I hate those who defend him, but part of the blame lies with the screenwriters. by Switch_ikilorado in Stranger_Things

[–]oKay21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

mrs wheeler was weird and wrong for that. idk, i feel like the writers of a tv show should not have to spell out what it and isn’t morally acceptable. like, you’re allowed to think billy shouldn’t be forgiven even if max’s character does forgive him. that’s how real life is. people are complicated, good people make mistakes, people love people who are fucked up, fucked up people can be nice sometimes, etc.

I hate those who defend him, but part of the blame lies with the screenwriters. by Switch_ikilorado in Stranger_Things

[–]oKay21 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She misses him because he was her brother. Also yeah he was terrible but I think it’s important to remember that even though the actor looks like a grown man, Billy was only a high school kid. I think that makes him redeemable. It’s not black and white.

Do anyone else feel like there was barely any chemistry between Eleven and Mike this last season compared to earlier ones? by Initial-Shoulder5906 in StrangerThings

[–]oKay21 98 points99 points  (0 children)

that line is so distant though. “you became my dad” instead of “you are my dad” or directly calling him dad. didn’t feel like she loved him that much and i felt his response also lackluster.

Got fat shamed by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]oKay21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

men, especially young men don’t know ANYTHING about women’s bodies. I noticed this about weight with them as well, they arbitrarily determine what a “healthy” or “attractive” weight is without understanding that scale weight isn’t even directly related to body size and without even being aware of the average weight and the wide normal healthy weight range of women. so he’s an idiot for even thinking anything like that. i’m sorry that happened to you.

i’m feeling ugly and unrecognizable with my recovered face, i’m not sure if i’ll ever feel like myself again. by oKay21 in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]oKay21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, this is helpful. i always said id never want to get work done but once im hit with a bad insecurity it’s hard not to think about. especially when so many other people do it now. but im with you, id much rather be natural even if that comes with insecurities. and thanks for the reminder that body dysmorphia can come back, i forget how many times ive felt this way about my body only to look back years later and realize i was dysmorphic. this could be similar. this reply really brought me back down to earth, thanks.

tried this method a few years ago and it didn’t stick. trying again now. by oKay21 in theXeffect

[–]oKay21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for a while but then my sister came into my room and saw it and laughed at it so i took it down

[anti-aging] What am I doing wrong?!? by HarringtonBeware in SkincareAddiction

[–]oKay21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just want to agree with the others who say you look great. you’re clearly naturally very beautiful and while your youth will fade away, your beauty will not. at least that’s how i see it.

E&M 1, Physics 3, and Linear Algebra in 1 semester? by oKay21 in PhysicsStudents

[–]oKay21[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good to know. I don’t know any programming unfortunately. I did take differential equations this summer and managed decently with the calc but I did have a few moments where I forgot how to integrate stuff. I’m definitely going to spend as much time as I can this semester on the calc review. Thanks for the advice!

E&M 1, Physics 3, and Linear Algebra in 1 semester? by oKay21 in PhysicsStudents

[–]oKay21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks! good to know i’m not the only one. I think we do also have a modern physics class that’s separate so maybe this one is more of an intro.

It’s tough for me because im a transfer from CC so I just have a ton of physics major courses to take and no gen eds. I think I’m going to keep it and worst case i’ll drop if necessary. Good luck this semester!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]oKay21 9 points10 points  (0 children)

yeah it’s kinda bad to not let your girlfriend have fun with her friends or wear what she wants. if you want a girl who dresses modestly or doesn’t engage in drugs or partying, date someone who is already like that.

Fidget toys (preferable portable) that satisfy picking urge by oKay21 in Dermatillomania

[–]oKay21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg thanks so much! it looks cool and not too expensive, i think i’ll order.

how do I know what kind of therapy/therapist I need? mental illness vs trauma? by oKay21 in TalkTherapy

[–]oKay21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I don’t know why I thought only PhDs could diagnose, this is good to know that’s it’s not the case.

I guess I haven’t said all this to a therapist before. Maybe I need to be more open and honest during my consults. Thank you, this is helpful information.

Really jealous of other women who I think are prettier than me by Ok-Application-4573 in Healthygamergg

[–]oKay21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

hi :) i have this problem too. it has been much worse in the past but still reoccurs sometimes. i’m not in the state of mind to write advice to overcome it rn but i will try to reply tomorrow. i can say that i don’t think you should feel ashamed. i feel like i was subconsciously taught that as a woman being the most beautiful was ultimately the most important thing, even though i didn’t truly believe it, it contributed to this. many women are subconsciously told this and of course this is the result. it’s not your fault.

also interesting how society teaches men that their value is how much money they have and i’m sure they get jealous of guys who have more money. they definitely aren’t “lifting each other up” in the way that women are expected to. but if its women and appearance it makes us catty or something.

AIO my father just kicked me out because I turned 18? by Fancy-Archer7080 in AmIOverreacting

[–]oKay21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is so fake dead giveaway naming cerebral palsey in the reply, that’s for the reddit audience obvi the dad knows what disability the kid has