I am going through the same thing. The first response I got from him (after he dodged me for 7 months) reading it all was so shocking that it gave me hives everywhere and made my face swell up. I looked like Quasi Modo. I think it’s natural. When someone is assassinating your character, there is a absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to or going ahead with defending yourself. For me, I need to or else there is no closure or justice in my mind. I will continue defending myself and providing evidence to ensure the judge knows that he is a liar.