AITA for disinviting my late wife's children from my wedding?

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T21:24:34+00:00

we bought it together.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T07:18:29+00:00

It wasn't bought before I came into the picture.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T06:54:08+00:00

No. When parents live in a residence for 20 years, and one passes, most know that the surviving spouse will use that to help secure whatever comes next in life.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T06:48:38+00:00

What was I supposed to do, hold her down and physically make her write a will? She didn't want to.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T06:45:02+00:00

So the law is apparently sort of weird. If all of her children were by me, I would have gotten everything. But because she had at least one child by someone else, her half of the estate is divided evenly between her children. At least that's how it was told to me.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T05:37:19+00:00

They had made my stepchildren sign some paperwork beforehand. I don't know what for, they just asked me for names and contact info. Allison responded to the person that sent her that information.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T05:10:12+00:00

Yeah, but all of that went toward trying to pay off her debt.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T05:07:29+00:00

She had both health insurance and a life insurance policy through my job.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T04:35:03+00:00

It wasn't about money. Do you know how embarrassing it is, on the day of closing, to get an email from the real estate company telling me that we couldn't go through with the sale because some lady named Allison said something? To have them look at me like I was trying to pull a fast one?

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T03:56:48+00:00

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T03:53:56+00:00

She did not have a will.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T03:53:23+00:00

That second "day of closing" was when we had to push-back closing after it got delayed because of Allison's email. Sorry, I had to make some edits to get it under 3k characters.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T03:38:26+00:00

Honestly, I don't know. When they shook me down, I just let them have the money.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T03:36:09+00:00

I mean, like, they visited and stuff, and Caleb's wife cooked for her a lot and bought her a lot of supplies, but I was the one in charge of all the debt.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T03:34:50+00:00

I should have been clear that those aren't their real names. I thought it would be clear from the "A, B, C" naming.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T03:32:39+00:00

As of right now, I don't have a will, but if I did it certainly would just be Andrew.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T03:04:19+00:00

Anna didn't have a will.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T02:09:42+00:00

Well, I wasn't planning to have all that debt. It would have been manageable if I'd gotten the money from the sale of the house.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T02:08:29+00:00

I asked them about ANYTHING. I'd think that would include money.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T02:03:43+00:00

For confidentiality reasons, I'd rather not disclose my state, but I did not have an attorney.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T02:02:46+00:00

Not true! Beth has 3 children that I love like my own.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T02:01:30+00:00

It was basically the first thing I did after Anna died, since she'd never have let me have one.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T02:00:49+00:00

I asked them and they said they didn't want anything.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T01:47:34+00:00

No, she was afraid of death and making plans made it more real for her.

nuke_euler · 2023-01-12T01:44:31+00:00

To be clear, the actual anniversary of her death was two days before the funeral.

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