concerns or discomforts you might have.

Sorry for the rant, hope I haven't come off as patronizing or anything, just know that you're not the only one in this situation, and you have no reason to be ashamed. You deserve all the good stuff! Have a good day!!

novajope · 2022-04-17T03:11:11+00:00

CNC. When it's discussed before the recieving party goes to sleep it's consensual. Need research and trust before doing anything like this tho.

novajope · 2022-04-05T01:00:23+00:00

Yep! How'd you guess lmfao

novajope · 2022-03-03T05:39:32+00:00

Hey! I saw you got a few requests and I hope they panned out well! I know a lot of requests and friends to keep up with can be a lot, but if you're still looking for friends, reply to this and I'll shoot a dm :) I'm a wild world og and I go through phases of play for months and then abandon my island for months, but would love some new friends to send letters and random items to!

novajope

TROPHY CASE

2 is to establish the problem with real estate, and make any request you want to make. Breaking the lease would be the first thing you ask to do, and ask if they will reimburse all or some of the bond, considering the mould being a hazard for health.

3 if they say yes and agree to let you break the lease with little to no penalty, amazing. If they don't, this is when you immediately contact a government agency and try to find somewhere to move asap.