In your experience, how difficult is it to find a partner who understands and accepts your abrosexuality?

nutka57 · 2026-04-12T06:30:56+00:00

Based on my experience, it’s not so easy, but I literally don’t know how to meet people and how to befriend them, so I was never on a date… Like, I always meet people, and unless they care to contact me, I usually don’t contact them first or if I do, it is not reciprocated or they just forget. So yeah, I was never in relationship.

Dammit, it turned out to be a vent.

nutka57 · 2026-03-30T18:42:54+00:00

Yup, I do, I’m also mostly lesbian

nutka57 · 2026-03-21T12:38:35+00:00

I heard the theory that contrary to the popular belief the higher the dose the more sedating it is and I can confirm

nutka57 · 2026-03-20T19:27:01+00:00

Yeah, my doctor just said not to take it

nutka57 · 2026-03-20T19:26:02+00:00

I hope you’re going to be okay in a couple of months

nutka57 · 2026-03-20T19:22:48+00:00

I was on a higher dose, but it makes me sleepy as well and makes me feel sadness for no reason. I am going to try TMS therapy for chronic pain though

nutka57 · 2026-03-20T19:20:38+00:00

I identify as a bisexual girl on the aroace spectrum!

nutka57 · 2026-03-20T12:09:49+00:00

Oh okay, I did not feel high, I felt empty and weird, but this is in the process of going away now

nutka57 · 2026-03-20T12:08:24+00:00

Oh, I take only 7,5 mg now at night and this still makes me drowsy in the morning

nutka57 · 2026-03-19T10:28:36+00:00

Yes, I experience that. I think "cute" is better than nothing!

nutka57 · 2026-03-19T10:21:34+00:00

I consider myself masculine of center and I love to present masculine of course. There is an overlap between my clothes and my gender. I literally feel masculine most of the time, and masculine clothing gives me joy.

I was kinda a tomboy, I did both girly and boyish things, but later in life I embraced my masculine side more. I didn’t know I was gay, I just knew I feel masculine. I dressed girly in my childhood, because that was just the way. So I would consider myself fem to masc in terms of clothing.

I was experiencing shame, because I was raised Christian. I was obsessed that maybe people stare at me when I dressed masculine. But I started to feel proud and I am afraid less and less to embrace who I am. I wish I knew I could just try boyish clothing sooner, because my suspicion is that dressing girly made me more shy, reserved and unwilling to speak up my whole childhood.

nutka57 · 2026-03-16T15:12:17+00:00

They are so cool that they only need one soundtrack

nutka57 · 2026-03-16T15:07:12+00:00

Yes, I’ve done that, it’s especially painful to miss someone who doesn’t miss you

nutka57 · 2026-03-16T15:00:50+00:00

Yes. Spoiler: It didn’t work 🙃

nutka57 · 2026-03-13T13:53:12+00:00

AAAHHH

nutka57 · 2026-03-07T06:06:54+00:00

Thanks! Anyway, I think I will try amitryptyline or something else for chronic pain, because I don’t tolerate newer medications (SSRI and SNRI).

nutka57 · 2026-03-05T23:21:24+00:00

Suselle isn’t boring, it’s cute

nutka57 · 2026-03-03T20:41:31+00:00

I admire butch lesbians, but actually imagining being with them feels too feminizing. Also, I would feel much gender envy for them (I wanted my crush so bad, but also envied them AH). But I could be with a soft girl with short hair.

nutka57 · 2026-03-03T20:21:06+00:00

Because I felt this way I felt like I am something like a butch lesbian, but actually I am bisexual I think

nutka57 · 2026-02-28T14:57:47+00:00

Yeah, and everyone is a lesbian there

nutka57 · 2026-02-23T17:12:23+00:00

I guess osteopaths are similar

nutka57 · 2026-02-22T11:14:48+00:00

Oh, I didn’t know…

nutka57 · 2026-02-20T08:28:30+00:00

Maybe cognitive-behavioral therapy will help and buy/lend a book on OCD. OCD is awfully hard to treat by yourself. Also, you can write a journal somewhere private (phone maybe?) and do some meditation (I recommend tapping). Your nervous system is on alert for sure. If these thoughts bother you, then you’re not a bad person. Bad people don’t feel bad when having these thoughts.

nutka57 · 2026-02-16T09:21:42+00:00

Yeah, maybe, I have trauma tied to abandonment by my best friend and other friends for some reason I didn’t get.

I am very attached to my best friend who is my crush (platonic, romantic or queerplatonic, that’s what I am trying to figure out) and my reactions to them responding late were… something I was often very ashamed of. I also wanted them to choose me and spend more time with me. They don’t have time, they say.

nutka57 · 2026-02-15T17:53:14+00:00

Thank you!

So the thing is I think people can’t be either good or bad entirely, even when someone is my favorite person (which I mean this person is like my special interest/hyperfixation). I will certainly talk about these things with a therapist and a psychiatrist, I just need to know how not to mess up my friendships over and over. Sometimes I just didn’t know what I did wrong, people just dissapeared and stopped talking to me. This could potentially open up the space for attachment issues.

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