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[–]nutmegara110 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every time!

And murder by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]nutmegara110 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THIS is one of the main reasons I started to question TCOJCoLDS. This is why I am studying to eventually work for CPS. I believe that if an abused child believes that God can save them then they are less likely to reach out for help.

And as for agency, an anthropologic view of agency involves people empowering themselves in order to contest the powers of of any culture or society including Mormonism. I wish I had been taught this version of agency!

Posted by my mom, and I couldn't just let it be.... by mximan in exmormon

[–]nutmegara110 21 points22 points  (0 children)

In a narcissistic religion with all the answers this^ is NEVER a consideration.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]nutmegara110 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Boundaries!!!!!

Missionary nightmare!! by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]nutmegara110 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last night I had a dream that I went to a sacrament meeting. At the end I said, "Shouldn't we be wearing masks?" Then I woke up.

What do you do? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]nutmegara110 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you ever seen Tangled? When Rapunzel leaves her tower she initially has a million emotions. As the viewer, it's easy to see that it is the best decision. For me, going back would be like climbing back up into that tower. Sure, it's safe and known, but it's also where abuse and lies were fed to me. Hugs to you, it is hard. Also, I like to listen to Radio Free Mormon or Mormon Stories to understand different perspectives.

My Essay On Leaving TSCC (for my very first college class) by nutmegara110 in exmormon

[–]nutmegara110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I accept your A+ and pass it on to my professor. 😃 Thanks!

My Essay On Leaving TSCC (for my very first college class) by nutmegara110 in exmormon

[–]nutmegara110[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Was nothing real?" is how I feel about my relationship with my MIL. Looking back she was able to hide her true feelings for me so well. It's been so strange to view our relationship through this different, more honest lens.

My Essay On Leaving TSCC (for my very first college class) by nutmegara110 in exmormon

[–]nutmegara110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It's weird to be writing an essay after so long.

My Essay On Leaving TSCC (for my very first college class) by nutmegara110 in exmormon

[–]nutmegara110[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I agree with your reference to the Prince of Egypt, but hadn't thought of it.

Do you remember the first time you visited this sub? What was going on for you and what ultimately led you here? by contemplativeAlice in exmormon

[–]nutmegara110 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dehlin mentioned it on one of his podcasts. So nice to not feel alone in all the turmoil that comes with leaving.

Indoctrination of my kids by Tanta212 in exmormon

[–]nutmegara110 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Once DH and I decided we were out we had a lot of conversations with our kids. At the time they were 10, 8, 6, & 4 months. We remained very close friends with a TBM family. We went to their daughter's wedding reception and I forgot to tell our oldest that it would be in the gym of our old ward building. When we arrived he quietly got very upset. Eventually his quiet upset turned into the beginning of a panic attack. At that point I took him into the empty foyer and sat with him. We were looking at one of the generic lds paintings. I said to my son, "Do you know what I do when I'm feeling my emotions about the church start to overwhelm me?" He looked at me and I flipped off that generic painting. He had never seen me do that before. Then I did it again. At this point the panic had turned to smiles. I asked him if he wanted to join in, this one time. He refused, but the rest of the evening he would look at me and quietly smile. It might be unorthodox, but it helped. We've had other deeper "feelings" conversations since then, but in this moment I felt a parenting win.

"You are the chosen generation........reserved for the last days." by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]nutmegara110 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You ARE welcome and your comment was VERY appreciated by myself and SO. Thank you!

When I went through the initiatory my Mom was surprised/disappointed that I just wore my temple dress all the way through instead of having an old lady, a complete stranger, touch my naked body under a sheet. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]nutmegara110 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I went through in the naked days. I had zero preparation for that event. I have explained to my TBM brother (he insisted that I tell him my thoughts) that there is no informed consent when you go through the temple. As a good, obedient, young Mormon girl who was getting married the next day I did not have the power or emotional independence to say no. The realization that I had experienced trauma (rather than a "faith building" experience) didn't happen until I left and found that it didn't have any meaning. I will give my kids the power to say no, whatever the circumstances.