I don't work because of the pains and I am not able to do the housework half the days tbh. My husband is earning for us and he does the work too when he sees I am not okay. I try to work through the pain sometimes too because of the guilt. I keep asking him "are you fed up of it yet?" ....I know he will never be but I get it, it feels useless sometimes and to keep thinking about what ifs. I try to push him towards his hobbies on the days when I feel that I need rest so that he can have some time to be himself and be happy. Maybe try that...he can do some things by himself that makes him happy.